[dashrendar4454]

How would a girl feel if a guy that she talked to a lot had a crush on them but she was already engaged?
there is this tutor I worked with in college for my math class. She is about 27 and I am 22. My class ended but I still see her around a lot on campus and we chat a lot. I have asked questions about this situation before. I realize I have a big crush on her and think about her a lot, but I have zero chance with her because she is engaged and she is older. That is fine, I respect that, but I wonder if she can tell that I have a crush on her and how would she probably feel if she knew. Angry? Scared? Disgusted?

No way in hell am I going to tell her, but I wonder if she can find out some way, and how she would feel? It would be a shame if she starts feeling weird or hates me even though I don't plan to do anything

[pegasus]

Hello dashrendar4454, welcome to Psych Central.

Well if she is engaged, it is likely that she is already taken and heading towards marriage. I don't know whether she would feel angry, scared or disgusted and she is not likely to hate you because of it. She might think that it is sweet but as I said, she is already taken. When someone is engaged it usually means they are fully committed to someone else. You won't know unless you talk to her. Good luck.

[healingme4me]

If the subject isn't broached, as you mentioned not planning to do, it shows you respect her and her commitment.
Without it being mentioned, at most, she may sense your appreciation of her, yet, humans being humans, second guesses and may plant in her mind the platonic sense of your tutor/ tutored relationship.
Hope that helps.

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[Perna]

Hi, dashrendar. I would avoid her some now that the class is over, just smile and wave "Hi" if you see her, not stop to talk to her as much. It is not doing you any good to reinforce your crush, it is just taking up your time when you could be meeting a woman you could be getting to know for yourself?

[IchbinkeinTeufel]

Welcome to Psych Central.

She's taken, dashrendar4454, it's time to focus your attentions elsewhere. She might feel uncomfortable but be flattered, if she knew - women tend to pick up these things, in my experience, so she may already know. Good luck!