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Jan 27, 2015, 09:29 PM
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I don't know how " normal" feels, but the way my husband responded to my honest, uninhibited (yes, I drank today, but I really stopped to think about this and believe it to be my genuine personal truth) dialogue with him about our relationship left me feeling hurt.
I think that he only wants me if I will be a doormat d*c*s**k*r for him, and I feel like I'm just beyond that at this point in my life. I love him dearly, but after almost 20 years of marriage, I finally love ME more  Really sad, but liberating! Sent from my iPad using Tapatalk |
 Anonymous100166, Lexi232, pegasus
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Jan 28, 2015, 08:26 AM
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I'm glad you are starting to care about yourself. You are worth it.
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Jan 28, 2015, 09:30 AM
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Hello Faking sane,
I know a long term marriage can become stale, each can take each other forgranted, the love can go and one can grow more than the other. Just because you've been married a long time, don't think you have to put up with it. Time to make some real decisions. Do you want to work on the marriage? Is it worth working on it and saving? If so then you both need to sit down (without the drink) and discuss the way forward. Or is it time to move on? It sounds like this is the best option for you, no one deserves abuse. 
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Jan 28, 2015, 09:38 AM
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I agree with pegasus
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Jan 28, 2015, 10:40 AM
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I would seek some counseling to help you and support you. If you can't or don't do that, there are other ways to find resources. Here is one thing that helps label things. It is called the Power and Control Wheel, which is standard to give to people with issues in their relationships. There is also a complementary one that shows the opposite, the Freedom and Equality Wheel. I don't know if this will help, but here's a link:
http://www.theduluthmodel.org/pdf/powerandcontrol.pdf
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Jan 30, 2015, 05:08 AM
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I agree with Pegasus. What would you like to do? 20 years is a long time and should be thought out carefully and with a clear head. Good luck
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