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#1
May 02, 2016, 06:23 PM
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It can be at any age at any time in your past...
LL's 18 year old self: Don't buy yourself a pack of cigarettes just because you just turned 18...it will be a terrible decision that includes constant nagging from Mom about how horrible you smell, the lengthy series of dentist appointments to fix the gingivitis caused by smoking, the bronchitis you'll have whenever you get a cold caused by smoking, you'll be spending well over $120 a month that could have gone to a new car or trip to Paris, and you'll be craving it for the rest of your life....but here is one thing I have learned...I can CHOOSE not to smoke cigarettes! |
 eskielover, fishin fool, shezbut, Skeezyks, Vandelay Industries
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#2
May 02, 2016, 07:20 PM
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Make better decisions don't be so trusting and follow your dreams.
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I traded it in for a whole 'nother world A pirate flag and an island girl |
| Lost_in_the_woods
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| Lost_in_the_woods, VR-80
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#3
May 02, 2016, 07:54 PM
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I recall my mother telling me that, when I was born, my horoscope said I would have so many interests in so many different directions, if I wasn't guided with a strong hand, I'd fritter away my life & not accomplish anything. I wasn't... & I did...
 (I also had a guidance counselor in high school who told me I was going to be a bum!)  So the advice I'd give myself, in my late teens, is to try to focus on a single area of interest & dedicate myself to it instead of being blown this-way-&-that by every breeze that stirred over the years... 
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"I may be older but I am not wise / I'm still a child's grown-up disguise / and I never can tell you what you want to know / You will find out as you go." (from: "A Nightengale's Lullaby" - Julie Last) |
| eskielover, fishin fool, Lost_in_the_woods
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| fishin fool, VR-80
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#4
May 02, 2016, 11:38 PM
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Be more gentle with yourself.
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| lizardlady, Lost_in_the_woods, shezbut, Skeezyks
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| Lost_in_the_woods, shezbut
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#5
May 02, 2016, 11:43 PM
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Pursue a career you enjoy and don't worry about it not paying much at first.
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“We use our minds not to discover facts but to hide them. One of things the screen hides most effectively is the body, our own body, by which I mean, the ins and outs of it, its interiors. Like a veil thrown over the skin to secure its modesty, the screen partially removes from the mind the inner states of the body, those that constitute the flow of life as it wanders in the journey of each day.” — Antonio R. Damasio, “The Feeling of What Happens: Body and Emotion in the Making of Consciousness” (p.28) |
| eskielover, shezbut, Skeezyks
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| lizardlady, shezbut
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#6
May 02, 2016, 11:55 PM
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Run Faster
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The devil whispered in my ear, "You cannot withstand the storm." I whispered back, "I am the storm." 
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| eskielover, Lost_in_the_woods, Raindropvampire, shezbut
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#7
May 03, 2016, 12:00 AM
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To me: go to grad school before having a child.
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The purpose of life is not to be happy. It is to be useful, to be honorable, to be compassionate, to have it make some difference that you have lived and lived well. anonymous |
| eskielover, Lost_in_the_woods
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#8
May 03, 2016, 01:30 AM
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17 year old self, deck her dad and tell his molesting *** he better disappear!!
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| eskielover, lizardlady, Lost_in_the_woods, shezbut
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| Lost_in_the_woods
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#9
May 03, 2016, 06:46 AM
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No matter how tough it gets, DON'T GIVE UP!!! especially on you dreams
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| eskielover, Lost_in_the_woods, shezbut, Skeezyks
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| Lost_in_the_woods
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#10
May 03, 2016, 08:08 AM
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don't spend the money.
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| Lost_in_the_woods
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| eskielover, Lost_in_the_woods, Pikku Myy
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#11
May 03, 2016, 02:57 PM
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what advice would i give my former self.
life only gets worse. if you think it's bad now, you ain't seen nothing yet |
| eskielover, guilloche, lizardlady, Lost_in_the_woods
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#12
May 03, 2016, 03:43 PM
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Save more money for my old age.
Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk
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Bipolar I, Depression, GAD Meds: Zoloft, Zyprexa, Ritalin "Each morning we are born again. What we do today is what matters most." -Buddha  |
| eskielover, Skeezyks
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#13
May 03, 2016, 05:51 PM
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I would tell my (much) younger self, still living with the 'rents - they are lying when they say this is as good as it gets. Yes, there are some really rough times ahead, but there are some mighty fine times coming too.
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| eskielover, LiteraryLark, Lost_in_the_woods
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| Lost_in_the_woods
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#14
May 03, 2016, 06:53 PM
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Graduate before you get married ( had about 18 credits left to graduate with a double major, but married to a man I knew for just 6 months instead)
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Nammu …Beyond a wholesome discipline, be gentle with yourself. You are a child of the universe no less than the trees and the stars; you have a right to be here. …... Desiderata Max Ehrmann |
| eskielover, justafriend306, lizardlady, Lost_in_the_woods, Skeezyks, Takeshi
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#15
May 04, 2016, 06:57 AM
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Quote:
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#16
May 04, 2016, 06:59 AM
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I would have asked for help - any help. If only I had been brave enough to talk to a teacher. Actually the idea never occured to me.
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| Lost_in_the_woods, Nimportequoi
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#17
May 04, 2016, 07:29 AM
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I would tell my past self that don't listen to what other people are saying. Trust in oneself.
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| eskielover, Lost_in_the_woods
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#18
May 04, 2016, 12:26 PM
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I would tell my 21 year old self to listen to those red flags about the guy you are getting married to & not be talked out of them by your mom. Then I would tell that same self that there are some problems with personalities that can't be fixed with education. Now that I know that ASD was the contributing factors to the issues & also to why my dad was the way he was, I would give myself that understanding & would definitely NOT GET MARRIED TO THIS GUY!!!!!!! Choose staying single it wouldn't be any more lonely than the marriage ended up & a lot less fighting.
I would tell my 45 year old self dealing with depression that it wasn't JUST the loss of career that's causing the depression but having to still deal with that same guy I didn't listen to the red flags about in the marriage & even though I felt trapped, there will be a way out other that the suicide attempts I kept trying. There IS a wonderful life ahead to truly enjoy..just be patient.
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 Leo's favorite place was in the passenger seat of my truck. We went everywhere together like this. Leo my soulmate will live in my heart FOREVER Nov 1, 2002 - Dec 16, 2018 |
| LiteraryLark, Lost_in_the_woods
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#19
May 05, 2016, 12:43 PM
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Im tryin to think of advice to give my current self. I promise i'll listen this time!!
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| lizardlady, Lost_in_the_woods
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#20
May 05, 2016, 01:07 PM
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Don't worry about stepping on their Mother's toes...advocate for your step son's mental health back when it first hit and not wait until he was 18. Trust your gut on this one as you were right from the get go.
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| eskielover, Lost_in_the_woods
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#21
May 05, 2016, 11:35 PM
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If I could go back and give my 18 year old self advice...
1. Rethink who your friends are. Don't give your loyalty to people who won't reciprocate. 2. Work and save up a lot of money. 3. Take a break before going to college. Join the Peace Corp or an international volunteer ministry for a year to get your feet wet about what you want to do with your life. 4. Get through school as fast as possible. 5. Get better grades, because I know I can do it, I'm smart and I just need to apply myself. 6. Set strong boundaries between myself and my family and if they don't like it, too bad. My health is worth more. 7. Don't be afraid to develop yourself and your own person. |
| Lost_in_the_woods
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| eskielover, LiteraryLark, Lost_in_the_woods
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#22
May 05, 2016, 11:48 PM
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#23
May 05, 2016, 11:55 PM
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Fasten your seatbelt. Also, always be prepared.
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"My own mind is my own Church." - Thomas Paine |
| lizardlady, Lost_in_the_woods, shezbut
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#24
May 06, 2016, 12:57 AM
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Don't let your boss talk you into taking the promotion, she'll screw you over at every turn and your health will suffer.
Oh and to my even younger self don't let that woman hating, patronising member of the old boys club fob you off saying it is just growing pains, glandular fever has effected your ligaments which means you'll wake up one morning having dislocated your kneecap in your sleep and that is only the beginning !!!
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#25
May 06, 2016, 07:03 AM
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Do not marry at 18. I understand you're having a nightmarish life right now but running away won't solve anything. Stay in school, go to college, and plan out your life.
If you don't, it's going to take into your 30's feeling just as trapped but you can't run away forever. Do things the right way. Sent from my iPhone 5c using Tapatalk.
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(ᵔᴥᵔ)You'll struggle but as long as you're alive, you've got a chance.(ᵔᴥᵔ) |
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