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#1
Jul 15, 2010, 01:18 AM
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I feel like no one cares. I don't know why it bothers me anymore. It really shouldn't. But it was my birthday yesterday and my parents didn't call or email to wish me a happy birthday. No one did. People wished me a happy birthday on facebook, but no one in my family did. Am I that unimportant? I don't feel like it should bother me any more. They didn't contact me last year either. I don't know why I care anymore.
 I hate this. What an awful beginning of a new year.
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#2
Jul 15, 2010, 01:29 AM
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So they sent an e-card. But it didn't get sent until today my time. They always forget about the time change. I don't know if I'm being too harsh, but is it too much to ask for them to take the thirty seconds to do it earlier in the day so I could get it before my birthday is over?
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#3
Jul 15, 2010, 02:28 AM
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Perhaps it would be prudent to discuss your feelings with your therapist?
Happy Birthday. I hope you have a wonderful year. |
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Jul 15, 2010, 02:35 AM
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Families can be awful. i'm sorry you got a raw deal with yours. i know how much it can hurt and how damaging it can be on your self. i know i must be a little late, but i wanted to wish you a happy birthday
this is your pc friends surrounding you and helping you celebrate your special day (you're the one blowing out the candle  )   
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He said that we can email as MUCH as we want (100 times per day). Believe in this - it is challenging fears about being punished. It is okay to be seen. You are not a nuisance. "Too much" simply means exploration, not punishment/withdrawal. Trust in him.  Not looking at him is about keeping aspects of self hidden/secret. We know that is not the healthy choice. Keep working on this - you will get there.  Accept there are parts. Be kind and gentle with them. Working with parts and feelings is the key to happiness. We have been happy before when listened to them and accepted them and were open to feelings. Write in your journal - it is safe to do so. 
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#5
Jul 15, 2010, 03:07 AM
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I'm sorry your family missed your birthday. That must of been hurtful.
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#6
Jul 15, 2010, 07:55 AM
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(((((googley))))) HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO YOU !!!!!!!! XXOOXX
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Jul 15, 2010, 08:58 AM
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HAPPY BIRTHDAY YOU! dont allow yourself to feel unimportant, I think it feels worse when its your own family that doesnt put in the effort. what is important though is that it is your day and you should try and do something for you, you deserve it because you are important!
HAPPY BIRTHDAY hope you feel better!!
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#8
Jul 15, 2010, 09:39 AM
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((((((((((((googley)))))
I care Deeply
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Jul 15, 2010, 09:51 AM
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Googley
That can hurt very much , especially from family members. You have to start caring for YOU , that's what's important. Happy belated Birthday by the way.
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Jul 15, 2010, 12:59 PM
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((((Googley))))
I'm sorry about your family. Of course that's going to hurt. But you're not unimportant - they're insensitive or neglectful, not you. I care about you. Belated happy birthday. ---splitimage
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Jul 15, 2010, 01:06 PM
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((((((((((googley))))))))))
the *exact* same thing happened to me last year on my birthday.. no contact from the family, which was a first after 31 years. this year was a little better, but still - i get what you're saying about taking 30 secs out of one's day to say 'happy birthday.' how hard is that?! ps. our bdays are like a week and a half apart - mine was the 4th! many hugs and supportive thoughts for you, i really get how much this hurts. it makes you wish you were never born.. |
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#12
Jul 15, 2010, 02:45 PM
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Thank you all for your wonderful birthday wishes. It reminds me that there are people who care about me. I wish it didn't hurt so much that they didn't contact me, but it does. But it is great to get caring from you all. I will hold onto that.
Hugs for Everyone!
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Jul 15, 2010, 03:22 PM
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My first reaction is what a crappy family! But then I have to admit that I'm not one of "those" people. I have relatives that send cards for every occassion. I have good intentions, but for some reason I just can't pull it off.
My daughter used to be quite irritated that our extended family could never get her birthday right. She was born overseas, and when we called to announce her birth, it was still the third, although she was born on the fourth there. I feel guilty because my nieces and nephews all get their birthday cards and Christmas gifts at the same time, and in recent years it's all been in May. One graduates, we attend the party and cards for all occassions are distributed at that time. It doesn't mean that I don't love them, or think about them, I just have a love/hate relationship with the post office. This year one the set from my husband's side of the family got two Christmases and birthdays. I was working and unable to attend my niece's graduation. My husband, keeping with the recent trend, handed out cards and gifts at the graduation party, he had forgotten that we went up there on Christmas day and delivered them on time for a change! Happy Birthday, and in case I forget next year, Happy Birthday and Merry Christmas.
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Jul 15, 2010, 11:03 PM
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((((((((Googley))))))))
Happy Birthday for yesterday and I hope it is the start of a great new year for you Rhiannon
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