Too many losses

Hi, just wanted to post and get it typed out that I have lost 14 relatives in the past seven years and one dear friend. Sometimes it seems so totally overwhelming I go numb - it started with my father (he was only 57) and then the list goes on.

Has anyone else had too many bereavements and hasnt had space to grasp the enormity of it?

Thanks

((((( fluffycat )))))

Yes, I have. It's a tough road to walk down.

PM me anytime if you need to talk.

Fluffy -

That's awful -- two a year on average!!

I just have lost my whole nuclear family: brother, father and mother.

Fortunately, still have hubby, although he takes terrible care of himself.

PM me anytime too.

Hugs,

EJ

I lost my mom and my youngest aunt in a two month period. Then a few months later my grandfather died. Shortly thereafter I found out that my remaining aunts all had some form of cancer. (mom died of cancer, my youngest aunt also had it but didn't die from it.)

So, I guess you can say I've lost more than I can grieve.

I can totally relate to this. I have had like 7 funerals since november. it stinks! some I just can't even begin to grieve for yet

Lexi -

I never thought of it that way --

Lexi Quote:

I have lost more than I can grieve.

Wow!!! I think that is really powerful.

Hugs,
EJ

That is what brought me to this group.I have lost 3 sisters,1 brother and a very close brother-in-law plus my mother in the last 4 years.Also during that time I have lost my health due to the removal of a large benign tumor on my spinal cord,my job,my friends as we work rotating shifts and lots of overtime so they went with the job.My last 2 children graduated from highschool.and now I have to leave the home I helped build with my own hands and move into something smaller and more affordable because of my lost income and it will cost less to have someone come in and help me clean.I feel empty inside.I am stuck trying to grieve my first sister to die and something slammed shut and won't even let me feel the others except for this huge emptyness.I talked to a doc who specilizes in grief therapy and he told me to pick the one that affected me the most and write them a letter and grieve one at a time.He says that is all a person can handle.I think it is a good idea but I don't feel anything right now and I don't want to open myself up to the pain.I know I will have to soon if I want to get my depression under control.

Welcome, patricia_48.

I'm so sorry to hear of your many losses.

You said;

I talked to a doc who specilizes in grief therapy and he told me to pick the one that affected me the most and write them a letter and grieve one at a time.

I really hope this works for you and you can start to find some peace.

I grieve in bits and pieces. I've spent so much time holding others up, that I grab tiny moments of grief for myself here and there. And like you, I don't know who to grieve first.

For me it's like getting hit with a wave. I'm trying to grab and hold onto shells while I'm tumbling and swirling and I just can't.

I have to wait until the tide recedes, however long it takes. Then, and only then can I start to sift through it all before the tide rushes in again.

The path to healing is different for everyone but one thing is the same. It's heartbreakingly difficult.

Take care,

Petunia