What incomprehensibly ‘irks’ you?

My assertiveness flies out of the window when I actually need help. I’m terrible at asking for help. I am so very obviously disabled and I actually bristle when assistance is given without my asking. But I would never — never — be anything but constant in my kindest towards those who care for me. Whether in my right mind or not I cannot be cruel — and I can be so very cruel — towards caregivers or door-openers or people who pick up the objects that I am constantly dropping.

[SIDEBAR — WARNING: OFF TOPIC\SUE ME] As I went outside this morning, two of my neighbors came outside helping another neighbor, Mr. Price, walk and settle onto a bench. Mr. Price suffered a stroke last year and my glanced assumption was that he was having difficulties walking.

And then I saw his face.

He had blood running from his forehead and into his eyes. His left eye was swollen shut and he had a knot sized like one-half of a grapefruit above the eye. He looked as if he had been beaten. Badly beaten.

And he had.

He had taken in one of the three CRACK *****S that infest this neighborhood and she had, he said, beaten him with a 12-ounce bottle of some sort of ginseng concoction. I asked him if it was okay if I called the paramedics and police and he said yes. (Several of the residents, not being on the best of terms with law enforcement officials scrammed.) The CRACK ***** was still in his apartment. Three police cars were here within minutes followed by paramedics. The woman was arrested and Mr. Price taken to the VA hospital.

Then I met a new neighbor and we discovered that we had just missed one another at our mutual alma mater.

Life can be strange.

[END SIDEBAR: BACK TO TOPIC. SOD OFF.]

I am irked by crack *****s who are so stereotypical. I am irked by people who take advantage of, and harm, others. I am irked because I cannot protect my neighbors. I am irked because my landlord is a slumlord who cares nothing for the safety and well-being of his tenants.

I am irked.

when people pretend they know what you're talking about, but when you ask them what they like about it or any other question, they can't answer it

then later they ask.... so what is it?

okay clearly you didn't know, so why didn't you say that from the start

or people that need help- and they admit to needing the help, you ask if you can be of assistance and get told by them no... no, I'm fine I can do it myself

people that insist on having something from the shop (I mean cause a real tantrum over it)

so, you buy it and give it to them, only to be told...

well, I don't like it

or when you buy a birthday present for someone (like something they really want), and they are ungreatful for it

When someone buys something, eats it for days then says they don’t like it and demands that a person takes them to the shop and screams their name despite that they are busy with someone a lot nicer and calmer

......

yes, that too.

just for the record, I don't know anyone like that. lol

when someone says... back in 10 minits
...
and an hour later they still arn't back

When you have to get out of the giant bean bag chair because you left the remote on the TV stand.

When I'm bothered I know why. Is that strange?

The "not knowing" - happens to me way too much. I have concluded that many people (at least, many in my life) are poor listeners in addition to not really caring that much about what others (I) have to say. So they claim to know what someone (I) have said, when the truth is they weren't listening and don't want to admit it. Poor listening skills seems to be a disease of western civilization.

I understand irkedness. All too well, I'm afraid. Maybe we're all here, on this forum, simply because we are irked.

Guilty.

I am obviously disabled and when it’s obvious that I obviously need help I am so very grateful towards those who rescue me that I’ll hand them a genuine Hallmark “Thank You” greeting card.

However.

When it’s obvious that I obviously need no help (pushing the giant handicapped-symbol button to open automatic doors) I can get a little ruffled and reply (in my happy-voice), “no thanks! I can do it!”

It’s a very fine line, really. I try to maintain some humor and kindness towards all. When a 6-year-old child stage-whispers, “Mommy! That man don’t have no legs!” I laugh it off when Mommy says to me, “I am so sorry!” in red-faced embarrassment.

I have been thinking about kindness a lot of late.

I pass out and fall from my chair often. I wear a ‘panic pendant’ and the EMT/firefighters have a master key, check me out, clean my wounds (and I always have wounds) and make sure that I’m okay before leaving.

But. People also often take advantage of me. When I’m at most helpless. Usually involves money and property. This shames me. I’m ‘Mr. Price,’ too.

It is. A mystery. The biggest mystery, to me, is why the majority of our race behave so horribly towards one another? I have my theories but no concrete answers.

[BROAD STATEMENT] I think that my continued state of being irked contributes to my continuous state of disappointment and glum outlook for future generations. The terrible events of the 1960’s should have emboldened us to effect change but instead filled us with fear and fear has become our greatest motivator. I can smell it even on myself. In conquering (I do not know how) my agoraphobia and experiencing genuine happiness this past week, I have also lost all hope for the future of my country.[END BROAD STATEMENT]

Now it’s time for a mug of chamomile tea.

Oddly enough, I am often irked by myself more than the outside world (I've grown used to the world in general being irksome).

I am frequently irked that I notice myself being irked (and so on).

But the #1 winner of my irkdom, is having that moment of premonition that someone is about to say/do something incredibly irksome & then having it confirmed by their doing so. Surprise irkings are nowhere near as annoying as the ones you know are imminent, but utterly unavoidable...

when people with mental health issues are spoken to like they are 4 years old

we're not babies

really, we can understand, normal every day speak

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When people take my work at work. At my last job I had a coworker who would just start taking over the stuff I was doing. I would be working at the table and she would just come over and grab huge handfuls of MY stuff. The manager told me I should be upset when that happens.

The same thing happened today at work. My coworker asked me if the pile of stuff needed to be done and she asked me to push the ENTIRE pile of stuff to her. I really wish I had spoken up. I hope she got the hint when I shoved the pile to her and walked off.

spam messages.

hate it when people are enjoying a site or a discussion, and then along comes someone to post random rubbish

usually filthy stuff, too

Grown adults who throw a fit when you mention Christmas.

I’m not making that up either. I know people like this.

the ending to the song, " hey jude", by the beatles

fair enough, good song

but does the ending really need to be so long, and so reppettitive

There is a house down at the corner of my street. The lawn is completely unkempt. In particular the owner has weeds, bushes, and even trees growing from holes in the sidewalk - trees and weeds reaching higher than my own 5'7" height. Not only am I forced to walk off the sidewalk and onto the street the whole mess is a danger as it blocks the view of oncoming traffic. There have been numerousc close calls - we hear the screech of tires and horns honking on a near daily basis. We have contacted the city and they simply said they will get to it when they can. That was a month ago.

when their is so much stuff on your desk, that finding anything becomes a challenge

coke bottles that spill coke all over you (you know what I mean)

When parents say “since I can’t afford it for my kid, no other kid should have it so my kid doesn’t feel left out.”

What about when you talk about a show 15 hours after it ended and someone complains about spoilers? This happened with American Idol and now I’m hesitant about posting any spoilers no matter how long the shows been over.

This new totally bs premise that I am somehow responsible for your specific interpretation of what you THINK I said...

people that insist on opening windows in any type of weather condition

if it's hot and sunny, I understand

but anything else... rain, snow, thunderstorms, heavy wind, it's not needed. I know someone like that- they are so frustrating!

I also find it rather annoying when someone says "I'm cold, can we have the heating on", on a really, hot, boiling day- or people that insist on wearing layers of clothes on warm days and then complain that they are hot (I wonder why that could be?. hmm. )