when i was married, we made Thanksgiving our biggest celebration of the year. we always invited everyone that didn't have family to celebrate with. so it was a house full of friends and our family. i cannot tell you how much i miss that. this is the most painful time of the year for me. when a divorce occurs, you lose so much more than a spouse. and most people never think of othat, when they deal with you.

i spent my first Christmas, in NM, with a neighbor at a big powwow at the Taos Pueblos. that bothered me a lot, to not have my friends and family with me..plus most of the white people made asses out of themselves, trying to enter pueblo people's homes, etc.
so, it was a weird day. lonely and embarrassed.

....but Thanksgiving alone really sucks.
my girl's father and his wife invited my daughter, who lives here, to his house for tomorrow and i'm alone again. i can't make up my mind whether or not cooking a traditional meal will make me sadder and i'll grieve more or if i should just ignore the "traditions" and act like it's Friday. and no, i won't ask a friend to have me over. i have a phobia about things like that.

[Lexicon78]

I'm so sorry you're suffering so much right now, fayerody. If I could, I'd be right there with you so you wouldn't have to be so alone this year. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers this year hoping that somewhere, somehow you can keep from being so lonely and sad. Keep your chin up.

Take care and stay safe.

[jmo531]

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I am so sorry that your feeling like this. I do understand. Your always welcomed here any any day of the year.


Huggles,

Jen

[wanttoheal]

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I'm so sorry. we used to have big thanksgiving, inviting everyone over who didnt have a place to go too. christmas was for just us but thanksgiving was open house to everyone. husband cooked, entertained and we got to be safe by his side. now he is dead and we struggle to get through the day. i have heard divorce is worse than dying because of many reasons. i just know it's hard either way. i am sorry you are having to do this by youself. i wish you much peace today.

[kimmydawn]

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I'm so sorry. I know that this year is really hard for me. Yesterday was the six month anniversary of father's death. Also, I've put the mother out of my life and am learning much and grieving that. The baby's parents have him and haven't even called to let me know what's going on and I've raised him for a year.

I'm sorry that you feel pain, loneliness and sadness on this day. I wish I could ease that for you.

Know that you're in my thoughts. I would LOVE to share a festivity with you. Today, I wish I could.

KD

KD, are you saying that you don't have the baby any longer? i'm so sorry.......xoxox pat

[kimmydawn]

These last couple of weeks he's been spending 3-4 days during the week with his parents. I think they're trying to work him back into their lives. I'm worried. I didn't even get a phone call to know what's going on, so it's like happening right now, I think. No talks, no nothing. I don't know what's going on. Last week they got him for three days and expressed that they wanted to do that every week. That's fine as long as he's ok. But today my heart hurts.

KD

WTH, i'm sorry for your loss. it makes holidays so different and strange. the spirit is there, but you're still alone. i sent vibes to you all day......xoxox

divorce might be harder, as you know they are still out there...with a new family, etc. p