[hopefully21]

I been making some changes trying to, "plz everyone" and also get better for myself but today just makes me want to give up and say F... Everything......I've been called everything under the sun but I dnt kno why I allowed this one little comment that my older sis made to me affect me. " you look disgusting" "you look gross" instead of being supportive she tears me down I know I'm thin but damnnit I'm trying like wth do ppl expect from me. I rather not hear nuttin from nobody just shut up and leave me be for better or worse

[PTSDlovemycats]

Awe, Hopeful, Yes words to hurt and they often hurt the most when they come from someone we love. Maybe this was your sister's way of saying that she is worried about you. I don't like the way she said it but maybe she was just trying to get through to you...PLEASE take care of yourself Sweetie. Remember you can never please everyone, the most important person to please is YOU. Thinking of you tons Hopeful.

Cats.

Words do hurt, I agree. That was really not a nice thing for your sister to say. I agree tho she might have just been trying to make a dramatic way to get through to you. ((((Hopfully21))))

A lot of times with eating disorders, and I find especially with anorexia and bulimia people do not have a clue what to say. It's a really tricky issue to walk around. Many times people tell me I look great after I gain a bit, and this never helps. It actually drives me further. I hope you can put what your sister said behind you, it was mean, and hurtful. It sounds like something a sister would say but later regret as she probably did not mean it.

[hopefully21]

Oh she meant it and still says something on a daily basis and if I didn't say so already before hand I wld love the negativity of the comments but now they hurt she says its her way of getting thru to me "tough love" but honestly it just makes me more depressed and discouraged sighs fml

[Fuzzybear]

((((((((((((( hopefully21 ))))))))))))))

[ansancre]

Hi, this is my first post. I might feel like your sister. My wife has ED, and certainly I love her. But I am also fighting with her about food, sometimes I am cooking and she hates me. mmmm I want to speak out so many things, that I can't write in order. Sorry. I am feeling guilty, because I am thinking to leave her, but I know she is sick. But, ... she says is doing her best. But she refuse any advise from professional staff, she says she know the way,...really? I am scared about my own feelings. I am scared to stop loving her.

[ansancre]

Hi, and first of all, thanks for taking time to reply. You know, it's not something I could comment with colleagues nor friends nor other relatives.
Nowadays, my wife has ED bulimic. 10 years ago she was anorexic, as she told me so. She says she is on her way to recover. But I am not sure. I loved her, and I love her. There are a lot of things I would like to speak out.
I know I has hurt her last night with my words. A way of getting thru to my wife, or your sister to you? It may be. I am feeling guilty, I think I made her depressed
its her way of getting thru to me "tough love" but honestly it just makes me more depressed and discouraged sighs. i am scared she might feel her life is a senseless.
Thanks.

[Brokenwings73]

I know first hand how much words hurt! I was brutally teases as a young child, muddle schooler, and quite a bit in high school. Now as an adult my mom and my brother say things that hurt so much. I don't know why I was singled out as a kid, my mom just criticizes me for every little thing but it's always over my ED regarding my brother. For those fighting with their lived ones over food being cooked or eating the only advice I have is right now agree to disagree. My mom and dad learned a long time ago they can't force me against my will. Now don't get me wrong I'll hang out with my mom and shell still try to be slick and trick me into trying to eat but having an eating disorder is a disease. I just saw my pdoc and despite where I. Am in my struggle she told me to be the captain of my own ship! Not that I have to give it up but decide if I'm going to be in control or it is. Right now your loved one is deciding who's captain it doesn't mean forever. The battle over a meal is what it is. When my family finally came to accept my position fights lessened. And working with a treatment team is important. If things have gotten too bad they've always been there to intervene. Great mediatiors. God bless.

[Woundedheart1]

Words hurt without a doubt! I was not treated nice most if my young life by peers. I came into my own in college but my Ed started in gradeschool because of the pressures if sports and cruelty of peers! Fitting in with family wasn't any easier either!and too top it off a critical family ( immediate ) who judged hair clothes make- up etc oh and weight even to this day! If my mom doesn't like some aspect about my appearance it's a no holds barred rip out on me and I have to immediately fix what's wrong and cope with the little time she has to Kristen to me about what I have to bring up about her treatment and words! She doesn't have time for it! So she wonders after 30 years why I still have my eating disorder! I really try hard at 38 to still be perfect but seriously it going to be my undoing at some point if I don't distant myself and cut her off! I can't keep taking in hurtful worrds I've been absorbing since I was 2!