forgive me.. I mean no harm...

a post here... caught my attention... and then made me think.. oh.. no.. lol.. am trying to be lighthearted... about a painful subject..

your thoughts would be greatly appreciated...

the questions are..... do you want other peoples help IRL.. with your ED... your friends... family??? does.. wanting help change as you go thru recovery process?? or perhaps by the day to day struggle?? and what level of help would you like?? is age a factor in this???

wow.. lots of questions..

I am in the 50's age group...
My very good friend of 20 some years... was in the 60's - she had the ED (aneroxia) for as long as I knew here.. she exercised excessively too..
she refused.. rejected.. turned down.. got very mean... if you even tried to discuss the subject...always....

me...
It took me forever to acknowledge my eating disorder to my pdoc.. and it was very traumatic.... and.. it didn't come easily....In the beginning.. I lived in denial... I was ok... and that was that..

now
I didn't.. and don't want anyone monitoring my eating day to day... I would like my friends.. though to support me... to be able to acknowledge that I have an ED - that ED's do really exist... and for me.. and for my 60 year old friend... that it didn't have to do with weight... but about the extreme stressors in our lives.. a way of coping...
I would welcome.. my friends helping me get food in the house(me paying).. and some cooking.. and some contact.. support...

my adult son... I do not want to discuss my ED.. with... I do not want him to worry...

so.. if you would share.. I know asking alot.. I think it would really help to understand myself.. and all of you better.. and be of better support...

[LivinWithED]

I think you have to want to get better to want help. I think for me, i want to get better when i'm not full but as soon as i eat something and get full, i dont want people telling me to keep it down. I also think you have to find the right person to talk to in order to get better. I've asked me mom and brother to help me but when i'm in a tough time, i can't call them because they wouldn't understand. My roommate is a recovered anorexic (YES ITS POSSIBLE TO RECOVER, I'VE SEEN PROOF) and i find it alot easier to talk to her about it because she's been there. Acually i've seen recovery happen twice. Both my best friend and my roommate were a month away from ending their life and they both recovered. So good luck to everyone who reads this and remember it is possible to recover so keep trying, dont give up.

[BalishBun]

I agree, you really have to be at the point where enough is enough, and your ready for that big change. You can have all the help surrounding you and still not be ready.

[insecurity]

I have been in full recovery from my ED for 14 months now and regained all of the weight I had lost. For me the change came when I decided that I could not keeping hurting those around me. I love my husband and children more than anything else and seeing how my ED hurt them motivated me to get the help I needed. It forced me to realize that I was killing myself and hurting them. Through weekly Dr appointments, dietitian appointments and therapy (sometime 3-4 days a week) I overcame my eating disorder and have learned to enjoy eating again. It was never about the food, and when I realized that I took the first step. No one can do it for you, you have to want it for yourself or you will fail.

Best wishes.

insecurity

thank you...

where do you find the money.. to get that kind of help??? did you have insurance...