[voidray]

If title is gramatically awkward: "After what age having never had a GF is considered "not normal"?

[regretful]

I don't think there is a "not normal" age for anything. I didn't have one until well after high school, and I think I turned out okay. Good luck to you.

[DenisDonnacha]

I don't think there is a "normal" age to have one, whenever you're ready for it is normal.

[Perna]

My youngest son is in his mid-30's and he and his girlfriend just moved states and live together, etc. but no hint of marriage anytime soon. He's never been married and has had girlfriends like that for months or years since just after high school/he's been on his own.

My father was 28 when he married, my grandfathers, 27 and 26.

[Timgt5]

I think it is more important to find someone you are truly compatable with, even if it might take you a bit longer. Finding the right person for you to be in a serious relationship is more than worth the extra wait.

[likewater]

My boyfriend is 56. and my 80+ neighbor has a girlfriend.

[Trippin2.0]

I doubt 'normal' exists, the norm just points toward the general population. I'm 28 and have only had 1 bf, and he was the worst choice a person could make, i probably even felt oblgated to have a r/s with him and for what? Normalcy? Others expectations? Standards? I've been involved with 2 other men, but yeah, only 1 actual bf, and screw normal is what I say. If your situation makes you unhappy, change it, if not, don't fix it if it aint broke.

[voidray]

Originally Posted by likewater

My boyfriend is 56. and my 80+ neighbor has a girlfriend.

Is he your first?

[seeker1950]

This is an interesting, though kind of open-ended question. Do you mean at a certain age, like over 50, 60, 70 and beyond, or are you asking about youngsters? I am 61, and have lost the desire to seek a mate, or even to date. I am wondering if this is hormonal? or due to the debacles of my dating experiences after my divorce at 47. I do think when we are young, we are driven as biological animals to "pair bond," but this does not mean we can't have meaningful relationships as we age. I just no longer have the energy for it. I'd rather spend my energy on my other interests, which give me a lot more satisfaction and peace of mind.

[voidray]

Originally Posted by seeker1950

This is an interesting, though kind of open-ended question. Do you mean at a certain age, like over 50, 60, 70 and beyond, or are you asking about youngsters?

This question is like: "hey I am 25. I have never had GF, nor had sex. This is normal and healthy situation?"

[eskielover]

What ever is right for you......is what is normal IMO, & societies push of everyone having to have sex is just WRONG.

Personally the guy I ended up married was someone who should have never gotten married.....he couldn't get out of his own head even though a nice person, nice & being a responsible husband are 2 different things also.

I'm with seeker.....even though I am not yet divorced (hoping that will happen very soon), I have no intentions of that opening up my path to the dating scene....the divorce is just to protect myself financially from his irresponsible actions. I enjoy my single life I have had since I left him 5 years ago & wouldn't even consider dating again.....freedom is the most wonderful feeling I have ever experienced.....& have no desire to ruin that.

[lonegael]

My hubby had his first, me, at 23. a bit late, but that was mostly because he takes relationships of all types VERY seriously. He's had friends who are girls, but none who were girlfriends. Sometimes it just doesn't work out until you gain a little maturity, self confidence, or just meet the right one. My guy knew girls, but needed someone he felt understood him and he could understand. HUGGGSSSS.

[Nicks_Nose]

I have two young adult sons and I believe it is becoming more the norm than you realize, voidray. I don't think you have anything to worry about.

[di meliora]

You define what is normal and healthy for you. When you believe you are responsible enough to deal with the vicissitudes of a relationship go for it. There will be some trial and error. Even so, you will gain experience and understanding if you pay attention. Growing throughout your time here is part of a meaningful life.

Good luck.

I'm 34 and never had a girlfriend. I don't think there is a normal time, but i think there is a normal person, and I am not that person.

[voidray]

Originally Posted by lonegael

My hubby had his first, me, at 23. a bit late, but that was mostly because he takes relationships of all types VERY seriously. He's had friends who are girls, but none who were girlfriends. Sometimes it just doesn't work out until you gain a little maturity, self confidence, or just meet the right one. My guy knew girls, but needed someone he felt understood him and he could understand. HUGGGSSSS.

You said 23 were a bit late. So what is the normal age according to you?

[myvoiceshearvoices]

no sweat. never had an official gf (im 23) wasnt into the whole commitment thing.