My 2 youngest

MY DAUGHTER IS 11 & HAS PTSD AND IS ON LEXAPRO FOR IT & HER ANXIETY IS SO BAD FROM WHAT SHE SAW HER FATHER DO. SHE WAS SO SCARED & FILLED WILL ANXIETY LASY YR WHEN I WAS GOING FINALLY 4 DIVORCE THE KIDS WEREN;T SEEING HIM, & I WAS FIGHTING 4 HIM TO NOT SEE THEM THAT SHE WAS BITING THRU HER NAIL, CRACKING HER KNUCKLES,PICKING HER FOREHEAD, & LOTS MORE. MY YOUNGEST SON WHO'S 8 HAS AHDH, & RAGE IMPULSE COMTROL ISSUES , & PTSD, ALL THIS FROM WATCHING THEIR FATHER ABUSE ME THEIR WHOLE LIVES. NOW HE IS DIFFERNT, HE GETS ANXIETY BUT HE HAS VIOLENT TENDECIES AGAINST HIS FATHER. THEY FINALLY SNAPPED ONE DAY LAST YEAR WHEN THEIR FATHER WENT INTO A RAGE AGAINST ME WHILE VISITING THEM. KIDS CAN ONLY TAKE SO MUCH OF SEEING THEIR MOTHER ABUSED, I TRIED TO TELL HIM THEY'D HAVE DAY WHERE ENOUGH WAS ENOUGH. i THOUGH THEY'D BE OLDER. HE DIDN'T THINK VERBAL ABUSE WAS ABUSE OR THAT IT WAS ABUSING THEM WHEN THE WITNESSED IT. THEIR GUARDIAN-AD-LITEM FOUGHT FOR THEM & GOT THE KIDS WHAT THEY WANTED. NO CONTACT AFTER THE DIVORCE WAS FINAL UNLESS THE KIDS DECIDE DIFFERENT WITH THEIR THERAPIST. THIS WON'T HAPPEN. HE'S SEVERED HIS ROLE IN THEIR EYES. I WISH THEY'D HAD A FATHER BUT THEY NEVER REALLY DID.

Try Family Therapy for everyone including yourself.

Get some therapy for the lot of you. There are a number of resources through the school board including psychologists for the children, and assistance for the ADHD.

By the way, I found your post rather difficult to read. Perhaps if you were to use lower case it might be easier.

Hi TinkModeen, Would you please type your posts in lower case? All upper case is very difficult to read, and I feel like you're screaming. Thank you.

We all are in therapy, we all have our own thrapist. I have no wishes of family therapy with their father if that is what u are suggesting. It is way beyond too late for that. He is out of our lives & we want to keep it that way. He is a narcissist parent that has no problems using the kids as pawns or saying destructive things to them. So I can't & won't let him damage them anymore. My children & myself are already in counseling with our own individual therapist. It will take time but healing is a work in progress. My kids have been in therapy for 3 yrs, and will continue for however long it takes. As for myself I am in therapy for myself As well as survivors of domestic abuse. I just got back in a few months ago as my PTSD symptoms came back full blown.

Hi. I am sorry you are going through such hell. My comment here is regarding the anger you seem to hold. Just try to make sure this doesn't rub off by transference on your children. It is really important they don't witness this anger or be drawn into it. I suppose this is something your therapist is already raising for discussion. In the meantime, you seem rather brave as you face this turmoil.

Best to leave Father out of it. You are doing the right thing.