[SoupDragon]

My father died 10 days ago - I can't believe it was that long ago. His funeral in on Monday.

Last night I had just finished writing about him on my computer to my T - when I heard a crash. I felt quite scared. I went to investigate, in case it was one of my children and I saw that it was a mirror that had been on the wall in my hallway that had fallen off onto the floor. It had been on that wall for at least 2 years and there was no-one else awake in the house but me - the mirror was undamaged.

I am now wondering whether this was some kind of message / sign and whether I should attend a spiritualist church.

When my Grandmother died many years ago - I saw something that belonged to her move and couldn't explain it.

I had become more cynical about any sort of afterlife over the years, but now I am wondering again.

Not sure what to do now really.

I don't know you but I'm sorry for the loss of your father. I'd like to believe that death is not the end of us but that is my wishful thinking.
"Not sure what to do now really."
Why do you feel the need to do anything and what do you think it would involve or bring about?

[Puffyprue]

Iam sorry for your loss

i would say just follow your heart

[missbelle]

Sorry for the loss of your Dad......Tlking about the mirror breaking...I believe a little in this myself. No proof of course, but interesting things have happened to me thru the years

[SoupDragon]

I am just wondering whether I should attend a spiritualist church or something.

[TerryL]

I am so sorry for your loss Soup.

So sorry for your loss.

I'm not exactly sure what I believe, and what opinions I have are just that (and I hope I don't offend anyone) ... in highschool they taught us that energy transfers, it doesn't disappear.. so I think maybe this is the case when we 'die'... we each have energy, some say a life-field.. some may say a soul.. at death I believe it leaves the body, and who knows what form it takes after that or where it goes.. but I personally don't believe we cease to exist.

I like what puffyprue posted: 'follow your heart', do what feels right to you.

[roads]

If I knew of someone with this connection, I would speak with them. If I didn't know anyone, I would ask about quietly. I wouldn't answer any anonymous advert though.

I hope you know someone, have some lead. *hugs* ((((Soup))).

Roadie

Originally Posted by SoupDragon

I am just wondering whether I should attend a spiritualist church or something.

(((Soup)))

It is really upto you, Personally I wouldn't do it but if you did go to someone that has a good reputation, I am sorry that you lost your dad, Will be thinking of you tomorrow

[lynn P.]

(((SoupDragon)) - I'm very sorry your dad died and may he rest in peace. Are you thinking of seeing a spiritualist because this scared you and think his spirit isn't settled? Whether I believe in this kind of energy - not sure but I kind of do.

When my father died when I was 2 - my mother and older brother thought they saw my dad sitting in his favorite chair. Another point - when I was very upset about my marriage problem I went to bed and heard a crash - our family picture fell off the table and the glass broke. It wasn't those typical frames but a metal one with a sturdy steel base .

If there is spiritual energy, it may not be bad energy. I pray his spirit will rest in peace and sending strong vibes to you/your way.

[pegasus]

(((((((( SoupDragon )))))))))

I do believe there is afterlife energy as I have seen it a few times now. I'll tell you a true story...

I work as a Manager of a care home. All the staff get quite attached to the residents and we do have a special rapport with all of them. After the death of a very special lady, I went to her funeral with a colleague. When I came back from the funeral several of the staff looked white as sheets. When I asked them what the matter was, they told me this. Throughout the whole time of the funeral the nurse-call bell had been going off in the deceased lady's room. The room was locked so no one could have got in to set that alarm off. As soon as I walked into the care home the nurse-call alarm stopped. I believe it was the old gal's way of saying goodbye to all the staff.

[cowboy1]

Sorry to hear what happened. It's so hard I have had strange thing's happen to me to. My bride died in my arm's on feb-9-2012. I am so sorry COWBOY1.

Originally Posted by SoupDragon

I am just wondering whether I should attend a spiritualist church or something.

I'm sorry but I don't understand the reason. I've read a bit about the "Spiritualist" movement. It grew out of phony mediums like the Fox sisters. If there is afterlife energy we will find out soon enough. I think that most of us have unresolved issues or things we wish we could say to our departed loved ones but I'm not sure that there is any resolution in that through spiritualist churches or mediums.
If you choose to pursue this I wish you the best

[SoupDragon]

Originally Posted by cowboy1

Sorry to hear what happened. It's so hard I have had strange thing's happen to me to. My bride died in my arm's on feb-9-2012. I am so sorry COWBOY1.

I am so sorry for your loss (((Cowboy1))). Soup

[cowboy1]

I am so sorry to hear about your DAD. I just lost my bride to be on FEB/9/2012. It is one of the worst things that can happen. If you need a friend or talk PM me no problem. Hope your day or night goe's alittle better COWBOY1.

[SoupDragon]

Last night my youngest son came down and told me he couldn't get to sleep because he was feeling scared (unforutnately I have come down with a nasty virus and both boys asked their dad if I was going to die - I am not that unwell but I guess they were thinking of their Grandfather dying).

I told him I would be up in 5 minutes. When I went up I heard music from a cassette in his room. It was the exact music that was my father's favouriate and that was played at his funeral on Monday - and my son was fast asleep.

I know this can be explained as just a coincidence - but the tape had no label on it at all and I didn't even know we had a tape of this music in our house. Wow what a coincidence.

[KathyM]

((((Soupdragon))))

My condolences on the loss of your father. I don't see a need to attend a spiritualist church because it sounds like your connection with your father is already strong. Your father is no longer in your life, but he lives on in your heart.

I moved back to my old family home shortly after my parents died. My son was 7 at the time. A friend of his spent the night with us, and the two boys were playing a game of hide and seek. To make the game more interesting, they turned off all the lights. My husband and I were in the bedroom, when all of a sudden the friend let out a blood-curdling scream in our kitchen. We rushed over to the kid, and he was shaking.

He said he was going to hide in our laundry room next to the kitchen, but he got scared because he saw an old man looking at him through the window of the laundry room door.

He said the man was wearing a policeman's hat, and he was smiling at him. My son immediately spoke up and said "Oh, that's just my grandpa - he used to like to play this game too. He won't hurt you."

My father wasn't a policeman - he worked as a crossing guard after he retired, but the hat is very similar.

I personally don't believe that human intervention is necessary when it comes to spiritual connections with our loved ones. Every once in a while I can feel their presence, but I do not believe they are "trapped" or in need of help to move on from this world.

My father used to tell me I have a LOT of spirit. When I am gone, I have every intention of watching over my friends and loved ones from the other side - and to those who don't believe or are afraid of "ghosts," I'll watch from a distance,

Originally Posted by KathyM

My father used to tell me I have a LOT of spirit. When I am gone, I have every intention of watching over my friends and loved ones from the other side - and to those who don't believe or are afraid of "ghosts," I'll watch from a distance,

I don't know what you feel about me but if you go before I do and you're ever in the neighborhood please feel free to stop by and make an appearance... just be sure to let me know it's you and that you come in peace

[SoupDragon]

A couple of days ago, my cat woke me at 2am to be let out (must get around to getting a cat flap!). I unlocked the back door and let him out and went back to bed. Woke up in the morning and went to the kitchen - my dog sleeps in there at night with the door closed - I opened the door and as well as my dog, my cat was also in there, all the windows were closed so I have no idea how he got in there.

Also I have some framed photographs of family members on the wall above my stairs. Woke to the sound of a loud crash at 6.30am this morning - went to investigate and found that one of them had fallen off - it had been hanging there for a couple of years - hmmm.

[SoupDragon]

And now I have just discovered that my wood pile for my wood burner has fallen down -

[PositiveKarma]

Very interesting thread! First, SoupDragon, I'd like to pass along my condolences regarding the passing of your father. It is so difficult when we lose a parent. Your father will always be with you in your heart, and I believe, is still with you now.

I had a similar experience happen the evening my mom passed away. We had hospice set up for her at her best friend's house a few houses down from mom's. This is where mom actually passed. She had been there for about a week. A few times in her weak, somewhat delusional, state she commented, "I wanna go home." Unsure what she meant by this (or if she even knew what she was talking about) we dismissed it. Mom remained at her friend's.

I had been staying at mom's house since I live out of state. Mom passed away in the afternoon. Later that evening (maybe around Midnight or later) unable to sleep I was laying on mom's couch watching T.V. I was the only one in the house. As I laid there I heard a creek in the hallway and immediately it got my attention. The only way this floor area creeks is if someone walks on it. I shot up off the couch and glanced around only to find nothing there. So I shrugged it off as my imagination.

Well, a few moments later I felt a presence next to me, on the couch, by my feet. The couch cushion didn't lower as if someone was sitting there but I felt an overwhelming sense of mom! Ever since I was a little girl mom would do this if I was lying on the couch watching T.V. She'd sit at my feet, maybe caress my leg, and talk with me. This is exactly what this felt like to me except I felt no touch. And strangely, it wasn't a frightening experience. Rather, it felt very comforting as if mom was actually there. Call me crazy, but I genuinely believe this was mom checking in on me to make sure I was okay. Also, because of this, I now can't dismiss mom's comment about, "Wanting to go home." I can't help but wonder if maybe this experience was two-fold. Mom wanted to return home and wanted to check on me?

And this energy, presence, of mom doesn't stop there. A year or so before mom passed away she visited me and helped paint the interior of my house. She spent most of her time in my dining room peeling off wallpaper and painting. Every now and then I'll get a sense of mom's presence in the dining room. I've seen fleeting glimpses of orbs in there and my dog will occasionally bark, staring, directly into the dining room only to find nothing there.

Also, I have some collectibles I inherited from mom in my china cabinet which used to belong to her. I genuinely believe mom still visits me and the reason why she seems to always manifest in my dining room is because of her attachment to this area (where she worked and repainted for so long) and her energy linked to her collectibles. I know some people roll their eyes and believe this stuff is a bunch of hogwash. However, there has been a good amount of research, scientific proof, etc... that proves spirits, ghosts, entities, whatever you'd like to call them, can be attached to antiques, objects, etc... they had a strong bond with.

Now, I am much more open minded than many on this topic. I have spiritual/metaphysical beliefs and have done a fair amount of energy work over the past few years. I've been ghost hunting and have some excellent photos of mists, orbs, etc... because I felt a shift in energy and sensed photos should have been taken in these areas. So I do believe in energy transfer and that spirits can manifest for a variety of reasons. I won't get into all that here and I'm certainly not an authority on the topic! I can only speak to what little I know and from my own personal experiences. However, if you'd like to PM me and discuss this further I'd be more than happy to.

So guess my question to you is this, SoupDragon: You mentioned locating a spiritualist or a spiritualist church. What is it you'd like to try to accomplish? Are you frightened or curious to learn more? Are you interested in locating a psychic/medium to confirm or deny your experiences? Are you wanting to contact your father? Are you wanting these episodes to stop? Again, as mentioned above, if you'd like to PM me, please feel free.

Wishing you and everyone the best.

Peace and healing energy to all...

~*PositiveKarma*~

Originally Posted by SoupDragon

And now I have just discovered that my wood pile for my wood burner has fallen down -

I could be complete wrong in my belief
I could understand communication but I'm not liking the style. What do you think?

[SoupDragon]

Originally Posted by George H.

I could be complete wrong in my belief
I could understand communication but I'm not liking the style. What do you think?

No I'm not liking the style either - I am trying to find another way of explaining these things - wonder if we had a minor earthquake here - not that I think we have ever had one here before, but maybe there were some mild rumblngs that upset the wood pile and shook the wall to make the picture fall down.

I woke to hear my piano playing last night - then remembered I had left my cat in that room - phew - so must have been him walking along the keys.

Had a nightmarish dream last night involving ghosts - guess this stuff has got me spooked.

[SoupDragon]

Originally Posted by PositiveKarma

Very interesting thread! First, SoupDragon, I'd like to pass along my condolences regarding the passing of your father. It is so difficult when we lose a parent. Your father will always be with you in your heart, and I believe, is still with you now.

I had a similar experience happen the evening my mom passed away. We had hospice set up for her at her best friend's house a few houses down from mom's. This is where mom actually passed. She had been there for about a week. A few times in her weak, somewhat delusional, state she commented, "I wanna go home." Unsure what she meant by this (or if she even knew what she was talking about) we dismissed it. Mom remained at her friend's.

I had been staying at mom's house since I live out of state. Mom passed away in the afternoon. Later that evening (maybe around Midnight or later) unable to sleep I was laying on mom's couch watching T.V. I was the only one in the house. As I laid there I heard a creek in the hallway and immediately it got my attention. The only way this floor area creeks is if someone walks on it. I shot up off the couch and glanced around only to find nothing there. So I shrugged it off as my imagination.

Well, a few moments later I felt a presence next to me, on the couch, by my feet. The couch cushion didn't lower as if someone was sitting there but I felt an overwhelming sense of mom! Ever since I was a little girl mom would do this if I was lying on the couch watching T.V. She'd sit at my feet, maybe caress my leg, and talk with me. This is exactly what this felt like to me except I felt no touch. And strangely, it wasn't a frightening experience. Rather, it felt very comforting as if mom was actually there. Call me crazy, but I genuinely believe this was mom checking in on me to make sure I was okay. Also, because of this, I now can't dismiss mom's comment about, "Wanting to go home." I can't help but wonder if maybe this experience was two-fold. Mom wanted to return home and wanted to check on me?

And this energy, presence, of mom doesn't stop there. A year or so before mom passed away she visited me and helped paint the interior of my house. She spent most of her time in my dining room peeling off wallpaper and painting. Every now and then I'll get a sense of mom's presence in the dining room. I've seen fleeting glimpses of orbs in there and my dog will occasionally bark, staring, directly into the dining room only to find nothing there.

Also, I have some collectibles I inherited from mom in my china cabinet which used to belong to her. I genuinely believe mom still visits me and the reason why she seems to always manifest in my dining room is because of her attachment to this area (where she worked and repainted for so long) and her energy linked to her collectibles. I know some people roll their eyes and believe this stuff is a bunch of hogwash. However, there has been a good amount of research, scientific proof, etc... that proves spirits, ghosts, entities, whatever you'd like to call them, can be attached to antiques, objects, etc... they had a strong bond with.

Now, I am much more open minded than many on this topic. I have spiritual/metaphysical beliefs and have done a fair amount of energy work over the past few years. I've been ghost hunting and have some excellent photos of mists, orbs, etc... because I felt a shift in energy and sensed photos should have been taken in these areas. So I do believe in energy transfer and that spirits can manifest for a variety of reasons. I won't get into all that here and I'm certainly not an authority on the topic! I can only speak to what little I know and from my own personal experiences. However, if you'd like to PM me and discuss this further I'd be more than happy to.

So guess my question to you is this, SoupDragon: You mentioned locating a spiritualist or a spiritualist church. What is it you'd like to try to accomplish? Are you frightened or curious to learn more? Are you interested in locating a psychic/medium to confirm or deny your experiences? Are you wanting to contact your father? Are you wanting these episodes to stop? Again, as mentioned above, if you'd like to PM me, please feel free.

Wishing you and everyone the best.

Peace and healing energy to all...

~*PositiveKarma*~

Thank-you positivekarma - it is lovely to read about your experiences.

I suppose the reason I was wondering about a spiritualist church is in case these things are happening as a sign, that there is some sort of message to be passed onto me. It would be lovely to feel my father's presence, but I would like the physical stuff to stop, particularly as I had the nightmare last night.

Thank-you for your best wishes - Soup

[SoupDragon]

My youngest son has a blanket hanging next to his bed - I overhead him tell his brother this morning that there was someone behind it last night as he saw it moving, but when he looked there was no-one there -