[Zen888]

Hello

July/05 I had my diabetic cat euthanized.
Feb/06 I had my dog euthanized due to congestive heart and kidney failure.

I feel as though a piece of me is dead. I think sometimes that ppl will make fun of me or belittle me cause I am still heart broken over my pets deaths. I will be getting a new puppy in a month. Before my dog died...I had planned on getting a new puppy so my dog would have company...he worshiped the ground my cat walked upon literally....and so did I. Now that they are both dead...I feel I am betraying them...their memories. I feel like a terrible "mom".

Can't stop crying....

Dubz

[magickal1]

Hi, Dublin...
Nope..you did what was best for your babies, because you didn't want them to go through more pain. That's being a good mom.
About two years ago, my partner and I had to put my St Bernard Penny down, because she had severe hip dysplasia. Penny was only ten months old. When I think of her now, I smile, because I know that she is healthy, and she can run and play when she couldn't before. We have gotten more pups since then, and they each have their own little way about them. The new dogs have brought me through what would have been a really rough time, missing Penny. I hope that your new puppy is able to do that for you, too. (((((dublin)))))

[Christina86]

(((((Dublin)))))

You aren't betraying their memories honest! (even if you feel that you are.)

You loved both of them very much, and they must have had a wonderful life with you (you're a wonderful person, thats why). You made a hard decision in the end, which was for their own benefit because you didn't want them to suffer.

That makes you a wonderful mom.

All of the pets in my life have had to be put down for various reasons, all because they got so sick that they were suffering. It was the hardest decision any one person in my family have made, and I'm still sad when I think about them. I'm glad that they are in a better place though, where they don't suffer.

When my family's last cat got put down many years ago, and when we got a new cat 2 December's ago, I thought they (my parents) were trying to replace our old cat. They weren't, this new cat needed a home desperately and we had enough love/time for her and space. I'm never going to forget our other animals, but I do love our new ones as well.

I hope that this new puppy brings joy to your life, and that it finds a place in your heart that doesn't replace what you felt for your other pets, but takes away some of the lonely feeling that you're feeling.

[heartspace]

Dublin every pet will have a special place in your heart and therefore their memory can never be betrayed no matter how many other pets you have. I think they would want you to be happy and knowing what a great mum you are, I'm sure they'd want other animals to benefit from your care. The pain will subside gradually and I certainly hope the new puppy helps you feel better. Your post broke my heart. I really feel for you.
Losing a loved one is never easy. Having a pet euthenized is a courageous, selfless thing to do.
I hope your new puppy brings you the much needed joy you deserve.
{{{Dublin}}}

[Zen888]

Thank-you all for your kind and thoughtful words!

I feel comforted by your words because they make me feel like I am not alone.

I held my dog in my arms (he was 11 pounds) as his doctor was injecting the euthanaza medicine. It felt right that I should be holding him in my arms. I wanted him to know that his "mom" is always there for him no matter what.

My cat was in rough shape when I brought her to the vet. She couldnt control her bladder due to the diabetes...so I just sat beside the table and comforted her as she was euthanized. It broke my heart into a million pieces to know that I couldnt hold her in my arms.

Dubz

[Larry_Hoover]

I don't want to sound trite, but I'll take the risk. God, in His wisdom, made it such that there is always room in our hearts for one more. No matter how many are already in our hearts, another space is available. Our lifespans are mutliples of those of our pets, with few exceptions. Ten years +/- for a dog? Fifteen, for a kittie? I see it as a tribute, to let another pet into my heart. The one who passed could not stay. But I have room in my heart for one more.

Belittle you? I can't imagine. Bless you, I can.

Lar

you have done the right thing. sometimes it is the most difficult thing..but that is for us. for the pet, it is the humane and final loving act that we can perform for them. relieving them of their suffering is a gift. love, pat

[Sabrina]

This entire thread reduced me to tears.

Bless each and every one of you. And those still to read.

Bless all of you with pets.

If I lose mine, my heart shall be broken forever.

Dublin - all my thoughts are with you.

[Zen888]

It has been almost 7 months since my cat passed away and a little over a month since my dog passed away.

I had their remains cremated. I still haven't scattered their ashes yet.

Scattering their ashes makes it more real or permanent...that my dog and cat are no longer with me.

Any suggestions or adivce on how to ease the transition?

Dubz

[dottie]

Only time Dubz!