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Feb 14, 2008, 10:01 PM
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Had a call 2 days ago being told that my mum was found dead in her house.
I'm only 24, she was 48. The police told me she collapsed in the kitchen, possible massive organ failure. Was there a couple of days before she was found, which is what really upsets me. Thinking she was all alone. I had felt something was wrong the last few days b4 that... guess my instinct was right. I've never had anyone close to me die so this is all new to me 
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Feb 14, 2008, 10:31 PM
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Oh Nicole,
 . I can't imagine having found out the way you did. It is so hard to lose someone so close.  Know that you are in my thoughts. BJ
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Feb 14, 2008, 11:03 PM
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I am so sorry for your loss. nothing I can say can help ease the pain but we are here for you anytime.
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Feb 14, 2008, 11:08 PM
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Nicole - I am so very sorry to hear about your Mom. There is nothing to say that can really make it any better. Just take the days one at a time.
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#5
Feb 20, 2008, 09:15 AM
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Its been a week since I found out and its still extremely hard. I don't want to believe it.
I can't grasp that I won't see her again, hold her again. She lived further away from me and was meant to visit next week. Now I have to go to her funeral in 2 days. I feel like i'm losing it, on top of my depression and anxiety I just don't think I can keep coping |
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#6
Feb 20, 2008, 09:52 AM
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I understand what you are feeling - I felt the same when I lost my Mom.
The only thing I can say is just take it one little step at a time. There is no right or wrong way to grieve. Cry whenever you need to but do try to also think about the good times. Sometimes when I was missing my Mom the most that is what I had to try and focus on because that is what she would have wanted and I am sure that is what your Mom would want for you - she would not want you to be miserable. The only other thing that I might add is that I think it is important that you let your doctor know what is going on and how you are feeling. Your doctor, hopefully, can also give you some support and safety and comfort. |
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Feb 25, 2008, 02:06 AM
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An update...
The funeral did help... it was beautiful yet very upsetting and hard to say goodbye. I really didn't want to leave the funeral home and leave her there sounds silly I know... I have to go clean out her house and things in a few days.. very worried how this will effect me. I keep going through different types of grieving I think.. i've had denial, crying, anger... its all mixed in at times... I do hope with time it does get better |
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#8
Feb 25, 2008, 09:42 AM
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do you have anyone to help with cleaning out her house? another family member maybe? yes in time it gets less painful. the first year is the worst I think. you have to go thru all the first ie: holidays, birthday, etc. those are tough.
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Feb 25, 2008, 08:22 PM
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(((Nicole)))
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Feb 26, 2008, 08:35 AM
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((((nicole84 ))))
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#11
Feb 26, 2008, 09:33 PM
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That has to be so painful, to have someone so close be the first person that passed away in your life. It hurts so bad, whether its the first or 5th person that dies in your life, I felt the same way about my grandpa, and so did my mother. They said he was probably dead for about three days. It breaks my heart even to this day, and that was in 2000.
Its a pain that will not haunt you forever, but every once and awhile you will think about them and it comes rushing back to you. But as much as that will flood your thought, keep in your mind that they would be sad to see you sad, and they would be happy to see you happy.
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Do not stand at my grave and weep; I am not there. I do not sleep. I am a thousand winds that blow. I am the diamond glints on snow. I am the sunlight on ripened grain. I am the gentle autumn's rain. When you awaken in the morning's hush, I am the swift uplifting rush of quiet birds in circled flight. I am the soft stars that shine at night. Do not stand at my grave and cry; I am not there, I did not die. R.I.P. Bandit 7-12-08 I love you I miss you. |
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#12
Feb 26, 2008, 09:34 PM
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If you can, help someone go through her house with you; its always more helpful to have someone there so you dont feel so alone. I wish you the best of luck, prayers, thoughts, hugs, welness, and all of that stuff.
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Do not stand at my grave and weep; I am not there. I do not sleep. I am a thousand winds that blow. I am the diamond glints on snow. I am the sunlight on ripened grain. I am the gentle autumn's rain. When you awaken in the morning's hush, I am the swift uplifting rush of quiet birds in circled flight. I am the soft stars that shine at night. Do not stand at my grave and cry; I am not there, I did not die. R.I.P. Bandit 7-12-08 I love you I miss you. |
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