Angry people......

I live in a really nice area of town....relatively quiet, clean, nice neighbors...kids and dogs etc etc. I really enjoy living here and feel very comfy here.

The other night, the neighbors had been drinking and decided to take a fight they were having out into the street. This happened around midnight. It woke me and my daughter up and we were just about ready to call the police when I said to myself...no...I will handle this. I stepped outside my door and saw 2 young women and a guy taking swings at each other in the street and yelling and swearing at the top of their lungs. I just yelled over them "KNOCK IT OFF!!!" The three of them stopped dead in their tracks and turned to look at me. I told them they had one minute to take it back into their home or the police would be called. My daughter told them we had a child sleeping here (my grandson was sleeping on the couch) and if they woke him up there would be hell to pay.

They quickly apologized and went right back into their home. I'm hoping that they also calmed down a bit and made no more physical advances towards one another. No one made contact in their swing mode before I yelled at them...they were too unsteady on their feet to be effective. *sigh*

So now, everything is cool....back to being quiet. That happened on Saturday night. So, last night I went to bed, everything is good....I'm sound asleep as are my daughter and her bf. I never heard our roomie drive in with his loud truck...so I really must have been sleeping soundly. At about 3:15am, all of a sudden I hear tires squeeling and a woman yelling at the top of her lungs and she's laying on the horn of her van. At first I thought it was a dream, but then soon woke up enough to realize it was happening in MY driveway!!

Down the stairs I run (not a good thing for me to do) and flew out the door. There stands our roomie, outside the drivers side door and it's his g/f or now ex- g/f who's been following him all day and waited for him to get home so she could confront him. OMG...I was LIVID!!! She scared the crap out of me and my daughter. The roomie had stayed away from my home all day because this woman had been hunting him down and he didn't want her showing up here. He figured it was safe to come home at 3am thinking she would be home asleep by then. Nope....not her.....she had to spill her hatred and ridiculous crap at my house at 3:15am and wake up the whole neighborhood in the process. Great...and this a night after yelling at the neighbors for their crap. Good grief....so much for safety and comfort in my own home...quiet and solitude has gone right out the window......

Roomie said he was going to come home at 5pm but decided he didn't want her coming to the house chasing him down. I told him it would have been better to happen at 5pm than 3:15AM!!! Daughter is going to find her today and let her know that she is not to come to our home anymore and if she does, we will be calling the police. (I hate to involve them in stuff like this, would much rather deal personally with it). This is such childish and ridiculous behavior....it's time to grow up and act like the adults that they are.

Guess it's time to find a place deep in the woods and hob nob with the wild animals....at least they have reason to howl in the middle of the night....and it's acceptable LOL. That, I could handle....................

oh my!! oh dear! lol that sounds stressful! I am so thankful at times to live out in the country. maybe I need to move to the city again to get some excitement lol! hehe hon I hope things settle down for you there. really time to tell the roomie it has to stop! good luck hon

(((((((((((((((((( sabby ))))))))))))))
That sounds very stressful, I hope things work out and things start to quiet down for you and your family.


p.s. If you decide to move deep into the woods, can I go with you? I promise to be quiet, I could use some calm, quiet time too.

Gosh! How exciting! Seriously though that sounds scary, hope it all settles down for you. (((((((((((( sabby ))))))))))))

I just get owls hooting and cows mooing at that time of night!

((sabby)))) ive been in that place a lot lately so i can really relate to the feelings you have about needing/wanting peace and quiet and not wanting to have to become like your neighbor and yet, still needing to assert yourself for your own and your familys well being.. wish i didnt understand it so well...

i keep learning the same thing again and again... kindness always outlasts anger... anger uses a lot of mental and body fuel, calmness uses little... as the outbursters expend the energy, they may go through phases of loud and then louder.. the peaceful usually only need to outlast them until... well heres a story lol...

the village enjoyed its wild weekends.. it often gathered in the center and played music, wild dancing, and questionable other affairs occured backstage of the main events... they lasted for hours...

the neighboring village was quiet and meek.. they preferred calm to rioting... they hunkered down in the huts and waited while the wild bunch exhausted itself completley, to the last one, falling softly to the ground and sleeping there until the rowdy activities became hazy memories...

often the revelling village was short on supplies for various reasons.. sometimes it was water, others, it was food... the neighboring village always offered its assistance to the suffering village..

in time, the partying crowd grew wiser and began to shorten the weekend revelry and instead spent more time in the fields gathering crops and foods... the village health began to improve and the two villages became friendly neighbors.. it was a real chore at times and required a great measure of inner faith and patience from the meeker village... after awhile, they all became great friends...

best to you always

((((sabby))))))))))))))))))))
It can be so hard to handle when ppl have been drinking and they get angry.
Its so very hard when it spills into your area ((waking you)))
That would be scary.
You wonder what drives ppl to such a sad thing on each other.
Remember to keep you safe too my friend. Next time yell out a window?
stay safe...
awwwww
muffy

I agree that it would be nice if adults acted like -- adults. We could use more of them everywhere.

Hugs for Sabby from Angel!

Thanks everyone for your comments and support!

It just really frosts my butt when stuff like this happens. It's just so childish and inconsiderate......grrrrrr.

I was never in fear for my safety or that of my family.....and I have been sort of "conditioned" from my past abuse that I stand up and face the aggressive ones....no matter how shaky I am inside. It was one of those things where I either stood up and survived or coward in the corner and I refused to do that. I had to learn to set my boundaries....no matter what the cost, for my own survival. Another thing I've learned is to always have a Plan B for a quick getaway LOL.

Hopefully this holiday week will be quieter and happier


sabby

((((((((((sabby))))))))))))
I know how you feel. At my other house my neighbors are drunks and when I'm living at my other house all I hear is them screaming every night. And my bedroom window is right next to their front door, and they always sit outside at the table and drink.
I hope things get better!

((((((((((( manda )))))))))))) That's horrible you have to listen to that when you are there. Good grief.....I'm so sorry hon.

I do hope things get better for the both of us!!! Happy New Year to you sweety


sabby

u need one of those people zappers. They are remote controlled and u point them at a person and if they rude/scary meter registers high enough it zaps them and thy poof disappear. I saw it on an informercial. They sell everything these days.

yeah that sucks. it was nice of you to tell them to knock it off and given them a chance to do that before calling the police. sometimes it is better to get the police involved in these kinds of things, though. not so charges are laid necessarily, but more so there is a record and the threat of things being taken much further next time can often be enough to prevent recurrence.

it really does suck. hang in there.

I did that once upon a time! Wish I was still there because I miss the coyotes howling in the middle of the night... even the ones that howled right under my bedroom window and sent me flying into the air and landing on my feet from the startle! Dang, those guys are loud up close!

I'd rather have that than a neighbor who is constantly annoying you with stupidity and wondering why management is after him when he admits to being a horder. His house is full and overflowing almost to the street! His last place caught fire because of all the junk! Some people never learn.

Take me out to the country!