Secret Santa Once a Day

I didn't do anything. I felt like I had a cold so I just stayed in bed in the afternoon and evening with a steam heat vaporizor on. I read the book based on the movie "Adrift" about a women who was adrift on the sea for six weeks and survived by sailing to safety all by herself --- after her boyfriend was swept overboard in a hurricane. Today I have to "shine" things up in my place because fire inspectors are coming around to all the apartments this week. My situation is difficult because I am 100% isolated. Not just pretense...really 100%. It is something I need to resolve in 2019. Frankly, I can't believe I am still sane. The holidays mean little to me. I need to find employment and other serious stuff in 2019.

I don't have any good ideas for Solstice decorations. I am planning on going to a Solstice service at a Unitarian church in my area. I am feeling better today so may go to the crafts supply store just because it cheers me up. I still haven't mailed out my Christmas packages so need to do that today.


I only come on Psych Central when my situation feels dire...so in this state I don't have much to offer.

Well, most everybody has to find employment and deal with serious stuff, whatja expect!!! but most people also need some fun and enjoyable relationships in their lives. "dire" sounds melodramatic, like what you say about the world being terrible and no one cares. You say you only come up here for being supported when you feel horrible, but you can't be that selfish cos people seem to like you very much here .

I was enjoying chatting is all. Wasn't expecting anything from you, was just something simple. Now I feel shut up, but sympathetic, and well anyway - …. I'm totally irrelevant to such a "dire" situation. Smile. See I worked for long years in a dire situation, it was just in my view something I had to do to support myself financially. It felt horrible but feelings are a short-term criteria for actions with long-term consequences. I needed a home more than I needed comfortable feelings. But then, I'm atypical for western society.

Wish you well in whatever you choose to do!

See ya around one day!

Your not a meanie

I find that it helps to have some sort of routine if you feel too isolated. If not a job, maybe a volunteer activity. Just something to force you out of the house.

[QUOTE=saidso;6368878]Well, most everybody has to find employment and deal with serious stuff, whatja expect!!! but most people also need some fun and enjoyable relationships in their lives. "dire" sounds melodramatic, like what you say about the world being terrible and no one cares. You say you only come up here for being supported when you feel horrible, but you can't be that selfish cos people seem to like you very much here .

I was enjoying chatting is all. Wasn't expecting anything from you, was just something simple. Now I feel shut up, but sympathetic, and well anyway - …. I'm totally irrelevant to such a "dire" situation. Smile. See I worked for long years in a dire situation, it was just in my view something I had to do to support myself financially. It felt horrible but feelings are a short-term criteria for actions with long-term consequences. I needed a home more than I needed comfortable feelings. But then, I'm atypical for western society.

Wish you well in whatever you choose to do!

See ya around one day![/QUOTE

I don't really come on Psych Central to chat. However, I also didn't start this thread on a super heavy note. It was just about doing little things to engender generosity during the holiday. I really don't know why you are feeling offended. I certainly don't need to be lectured. Or made to feel guilty. Or told how to "do life." Again, this is Psych Central. People who come on here are dealing with mental health issues that may make others things harder to do. I have no idea why you are here but obviously you have huffed off.

This thread wasn't about advice giving...or about how to relate to feelings...or any of that.

I will remind you that personal messaging is a good way to "chat" with someone. When you go on a thread you should probably try to stick with the topic of that thread and not go off on your own tangents or, my goodness, harass or lecture the OP!

So, no, I don't want to "chat" -- this is a thread about what people might do to engender a sense of spirit when they aren't feeling it.

As far as calling my use of the word "dire" melodramatic...I might remind you that Psych Central is not about invalidating other people's sense of their own reality. Psych Central is about respect...and, I suppose...if you have something really personal to say to some it is better to use personal messaging rather than "go off" on someone on a thread. My goodness!

If I wasn't responding in the right way by chatting you could have just told me so and I would have stopped chatting. You changed the subject of giving to people to deer being hit by cars yourself, so I got muddled by your communications.

Hey, do you have a Secret Santa tip? Because that's the topic of this thread. I am sorry you got ME off track as well. Save your psycho-babble for some other thread. This is about Secret Santa stuff. I was suggesting people not text in their cars as a nice Secret Santa gesture. I used deer getting injured as an example because I didn't want to get into the fact that texting in cars has become a MAJOR cause of human fatalities. And it is so simple, like, people, when you are driving just drive.

This thread's topic is about Secret Santa activities...not how to reduce isolation or improve one's life. SECRET SANTA TIPS, please, and leave off with the life advice.

You are back? Okay, I was saying people could not text in their cars as a Secret Santa gesture. Because it is a freaking dangerous thing and has become epidemic. So just driving in a safe way would be a Secret Santa gesture. Geez, it's not rocket science.

I also see you have been on this forum for less than two months while I have been here for years...so I don't need to be lectured to about how I am missing out on people's lovely comments because of negative projecting.

You are new...so once again...I will remind you...you have hijacked this thread which is a big NO NO. You need to stay with the topic or go to another thread.

People are not staying on topic so I am requesting this thread be closed.

This thread is closed at the request of the OP