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Feb 15, 2007, 12:49 AM
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Can anyone tell me why my friend didn't tell me her brother died two weeks ago? She has been giving me updates on his condition almost daily for the past four years, since he was diagnosed with cancer, including the past two weeks.
I am very confused why she would make up elaborate stories the last two weeks: he's gained three pounds, he had a crisis the night before but her cell phone hasn't rung so she's hoping for the best, etc. I've talked to her husband, too, when she wasn't around and he has been saying basically the same things to me. I am very confused. Thanks in advance for your insight. I hope I have posted this in the right place, please forgive me if I haven't. |
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Feb 15, 2007, 01:09 AM
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Perhaps they were in denial..and now that the horrible thing they tried to deny has happened, they just don't know how to share it?
If I were in your situation, I would ignore the last two week's of stuff, and send them a sympathy card with a note saying "if there's any way I can help, let me know." TC
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Feb 15, 2007, 02:11 AM
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I left on her doorstep a nice card and a candle in glass, with a ribbon and heart charm wrapped around it. She has lied to me in the past, so I feel foolish and sort of deceived, but will try to take your advice.
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Feb 15, 2007, 02:17 AM
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maybe she and her family wanted more private time and decided not to tell you knowing how much you care for her and knew you would immediately go to her. maybe she just didn't have the heart to tell you she needed time alone with her family. please just give her some time and after awhile talk to her about it. people grieve in many different ways.
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Feb 27, 2007, 03:20 AM
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Mar 11, 2007, 02:28 AM
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Maybe she just didn't know how to tell you. I've been getting lots of practice the last few years, but when the first couple of my grandparents died several years ago, I was in shock each time, and I don't think I told anyone for a while. I didn't know what to say or how to act or even what I was supposed to be feeling. I remember wanting to tell someone, and wishing that someone would ask me what was wrong so that I could tell them.
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