[misschristianmt]

I am so angry, sick, hurt, disgusted!! My ex got full and sole custody of my 15yo MR son 10/24/2014. I had some very bad advice from an attorney I paid a lot of money. I am still absolutely dumbfounded that it was not only possible to lose my son to my abusive, alcoholic, drug addicted ex, but that I cannot even get my supervised visitation. Why can I not get any help?!?!? I have contacted everyone possible in these last 6 months. I decided to go to church to see my son (church "family" NOT helpful at all) and my son, with his mental retardation, sends me messages saying I do not have to worry about going to church anymore I don't think. He says either I think or I don't think after everything he says. His father is pure evil. There is no other way to put it. I signed myself in to a hospital due to the severe depression, but this is not something one can ever get over much less adjust to. I actually had an insensitive clod tell me I am not the only one with problems. WHAT?!?!?!? So since I cannot get help I have lost my son for good because, since he is MR, when he turns 18, I can file for legal guardianship, but Satan (AKA the disgusting excuse for a father) has to agree and he never will just to hurt me. It absolutely sickens me that he not only does not mind hurting my kids in the process, but he seems to enjoy it. Pure evil!! I cannot get over this nor adjust in any way, shape or form. I have been in bed about 75% of the time and have my fourth disability app in the works (I was lied to about that, too, and told I did not have to pay child support due to being unable to work, but they garnished my tax refund!). I just cannot see ever getting past this so I plan on being homeless as I cannot work. My daughter is 19 and works full time at McDonald's, but even though I have asked her, I know it is not fair to ask her to help me with bills so I can stay in this house longer. Her boyfriend is staying with us, too, and I sure won't ask him for financial help. They both know everything and still I get no help from them. I do know my daughter has turned out amazing after all the garbage Satan has done to her, but she does have issues, as I am sure my son does, too, now. I am just not able to see myself ever going back to work. I have been unable to work for years anyway, but what am I supposed to do until I get approved, IF I even do get approved. Just so sick at heart. I even did a GoFundMe on my facebook and found not one person donated, so that is fine. I am glad to find out no one really cares I am done. Just wondering what others who have gone through something similar do to deal with the depression. I am positive it would not be near this bad if money was not a huge issue!!!

[healingme4me]

Sounds like a horrendous ordeal. It would seem justifiable to demand help from your daughter and her boyfriend. Grown children truly have an obligation to behave as adults and contribute to their living arrangements. After all, there's no home if bills aren't payed.

It's very stressful raising children with special needs. Was there a guardian ad litem involved? I find that often times the family probate court system isn't fully able to see the bigger picture. Maybe the child support being in arrears contributed? How did your son wind up with your ex, initially?

As far as dealing with the ensuing depression, could reaching out to the Coping with Emotions Forum, regarding specific emotions help? Could learn how others have implemented coping skills or at least, gain supportive ears.

[misschristianmt]

It really is. I wake up every day thinking another day in my living nightmare This is true and I think I am going to talk to her about it again and tell her it has to be this way for now until I am approved for disability and even after maybe.

I was told by someone that hiring a guardian ad litem would mean giving up my parental rights completely and I do not want that, even though that would honestly be no different that the rights I have now, which are none. The attorney I hired told me it would not be a big deal to take my son and move farther than the 75 miles since I was sure he was suffering in his father's house when he visited. Turns out he flat out lied. I tore him a new one, believe me!!!

I am definitely trying to reach out for help for my depression, but no meds have helped thus far and I am thinking of trying alternatives, but not sure what yet.

Thank you SO much!!!

[misschristianmt]

Hi again. I just wanted to add an addendum....my daughter moved out today. I truly have no one at all. Though I felt bad for it, I finally accepted financial help from her for the bills and that seems to have chased her away. She and her boyfriend both know I will be homeless unless a miracle happens and those just do not happen to me. I am not dealing with this well at all. I feel physically sick. I am still desperately trying to find help so I can get my supervised visits with my son (though why I have to have supervised is beyond me because his father is neglecting him again leaving him home alone). My ex is the one with the alcohol and drug issues. Is anyone from Oklahoma on here that can tell me where to turn? I have tried Legal Aid, Oklahoma Alternative Resources, Oklahoma Indian Legal Resources, Help In Crisis, DHS all to no avail. I cannot believe with some stories I hear that I cannot get help.

[Perna]

Maybe try the Salvation Army?

Oklahoma Assistance Programs

Salvation Army Oklahoma financial assistance