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Old Aug 22, 2018, 09:19 AM
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Well it is more a discomfort really. I am bothered when I get friend requests on FB from complete strangers. Worse still is when there is no connection to current friends. Delete, delete, delete.

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Old Aug 22, 2018, 09:35 AM
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Old Aug 22, 2018, 10:28 AM
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I agree with you. What if you’d had a coupon for a free oil change & lube job and, upon entering the establishment, you saw a sign that proclaimed a ‘free oil change & lube job’ for all customers and with no mention of a coupon? Would you hand the coupon over? No! Would you balk if the employee told you that those services were only available with a coupon? Yes!

The employee was at fault, not your expectations.

I have mixed feelings concerning retail service.

My experiences have largely been exceptional and that’s what I expect. I’ve had a handful of unpleasant experiences, though, and that’s when I complain. Sharing the latter, one friend might say ‘it’s only a kid in an ice cream shop,’ but that, I think, makes the position menial and puts the ‘kid’ at risk, giving him the impression that what he does is has no consequence.

Is the store regional or a chain? I would write and complain of the experience.
I’m not sure if it’s regional or not but it was Cold Stone Creamery.
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Old Aug 23, 2018, 04:06 AM
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people that know you are struggling and having a bad time of things, but still ask (in a happy, cheery, care free) way,

so.... how's it going?

it's almost like they don't even listen
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Old Aug 23, 2018, 04:07 AM
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on a related note, when you tell someone how it's going and they just wonder off
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Old Aug 23, 2018, 08:44 AM
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I have great difficulty with people not meeting my expectations in the workplace. My therapist has suggested I lower my standards but I think they are already so low that to do so would be the epitome of ridiculousness and just not caring. My standards seem to me to be common sense.

Is it unreasonable of me to expect a coworker to have a work ethic? Is it unreasonable to expect them to arrive on time? To care about their performance? To pull their weight? How on earth could I possibly drop my standards beneath what already seems the bare minimum?
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Old Aug 23, 2018, 08:50 AM
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On the topic of work, as a manager, I was frequently unimpressed and irked by ridiculous behaviour and expectations of people applying for and interviewing for a position. Applicants would come completely unprepared. Some would come inappropriately dressed (like who shows up for an interview in beachwear?). The coup d'etat? When young adults would show up and bring mommy and daddy into the interview. What on earth????? Really? Then there would be those, who on applying for a job, already expect and dictate their hours of work and days off. What the? Use common sense please.
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Old Aug 23, 2018, 05:16 PM
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This one may irk others.

I can’t stand the ubiquitous ‘baseball caps’ that have become an accessory for every man, woman and child worldwide.

I don’t know when hats went out of style (some credit JFK with his fabulous locks — but even he wore a proper hat to his inauguration!) or when baseball caps became the rage. I’m irked when (non-baseball-players) wear the caps on television interviews. I’m okay with vets wearing them and young men playing little-league baseball — but grown men is suits or wearing blazers? Ugh.

Some people see my hat-wearing as an affectation, like bow ties. Maybe so.
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Old Aug 24, 2018, 08:01 AM
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This one may irk others.

I can’t stand the ubiquitous ‘baseball caps’ that have become an accessory for every man, woman and child worldwide.

I don’t know when hats went out of style (some credit JFK with his fabulous locks — but even he wore a proper hat to his inauguration!) or when baseball caps became the rage. I’m irked when (non-baseball-players) wear the caps on television interviews. I’m okay with vets wearing them and young men playing little-league baseball — but grown men is suits or wearing blazers? Ugh.

Some people see my hat-wearing as an affectation, like bow ties. Maybe so.
Ah, the great 'hat' debate. I have two points of input here on the 'irking' note. I can't stand when people don't remove their caps when etiquette dictates they do; in restaurants, during standing at attention (ie. national anthems), or times of respect. A ball cap has its purpose; wearing it every waking hour is ridiculous to me. And then there are tuques. It has become fashionable to wear them year round (thank the hipsters for this) - even in scorching hot weather. Really? Yep, the hat thing is a sore point for me.
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Old Aug 24, 2018, 08:21 AM
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it really irks me when someone compares not liking something, to being alergic to something

being alergic is a lot more serious
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Old Aug 24, 2018, 12:31 PM
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Being bored. It doesn't make me tired, it pisses me off.
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Old Aug 24, 2018, 07:27 PM
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Being bored. It doesn't make me tired, it pisses me off.
Agreed. Sometimes I attribute my boredom to my manic state which requires constant stimulation.
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Old Aug 24, 2018, 11:34 PM
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Old Aug 25, 2018, 08:03 PM
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A guy at work was talking about how people wear name brand clothes to make themselves feel better and that they don’t actually like the clothes that they are just trying to fit in. He said he doesn’t participate in any of that stuff.

But he was wearing Vans and I’ve seen him wearing a North Face jacket. It just seems kind of hypocritical and I can not stand hypocrites.
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Old Aug 25, 2018, 11:26 PM
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Old Aug 26, 2018, 03:59 AM
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A guy at work was talking about how people wear name brand clothes to make themselves feel better and that they don’t actually like the clothes that they are just trying to fit in. He said he doesn’t participate in any of that stuff.

But he was wearing Vans and I’ve seen him wearing a North Face jacket. It just seems kind of hypocritical and I can not stand hypocrites.
I don’t wear clothing with any visible logos or text — I’m a little irked when others advertise each item of clothing; I just don’t like to feel like a billboard. I have certain brands that I prefer, and wearing those brands probably does make me feel more... confident and comfortable? But I simply don’t like to pay to advertise brands.
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Old Aug 26, 2018, 02:22 PM
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I don’t wear clothing with any visible logos or text — I’m a little irked when others advertise each item of clothing; I just don’t like to feel like a billboard. I have certain brands that I prefer, and wearing those brands probably does make me feel more... confident and comfortable? But I simply don’t like to pay to advertise brands.
I got teased a lot when I was a kid because my clothes were not name brand. I think that’s why I’m particular about brands now.
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Old Aug 26, 2018, 03:32 PM
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Plus some brand names and expensive clothes are actually made to last. Most of my Levi’s I’ve had since May 2017 and they have held up really well despite the fact my job is very active.

But yeah I don’t get Gucci, Michael Kors or Prada because all your doing is advertising you have money. It seems dumb and kind of dangerous.
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Old Aug 26, 2018, 03:51 PM
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I can’t stand the ubiquitous ‘baseball caps’ that have become an accessory for every man, woman and child worldwide.

I don’t know when hats went out of style (some credit JFK with his fabulous locks — but even he wore a proper hat to his inauguration!) or when baseball caps became the rage. I’m irked when (non-baseball-players) wear the caps on television interviews. I’m okay with vets wearing them and young men playing little-league baseball — but grown men is suits or wearing blazers? Ugh.

Some people see my hat-wearing as an affectation, like bow ties. Maybe so.
Never mind the omnipresence of baseball caps in every walk of life.
Never mind that they're free advertising for whoever's logo is plastered over them (even if they were freebies)..
It's the damn insistence on wearing them spɹɐʍʞɔɐq that irks me!


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Old Aug 26, 2018, 04:04 PM
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It irks me when I go out of my way to help someone, because they asked, and then they ream me out because the help I can provide is insufficient for their needs. And, mind you, I'm doing them a favor.

It irks me when people call my phone late at night, who aren't friends or family.

It irks me when someone sends me a work email after 6pm my time and seems to expect that I will see it and respond to it before I come back to my desk at 8am the next morning.

It irks me when people want things but they are entirely unclear in their requests.

It irks me when my puppy stands on the potty pad but misses. !!!! Lol.

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Old Aug 26, 2018, 04:07 PM
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Old Aug 26, 2018, 04:20 PM
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People who complain all the time!
People who complain about the above! ;p

BTW, a lot of these irks seem comprehensible to me - I mean, they're things you probably should get hot under the collar about, whereas the thread was likely more aimed at stuff that makes you when it really deserves a
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People who complain about the above! ;p

BTW, a lot of these irks seem comprehensible to me - I mean, they're things you probably should get hot under the collar about, whereas the thread was likely more aimed at stuff that makes you when it really deserves a
Sorry, I misunderstood the OP.

I guess it's incomprehensible to me because why does that person do that!?!?!?!?

I will try to think of something that irks me for no comprehensible reason.
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Old Aug 26, 2018, 04:32 PM
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Sorry, I misunderstood the OP.

I guess it's incomprehensible to me because why does that person do that!?!?!?!?

I will try to think of something that irks me for no comprehensible reason.
Oops, I didn't make myself clear - my comment wasn't aimed at your posts, seesaw (or anyone in particular's) - it was merely general observation. I will agree that what's comprehensible for one person may be incomprehensible for another. Something that the 1st person probably finds quite incomprehensible...
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I’m asking what, incomprehensibly, ‘irks’ you? What annoys you, gets under your skin

Too often... everything!
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