Encounter on the Elevator

I recently had surgery and was treated with steroids. I've been painfully aware that my face has the characteristic moon shape associated with the meds and that I look heavier than normal sue to swelling.

A little while ago I held the elevator for one of the other tenents. He looked at me and exclaimed, "My God, you've packed on the weight!" I just looked at him and mumbled something, I can't even remember what. Then he said, "That doesn't mean it's a bad thing. Your face is really full now. It looks better really full." Mercifully the door opened and he got off at his floor, put his powerchair on high speed and took off.

I just love it when people are so very complimentary. I don't know whether to laugh or cry, but I think I'll stick to the laughing part.

Jan

Jan, I had a similar experience, with the major difference being I'm really just fat . A woman who lived a couple of floors below me saw me as I was coming in the back door. She was one of those people who cluelessly said whatever came to mind. As I neared her, she said, "WOW, you've gained a lot of weight!" I turned red and said, "uh, no, not that I know of." She said, "No, really, you look like you've gained 15 or 20 pounds since the last time I saw you." I said, "Mary -- I just saw you LAST WEEK." She said, "Yeah, but you look like you've really gained weight. I need to lose weight too, but not as bad as you."

I finally just walked on and she called after me, "It's OK Candy, you're still a nice person."



People are morons, what can you do.

(((((((((((Jan))))))))

Love, Candy (who is decidedly bear-shaped)

Wow, it amazes me how inconsiderate people can be to one another.
Why do they do this? What do they get out of it?
What does it matter how much we weigh?
I was raised that no matter what we look like on the outside, it's the inside that counts.
If a person has a good heart, then that is what matters.

I am sorry for people that were so rude to you both. I hope someday, they will grow up.

Hugs,
Boopers

Hi

I like it best when ppl who have never been on anti-depressants tell you that you should just go out and exercise more or eat properly! My fave is when psychiatrists et al. say that anti-depressants are not "calorie inducing" medication!

Ha ha ha, and how awful I hope you are doing well that does not sound very comfortable.

I experienced something similar when I was asked by a total stranger at a grocery store how far along I am. Not being pregnant, I replied that I was 9 months, to which she was suitably impressed about how "well" I was carrying. I chose to laugh too. But there is a little niggle somewhere deep inside, you know?

Candybear, my jaw literally dropped open reading your experience. Just how insensitive, or may I say dense? can people get? Wow!

((((((((((( Everyone ))))))))))))))

It sounds like we've all had horrible experiences. Candy, yours takes the cake!

I feel so selfconscious now that I feel like hiding under a tent or something.

Jan

At my brothers wake, I stepped outside to get some air. An old flame's brother, who is a recovering alcoholic, came up to me and we were talking. (I had lost a considerable amount of weight)

He said to me, "I just wanted to apologize to you."

I said, "For what?"

He said "For calling you a fat pig back when I was a drunk."

My brother was inside lying in a casket. Somehow this did not seem appropriate to me. I brushed it off and said something like, we all say things...

I told T about this and she said "Sounds like he was making amends, which is one of the Twelve Steps."

I said, "Ya, but at who's expense."

what about the ppl who call ya on the phone and set up a meeting with you, then the day of the meeting they tell ya "oh you aren't so and so, she's much younger, I have a childs voice on the phone

I especially dislike the professionals who tell me I would feel so much better if I just weren't so smart and think all the time.

I also dislike the ones who tell me that I wouldn't feel so badly if I didn't have so many problems. Well, duh!!!!!!!

Well, that is kind of obvious isn't it.

I have been told by many professionals that my problems are of my own making and I should be able to just "think" my way out of them.