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Old Aug 11, 2013, 03:36 PM
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My "husband" and I were in the middle of moving we had a animal rescue and I moved with the dogs first coming back for my horses, steer, llama, donkeys, and goats within a week after that because it was a bit of a long trip.
The day before I was to come up and get them he sent my steer to slaughter, two of the horses were euthanized the others I still never found out what happened to them, the donkeys mom and baby were sent to auction, the llama and goats also sent to auction and then slaughter.
He did all of this without my knowing and then lied about what happened to them and threatened me and the dogs to try to stop me from finding out. I never got to say goodbye.
He left the dogs and me with nothing in the middle of no place. I couldn't drive and even if I could have I had no car. After a year of fighting and struggling I eventually lost my dogs and my home. Many of the dogs were put to sleep I managed to keep six dogs by finding foster homes for them but couldn't save them all.
I have nightmares and flashbacks constantly. I often can't eat or sleep most of the time. I wish I was dead all the time. I wouldn't be alive now if I didn't have the dogs I have. Two have passed away from age one is not doing well but is 13 yo I have had her for the past 10 years.
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Old Aug 12, 2013, 01:46 AM
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I'm so sorry
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Old Aug 12, 2013, 01:51 AM
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what an a--hole he was

that is emotional abuse; I don't know if I would have the self restraint if that happened to me, I'd probably end up in jail

I am so sorry that happened to you and your innocent animals but glad you are free are him
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Old Aug 12, 2013, 08:34 AM
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What a horrible thing to do. I am so sorry. Nothing can replace those animals.
Animals are much nicer than people. I hope he finds his reward for those acts soon. Is is possible to report him for animal abuse to the relevant authorities in your country?
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Old Aug 12, 2013, 08:50 AM
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My heart goes out to you. I do not understand how he could have done something so horrible. Glad you have a place to live and the dogs you have left. Counseling might be a good idea to help get past the grief. Hang in there.
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Old Aug 15, 2013, 04:55 PM
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My 13 year old dog Sacajawea just passed away two days ago. I keep thinking she is here and trying to pretend she is. She had a good life but I want to see her again so badly. I wish I was with her now. I love her.
I am in counseling but its slow going my therapist tells me Im too unstable to really go there right now. Right now I struggle to live each day.
He is an a-hole. Still to this day he has no remorse and can't understand why I am angry. I never talk to him and he has threatened me enough I can't let him find out where I live. He was very abusive emotionally but I put up with it for the animals sakes and in the end it didn't do me any good.
He was very lucky I had no car because I would have done something bad I think. I still feel like giving him a good kick when I think of him.
I love my animals and would give my life for them. I like animals much more then I like people they love unconditionally and never hurt you what more could anyone ever want. What he did killed me it was like I lost my whole world overnight. I tried to get charges put against him but by law they are considered communal property so it was legal what he did. However I am going to do the one thing I can and that is sue him for half of what they were valued at I don't want the money in fact I plan to donate it but he doesn't want to pay and its my hope he will think before he acts next time.
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Old Aug 16, 2013, 12:43 PM
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Really sorry to hear about that . I wish you the best in you recovery.
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Old Aug 16, 2013, 04:52 PM
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My heart goes out to you.....all the animals....and at one time. A tremendous heartbreak. And also the loss of a "husband". The relationship with a human proved to be false and the relationship you had with your lost animals were relationships that were stolen from you. I have a unique relationship with the furry folks that share my life and I'm sure you did too. The grief must be overwhelming. Just know that by coming here, you have come to a safe place and will find lots of support. And a lot of people here share the same attachment that you do to your guys. I'm so very sorry for your pain. But...remember to be good to yourself during this most difficult time.
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