Recovery unlikely

My doctor feels that recovery is unlikely for me. So, I throw up my hands and say to hell with it all.

Has anyone followed the case about the lady who the parents are fighting to keep alive? She had an ED: her heart stopped long enough from a potassium drop and now she is in a coma.

I had to read this over and over again. How sad for her isn't it. They suggested in this article to draw up some kind of will if you have an illness. I made a call to inquire about this as they had a number to call in our city: I have a plan to take care of things in case something like this happens.

In all honesty, I am doing crappy. I am attending my t twice a week, its going slow but has been helpful to let some of this out. I really like him, someone I have come to trust very much.

I am hand in hand with my doctors opinion at this point. I don't think there is a chance of recovery.

Justy

Have you looked into intensive outpatient or even inpatient treatment, Justy? It may be that something much more structured could help you more. Also, it might be worth going IP at one of the ED programs, because their structure is such that you can make much more rapid progress than any amount of OP work.

I'm sorry that your doctor said such a thing to you, and even sorrier that you believe it. You have a choice in this, you know, and can choose to prove that fellow wrong. I hope you do.

Good luck.

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I've been following that story, too. And I wish I were her. I should probably just shut up but it's just that I came here to post my own "Recovery Unlikely" and read yours and wished to hell that I could give you some words of comfort

I haven't even been able to get to my T to talk due to agoraphobia. I have been fighting my Ed's since I was 9 years old! It's really getting old fast, ya know? FYI: I'm 43 years OLD!!!!

Damn tired...If the young girls cannot survive? what chance do I have over all these years? Physically, I'm a basketcase; mentally I'm a shrinking pile of gray matter.

Is there anyone in these forums w/ an on-going ED's who is over the age of 30? (no, I'm NOT doing the backstroke thru the river of self pity!)

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It's not really fair for a doctor to say this. For a physical illness i think it's ok but not for a mental illness. Especially an ED which people recover from. How does your doctor know? he/she can't

I'm in my 30's and have ups and downs. I'm in a don't eat/lose weight phase right now. I was triggered by someone commenting on my weight repeatedly in one meeting.

Don't give up just yet. It's a looooooong hard struggle. Even by two steps forward, one step back, you still make progress. It's like baby steps. You've got your T twice a week, you go to the appointments, and you like him to boot! You can do it, sweetheart. I *KNOW* you can!

dayzee, I'm almost 41, and am finally getting treatment for my ED, which is older than some people who have full time jobs. There's many of us who are older than the stereotypical teenage anorexic. In fact, the support group I go to only has one member who's under 20, and most of us are over 30.

Honey, your doctor knows nothing. But let me tell you, the second you believe it is the second it comes true.

You ever in art classes? To loosly quote my drawing teacher, that humans are capable of damn amazing things, but they are so easily barred from it. When you put up a wall, when you convince yourself something is going to happen it is. When you tell yourself that you can't recover, you aren't going to.

You have choices to make, the biggest now is telling the doc off and finding a new one. There is NEVER EVER a time when there is no hope. What kind of a world would that be?

Get up, make a call. I'm serious, you can get better.

With eating disorders, you don't always recover all the way. You'll always have the seeds of it in your head, but honey. It can get so so so much better, I promise. Don't give up, cos it seems like whenever you want to start giving up, the end comes in sight.

Keep at it, keep us posted! I'm thinking and praying for you, you hear me? Don't believe that %#@&#! for a second.

I dont agree with what the Dr has said. I believe that everyone can overcome.
I too have been following the story of Terry Schivo. It has been a difficult journey for everyone involved in that case.
I think you may want to look around for other treatment options that would benefit you more. I just dont think your Dr is being very supportive to you at a time when you need it.

I can understand the recovery unlikely. I have just spent 2 months in the medical hospital dealing with just staying alive. My GP was going to let me go home but noticed the amemia was bad. Within 3 days, they were giving me TPN through a PICC line which runs through an artery in your arm. Only problem was that within 2 days my arm was so infected it had to be stopped. Then came the psychiatrist of the hospital (since they have no psych ward). He said that if I didn't agree to having a central line put in that he would put me on a 72 hour hold to start with because I was being a danger to myself. I did go AMA as soon as he left the hospital in order to go to my mothers funeral with the promise to my GP that as soon as my family had gone back home that I would be back in the hospital & agree to the central line. The logic behind the ED is that when you don't eat, your depression & anxiety gets worse & as that gets worse, the less you want to eat.

I did go back & have the central line. They figured that I had an alergy to one of the local pain meds so they refused to use any pain meds...that is having surgery without any pain med...(never let that happen). I guess my body likes to reject everything because I ended up with the central line infected and a 102 temp. They decided to treat it with an AB which initially was one I also was allergic to, & the pharmacy caught that. I can tell you that it is no piece of cake being treated medically for not eating.

My GP & own psych decided that I needed to go to an ED inpatient treatment center. However it was up to me to find one that was acceptable since I had already spent a month at the RADER institute & it made things worse than better.

It was interesting because when I started talking to the ED places, they realized that the issues I needed worked on didn't fit their program & fell more under trauma. Then all the Dr's decided that it was my place to find a PTSD treatment center instead. I started looking around for those kind of inpatient places & they are few & far between. Then while talking to them, they all had the comment that the trauma I am dealing with is not anything they have delt with before so had no idea how to help.

While in the medical hospital, my GP had a psychologyst come in every day, & I was surprised at how much I wasn't getting out the psych I had been using for 6 years. He even agreed that he didn't know how to treat the issues I as going through. At that point, I decided that I didn't need any help if I wasn't getting any so why bother & I have no strength to find anyone else.

In that position, recovery is very unlikely however my husband did find a T through the internet & I did talk to him the other day. TBD however he sounds like he isn't one to just sit & listen & not say anything. I decided to make an appointment with him & while talking he realized I am really not in a very good place in my life. Then came the normal question of to we need to make a contract until the first session. I told him of course not...I had gone through the OD'ing & just aren't there but I have been having a hard time eating . He told me that it is the same thing as alcohol. You get into the habit & it just doesn't go away & the end result is the same no matter how you get there. I understand the recovery unlikely because as long as I have the anger, fear, frustration, depression, anxiety & I should have greif in there but somehow that just isn't a feeling I have since my mother chose to ignore her cancer until it was stage IV. Being the only child & having the estate lawyer & financial advisor all pushing at me, giving up is much easier which really makes the recovery unlikely. Unless I am able to push all those things out & hopefully then there will be room for food, I think there is much more involved in anorexic behavior than just what it says in the DSM-IV. I may be the exception to the rule, but this seems to be where my unlikely recovery is coming from.

I wish you the same strength that it will take me to get there.

Justy honey are things doing better now?

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Thinking of you, Justy and wondering how you are.