[DechanDawa]

Do you think if you listen closely enough with your inner ear...that those who have gone before you may try to leave you with messages? My anxiety has led to depression and I feel dissociative, like maybe if I relaxed I could actually hear advice from the other side...

I lost my mother on Halloween. She is definitely with me each Oct 31st

[TishaBuv]

I feel like my late grandma talks to me often. Yesterday I was feeling my late father a lot, even smelled him. But I have been talking about him a lot on here lately. I don't know if their spirits truly visit me, or more likely my memory conjures them up. But it's nice and makes me feel good.

Perhaps you can feel particularly close to people who have passed...but please be careful, Dechan...I feel as if you are worried here, and if you are worried that this is not what normally happens with you, then don't wait too long to seek help for it...

In other words, it sounds as if you think this might be a symptom...Pay attention to your gut with this one.

[TishaBuv]

Originally Posted by DechanDawa

Do you think if you listen closely enough with your inner ear...that those who have gone before you may try to leave you with messages? My anxiety has led to depression and I feel dissociative, like maybe if I relaxed I could actually hear advice from the other side...

What advice would they give? What could they even say different than what us live folks have to say?

If you are really hearing voices that aren't there, and they are telling you to do harmful things, that is a prompt to see a t.

[DechanDawa]

Originally Posted by sophiesmom

Perhaps you can feel particularly close to people who have passed...but please be careful, Dechan...I feel as if you are worried here, and if you are worried that this is not what normally happens with you, then don't wait too long to seek help for it...

In other words, it sounds as if you think this might be a symptom...Pay attention to your gut with this one.

Thanks. Unfortunately, I had been drinking beer and was alone. I was probably a little drunk when I wrote this. Sorry. In truth, I have never felt I could directly communicate with the spirit world. However, I did get a message of sorts. More from self-reflection.I am going into "retreat mode" -- this means a period of time in which I employ concentrated meditation and also increase my prayer life. I have an appointment with my pdoc in December, and at that time I need to review my situation. I'm not on medication. (I can't seem to make my pdoc understand my anxiety is through the roof.) But if I do a lot of meditation, and avoid triggers, and do other self care, I think it will calm things down. I plan to refrain from alcohol until well into the new year. Not that I am abusive, but it is a red flag when I drink on top of anxiety. Thanks for your concern. It was deeply appreciated because I'm not doing so good right now.

[DechanDawa]

Originally Posted by TishaBuv

What advice would they give? What could they even say different than what us live folks have to say?

If you are really hearing voices that aren't there, and they are telling you to do harmful things, that is a prompt to see a t.

I have never in my life heard voices that weren't real nor had hallucinations. I plead guilty to having gotten a little tipsy (not even drunk, really) on a couple glasses of Guinness on Halloween. I have never felt I had any communication with anyone in the spirit world. Maybe I wish I could, which is why I asked the question. I am sorry to say I don't feel the dead are any wiser than the living, and I don't place much stock in the wisdom of the living, either. However, what came out of this tipsy self-reflection is that I am going to step up my meditation practice and daily prayer life because those two help reduce anxiety, and I have a lot of anxiety these days. I am not doing so well. I will be seeing my pdoc before the end of the year. She might need to change my thyroid medication. My sister died two years ago and maybe I was missing her because she was a person who went all out on the holidays. Yeah, was probably sad and missing my big sis is all.

That's okay, Dechan. I just know that your struggles are particularly rough right now.

I have also posted here when I was under the influence of something or other...oh well.

I see a practice for my doctor..as in I don't get a choice. The one doctor who made me cry was the one who said that anxiety comes from (then he motioned to the back of his had...don't remember the area of the brain he said)...and that it wasn't my fault...

Rationally I know that anxiety attacks are not something that IS "my fault"...but it was so priceless that I wasn't just nodded to in reply to my never-ending complaints about them...

So...I am not a doctor. But...it is not your fault that you have anxiety.

[DechanDawa]

Originally Posted by sophiesmom

That's okay, Dechan. I just know that your struggles are particularly rough right now.

I have also posted here when I was under the influence of something or other...oh well.

I see a practice for my doctor..as in I don't get a choice. The one doctor who made me cry was the one who said that anxiety comes from (then he motioned to the back of his had...don't remember the area of the brain he said)...and that it wasn't my fault...

Rationally I know that anxiety attacks are not something that IS "my fault"...but it was so priceless that I wasn't just nodded to in reply to my never-ending complaints about them...

So...I am not a doctor. But...it is not your fault that you have anxiety.

Thanks. I rarely drink except lately I have noticed I will more often have a beer or two...and this isn't normal for me. Maybe because it was Halloween... It is just a red flag that my anxiety is out-of-control. Or was. I don't advocate drinking alone, and especially drinking and posting...by hey, we're only human.

I have decided that maybe the anxiety will never go away. I truth, I have always had anxiety, and in the past just said I was high-strung. I get extremely frustrated when things don't go my way. The anxiety is probably related to unmet expectations.

Off and on I used benzodiazepines, but now it is very difficult to get them prescribed. It is frustrating. I understand it is better to not do benzodiazepines and learn better coping skills.

I definitely am refraining from using beer to tamp down anxiety because really, the anxiety is still there...and I am not really a drinker.

The benzoes worked for me and I would take them daily regardless of whatever side effects the doctors are worried about. But I think a lot of people are running into the same thing. They are not as available. Personally, I think it sucks. I think I functioned way better when I had benzoes. But I need to find new ways...

[TishaBuv]

I was very close with my grandma. She would always listen to me and tell me everything would be alright. So now I still sometimes 'talk to her' and she consoles me. I don't really see or hear her, but I can remember her scent and imagine what she'd say. She always wanted to be a part of her children's goings on. If anybody could break through from death to talk to the living, it would be her.

I'm sorry you are not feeling well. It's a journey.

[DechanDawa]

Originally Posted by TishaBuv

I was very close with my grandma. She would always listen to me and tell me everything would be alright. So now I still sometimes 'talk to her' and she consoles me. I don't really see or hear her, but I can remember her scent and imagine what she'd say. She always wanted to be a part of her children's goings on. If anybody could break through from death to talk to the living, it would be her.

I'm sorry you are not feeling well. It's a journey.

Thanks. Maybe grief was surfacing. I miss my sister. Thanks for the well wishes. PS I am sorry your company didn't show on Halloween. I would have been over in a minute to partake in some witch's brew. But that kind of thing has happened to me in the past...it always feels crummy. Not very neighborly neighbors... You need to find the ones who will show up and only invite them. Also, don't sweat their rudeness. Better luck next year!

Not yet and I've tried to channel them through various hasbro bothers Ouija boards. I will let you know if I have success.

[DechanDawa]

Originally Posted by ElsaMars

Not yet and I've tried to channel them through various hasbro bothers Ouija boards. I will let you know if I have success.

Haha. Thanks. What are you doing up posting so late?

[MtnTime2896]

Going into a serious surgery a couple years ago, I felt like my grandmas from my mom and dad's side were sitting next to my bed during prep. When they drugged me up, I saw them; they were both smiling and offering comfort. Most people don't dream while under anesthesia but I did. I was flying over all these different kinds of terrain, cities and oceans. When I looked up, my arms were being held as my grandmas flew me around the world. They were laughing and I couldn't stop smiling.
I still feel them with me whenever I'm in distress or I'm lonely. They're always here with me, just like they always promised. I don't know if it's real, but I know it's real to me.

Oh, and when I still had cancer, I saw things and people walking around all of the time. My doc did a MRI and didn't find cancer up there, then I got analyzed by a shrink. Didn't get diagnosed with anything other than mild depression at that time, so the shrink just labeled it as a comforting mechanism. I know what I experienced but it's up to others if they want to believe it or not.

[*Laurie*]

My precious sister died 5 days ago. I have strongly felt her presence around me since she died. If she had to die, I'm glad it was on Halloween and Dia de los Muertos. Somehow, I feel like I can grieve her death more fully.

[MtnTime2896]

Originally Posted by LauraBeth

My precious sister died 5 days ago. I have strongly felt her presence around me since she died. If she had to die, I'm glad it was on Halloween and Dia de los Muertos. Somehow, I feel like I can grieve her death more fully.

I'm so sorry.