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#26
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I agree, we need alone time, but also we need interaction time. Being alone for a long period of time isn't healthy in most cases.
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https://www.psychologytoday.com/arti...ers-loneliness Don't be so fatalist Cider, you could live much longer, we don't know. I wish you to live many, many, more years. I know your life is far from ideal, it must be terribly difficult but don't lose hope, we never know what might happen and something could happen that could change your life all for the best, we don't know. I wish you that. Yeah, partly. I wish every night that there could be a girl I could hug when I go to bed but during the day, I feel great and certainly not lonely. I miss the human touch and I'm in need of affection but I do all I can to not think about it so it doesn't affect me. It works 95% of the time but since love is a fundamental need, I guess I can't totally take it out of my life. 17 years? I beat you because I've never slept with a woman other than my mother but that's not a record to be proud of. lol I totally understand Cider, I never had sex but masturbation feels so good, I don't do it more than once every other day but it gives me a YUGE smile! HAHAHAHA!! Sleeping alone was tough for some time, then I went to this Benjo store in my town, they have over 10 000 plushs!! I don't care if plushs are for kids, I bought a really soft bunny (this one https://www.amazon.ca/Jellycat-Bashf...jellycat+large , only cost me 40$ though) and I sleep with it every night. I guess I trick my mind into thinking that a girl and it somehow works because I sleep like a baby ever since I bought it. LOLL This bunny is so soft, I love it. Oh yeah, there used to be the neighbour's cat that would come to my father's house. I loved it so much in all honesty, I seriously contemplated the idea of kidnapping the cat ![]() Mmh, yeah, makes you think when you look at it from this perspective. I definitely need social interactions to feel 100% happy. I'd love to have a girlfriend but don't like marriage and babies get on my nerve lol but I have no problems with kids. I won't have kids before finishing my studies though, I feel it would be irresponsible for the kid, me and my girlfriend. It touches me that you take all this time to reply me, thank you, I really appreciate it! I hope you'll feel better soon. Yeah, this could work... we never know. I don't lose anything trying. ![]() No it's not Cider and that's what's worse. Had my last girlfriend at 11, I got sexually abused at 13 and spent the last 13 years, putting back the pieces on the jigsaw of my life and I'm getting close to being done, so close but there remains a few pieces to put in. I often did. I never had sex. Basically, I was hugged by one girl during the last 15 years (apart from my mother or family members) and that was it. No kiss, nothing. I'm in need of affection, it's obvious but I feel something is blocking me from getting the love I want. I joined a group from men that are sexual abuse survivor, I'm confident it will help me. ![]() I understand. Thanks again for the reply Ciderguy, I really appreciated it! ![]() |
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EDIT I did some research on this website and I do a lot of the things mentioned. I sometimes... -have difficulty concentrating on mental tasks -forget things -sweat from my feet -can't sit still -I stroke my beard (lol) -I ''knee jiggle'' and I realise it could all be due to other things BUT it could also be stress. Who knows. |
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I'm an introvert. An active social life would make me miserable and that in turn would shorten my life.
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I enjoy my own company as well, but it feels better when you have someone to share it with. Friend, partner to bounce off silly ideas
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I'm not the social type, not by choice or by personality, but by my experience with others over the years. I grew to learn that my socialization skills are subpar at best and make other people uncomfortable, angry or even downright loathsome of me. I then learned that it's best to just keep to myself.
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I moved 2100 miles away to where I didn't know anyone but I'm so active now & involved with the church community & the horse community, volunteering all over the place, also involved with the wonderful small town community I live in & ballroom dancing classes. It's like I have a whole new & wonderful life while living alone on my little 10 acre farm is my quiet retreat. I need that alone time with all I'm involved in & all the things that just come up in my life out of the blue. There are many other single women in my community who are also as involved (or even more). We all love our alone time but also enjoy our connecting & together time....not at all hermits.
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But still you see people and have relationships, so you are not alone
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I am alone more hours of the day than I am with people & I am satisfied being alone when I am home. I don't have the need to constantly be around people. Not all people who are satisfied being alone are hermits. Many of us have a healthy balance.
I was more lonely when I was married & living with my exH than I am now living alone.
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What if nobody wants to get to know you? What if they don't even want to give you the time of day? What if they judge you too quickly and just walk away without bothering to get to know you?
See, it's not whether or not I choose to be social, but up to those I chose to be social with to engage in that social interaction. When they don't engage, there is little I can do, it seems, as you can't control other people. So, yeah, I'm pretty much destined to a life of destitude it seems.
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OP,
You will not die of loneliness. You take good care of yourself, work and see people at the gym 3 times a week. You said you could get a GF if you wanted one. You'll be fine. ![]() |
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