[palsera27]

I have a lot people who look down on me. They look down on me because I don’t earn very much. They see me as unintelligent. What they don’t there were factors that contributed my place in life that are out of my control

[mindwrench]

I think there are a lot of measures that are used by society in general to measure people against one another, be it fair or not. Sadly these same measures are sometimes leveled against us by our own family or friends, without regard to our own definitions of success or fulfillment or what we are seeking in life.

I know it is much easier said than done, but learning to ignore the judgement of others can be liberating and help ease the overall burden of what you are dealing with. I can relate to the sentiments you expressed, as many of my relatives are very wealthy and see my lack of riches as a personal failing.

I never amounted to anything according to my mother. She said she was humiliated that I was 'common'. I cut ties and was a whole lot happier as a result.

[gimmeice]

When someone looks down on you, their judgement and criticism have a lot more to say about them than it does you. Whatever they have going on in their lives have them feeling like they need to be better than someone, so that says they are feeling down on themselves, or that's my take anyway. As far as how to deal with it, create distance whenever possible, nobody needs negativity in their lives.

oh, a thousand thanks for this! I have a particular family member who makes it thier business to impose crap....designed to make me feel small. It's bug hard, but (finally) I've decided ignore this game n let them have the argument. Yup, it kills, just to take their crap at the time. Then I remind myself that I don't have to let their judgements, etc count....I get to go home! Lol, it could be worse, I could let it influence me, or indeed, be this person. It's not easy to wash. Good luck x

[healingme4me]

Sweet irony was a sincere heart to heart, face to face about this very thing with a friend, most recently. How does one that will not harden reach that point of authenticity where those who mince no sense of desire of pleasantries no longer have the power to make or break one's day?
I've been thinking all night at what point have I myself flipped that switch internally? It wasn't recently for me, within the decade for sure however.
I didn't get a full chance to go deeply into what it means to stop being a people pleaser whilst maintaining kindness. Unkindness still does hurt sometimes.
I think it's a matter of work through, a regaining of self confidence and learning to value yourself, despite others.
Maybe for me it was the utter betrayal of any sense of safety in marriage and watching social constructs crumble in its aftermath? Wish I could give you the panacea.
It's a wild world that we live in. Our lives are our own to experience. They're the ones that need to live with themselves lacking integrity. Imaging the inner turmoil and energy spent worrying about others the way that they do?

[nicoleflynn]

It doesn't matter what anyone else thinks of you. YOU get to decide what you think of you.

[avlady]

It is easy to say we are the ones who decide what people think of us is not true and walk away, I've been trying to do this for years and it is so hard because my family is the culprit, and something always comes up, but I just swallow my pride and help them when needed, and walk away knowing I am the better person because I helped them and didn't listen to their gripes about me.

Originally Posted by palsera27

I have a lot people who look down on me. They look down on me because I don’t earn very much. They see me as unintelligent. What they don’t there were factors that contributed my place in life that are out of my control

And you think they are right about you? (hoping you read between the lines here)

Everyone has an opinion. That doesn't automatically make them right.

[CelestialFlame]

Easy. Remove them from your life or don’t give a **** what they think.

[All Is Revealed]

How do I handle these people?

I tell them they will never be better than me.
and
I tell them, "Get out of my life and never speak to me again."

Problem solved. Case closed.

[nicoleflynn]

Having a lot of money.....doesnt mean you have class, dignity, kindness, empathy....it only means you have money. Some of the most wealthy people are stingy and not nice!

A person's character is what counts in life.