My Mom passed.

(((((((((( Sky )))))))))))

I'm so sorry to hear of your loss, may her soul have peace.

Dearest Sky,

My condolences for the loss of your Mother.

May solace come quickly to you and family and your Mom's friends ~

Peace and Love,
Night
xoxo

(((((((((Sky))))))))))))))))))

Deepest sympathies. I'm glad that she was able to pass peacefully, but that doesn't do much for the grief you must be feeling at the moment.

I'll say a prayer for you, your mother and your family.

(((((((( Sky ))))))))) Take care of you Sky, my thoughts are with you.

I thought the stress from making all those tough end of life decisions was bad....

...... I seem to be crashing without any control whatsoever.

However, My best friend is on her way to take me to dinner tonight. I think one of my brothers and his wife will join us.

I've tried to place obit notices in two different papers all day and haven't accomplished a thing! I mean, I wrote and tried, but none of the information I thought I had correct was even close. And my other sister hasn't shared what the final arrangements even are... what day even...

Oh mom. She's fine. It's me who is grieving.

((((((((((((((((( Jean )))))))))))))))))))))

No matter how much you think you have prepared both mind and heart for this time to come, the finality of it all crashes through and can take you right off your feet.

I remember like it was yesterday every single emotion I went through when my mom passed. I still feel them to this day some 28 years later. The only thing I can tell you is that old saying about time healing is so very true.

You are a good and loving daughter. You can only do the best you can do and mom knows that. Please be easy on yourself especially right now. You will have your ups and downs....it is inevitable. Don't fight them, let them come, deal with them when you have the strength.

Sky,
I'm so sorry for your loss. Grief is such a complicated thing--an entity, almost. Take gentle care and listen to yourself.

gg

((((((((((sky)))))))))))))))))))))) Im so sorry for your loss.
you were so very good to your mom
Im so glad someone is coming to be with you tonight.
my prayers are with you
take care of you the best you can,right now

(((((((((((((((((((((((Sky)))))))))))))))))))))))))))

Grief is so hard. Be gentle with you.

Sigh. My brother called the sister who is making the arrangements and found out what they are...so I amended the obit and emailed it (for the fourth time?) whew! Done.

Nope.
Brother told me at dinner that sister now says they are NOT finalized. (And indeed they shouldn't be because they don't give us enough time to get things done! She is running us up against the grave workers' need to go home for the weekend and they lock the gates! So.... should we take our own shovels or will mom sit out in the weather all weekend?) DOH. I had to send still another email going back to the other one previously... and yet, now wait to see if she pays for it in am or maybe it won't run anyway?

Anyway. Family.

((((((((((((Sky))))))))))))))
More hugs - for as long as you need.

Dearest(((sky))) Im so sorry you are going threw all this. Call the funeral home ((which i am sure you have done already)) the directors there are always very helpful. I know here and that maybe just , so please forgive me if thats the case. They will bury on weekends . Yes it costs extra. I know from experence.
Also if you decide not to go that way they will keep your mom safe . Till its time. ((they will not leave your mom out in the weather))))))
I pray your sister will be kinder and this all gets worked out.
I know how hard it is on you.
My prayers are with you ......so very hard on you Im sorry.

(((((((((((Sky)))))))))))),

My prayers are with you & your family. I have been reading your posts on your Mothers declining health.......brought back some memories of my own......but I am glad she was able to to have a mostly healthy & peaceful life & that the end came peacefully.

89 1/2 years gave you a long enjoyment with her & I know many wonderful memories to hold onto. Amazing how God gives us little pieces of information when we look back on it....things we don't recognize exactly at the time.

It is wonderful to know that she is in her beautiful white robe, dancing with your Dad.......I know just how much peace that gives to you.

There are always struggles with funeral arrangements....I was the only one involved in arranging my Mothers funeral & I was in the hospital the whole time.....except for a few days when I had to escape AMA to even go to the funeral.....it was in January & the rains wouldn't stop long enough.....took over 2 weeks before we could have the funeral. Her church held a memorial service......the graveside funeral was only for relatives & very close friends for my protection......I am glad that you can do a special funeral for your mother....as it is the time for all who care to come together...I am sure the details will all work out the way they are supposed to.....knowing it adds to the stress, but it all works out in the end no matter how much we are stressed about it. I am sure it will be a beautiful remembrance for your MOther....as funerals are for the ones left behind as a tribute to the one who has died.....which is why we always want it to be perfect......I am sure it will be.....even with a glitch here or there.

Just want you to know that you & your family are in my prayers & I know the sorrow you are feeling & yet the peace at the same time. It is never easy to let go when the actual time comes, but we know that her future is with God & that is what is important.


Debbie

(((Sky)))) you are doing well with all thats on your plate... stuff happens that we dont expect sometimes, i hope you will roll along with it the best you can (you will ) .. peace will come to you after the stuff slows down a little, be kind to you

((((((((((((((((( Jean )))))))))))))))))))))

Thinking of you and praying for you.

((((((((((((((((( Jean ))))))))))))))))))

I'm so sorry for your loss.

Gentle hugs,

Jan

Sky I'm sorry to hear of your loss. My Mom died at the end of December and the first couple months were very tough. Thinking about the good times helped. Also thinking about Dad turning off his hearing aids so he couldn't hear her just like while he was alive!! Those things helped.

Remember the good times and be glad you had the time with her that you did. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. Be well and take care of yourself.

((((Sky))))

Thinking of you ~ sorry it's been difficult.

Peace and Love,
Night
xoxo

(((((((Sky)))))

Thinking and holding you and your family up in prayer during this time. Know everything will be okay, you have your Heavenly Father right beside you. I know how these last several months have been hard on you but God has blessed you with many good memories. Everything will work out in His timing your mother is already safe in His arms. Take care of you Sky. Give yourself some time--time to rest, time to heal, time to listen, time to be what you need to be. We are here for you if you need us to be here to help you and hold you up for awhile. Your strength has been amazing. Know that I am hear in prayer and as a your friend. May God continue to surround you with His love and grace.

dps

Services are Friday (tomorrow)... I can do the local church viewing and service, but just cannot do the procession down south to the cemetery.

Mom would understand. Always said, "You do what you can do and don't worry about anyone else."

Hope you're doing OK. My thoughts and prayers are with you. Remember we're here when you need to talk. Be well. Joe

Sky, talk with your sister before you worry about the obit notices. When my Mom passed away in Dec, the funeral director wrote the obit when he met with us to make the arrangements. It might already be done.

Boy it's rough. It was months before I could even start cleaning out Mom's condo. It will take time. Give yourself that time. It's ok to be very sad. Try to remember the good times you had with Mom. That helped me. Be well

Joe

Thinking of you and your family today ((((((((((((((( Sky ))))))))))))))))))))

My thoughts and prayers are with you.


sabby

Thank you all. I've come up for air now.... but sure has been a tough week, and a tougher day today. I made the right decision to not go down to the graveside in the processional. It was thunderstorming the whole drive down they said, but blue skies and white clouds once they arrived.

I needed the nap I took while waiting.

Always glitches when you're working or waiting for others, moreso with family?
I'm so glad it's over.
I doubt I will see some of the family ever again.
My oldest brother is ok... not sure I shared that he could have been on that plane that went down coming back from Brazil... but no, he's still in Iraq. Whew! But we just heard from him this morning. He rushed flowers to the graveside!!!! Wow..flowers (ordered from Iraq ) arrived within 3 hours. Gorgeous.

Mom is here with me... she rode in the limo with me and loved it! She encouraged me to get in there and take all the food that I wanted, home with me. (And not let my "big" sister intimidate me. Even though my sister hissed at me for doing so.)

Mom and I were dressed "to the nines." She taught me "it's better to be overdressed than overlooked." I'm sure many other things she taught me will come in handy.