[Miss Laura]

God its gone in quick, 4 years has gone by so quickly.

My Granda died and then there was this big massive hole. Now i have finished eventually grieving for him. No tears have been shed. I am very proud of myself. I would cry everyday every night and every month. This is the first year i have never cried. Obviously i have thought of him today. Went out for lunch with a friend and she has no idea its his anniversary. I haven't told anyone.

I feel i have "gotten" over his death- is there such a thing as getting over a death?????

Anyways just thought i would share, i felt i needed to see it written down instead of just in my head

TODAY IS A HAPPY DAY!!!!!!!

[madisgram]

hi misslaura, he must have been a very speical man for u to love him so.
getting over death...i don't think of it that way. rather it's that we can celebrate their living and not focus on our loss as much. as the years go by there will be fond moments of your grandpa.. that' s what's happened to me anyway. i have lost both my parents. it made me mad at first cause i felt like go pick on another family , already, we already gave....but now i see it differenly...time...it's a wonderful healer of the spirit...and our loved ones who have gone, their spirit lives within us. they are never truly gone, jme.

[Pomegranate]

I'm happy for you that you have found peace concerning this loss. Hugs to you.

[eskielover]

I am glad you have come to that point in your grieving......there is no definite time & there may be times in the future when you think about him & tears will come again....just not that constant feeling that is there at first.

I know my Mother died 4 year ago in January......but the trauma that came during the time she was dying hasn't gone away very well. I remember just this last Thanksgiving....I was invited to dinner with several new friends here in KY (moved from California). Sitting there at the table, flashed the vision of my Mother (it was the first time I had seen just how sick she really was & was trying to sort through what I was seeing.....I couldn't believe that vision haunted me 4 years later....I had to fight back the tears that no one around me would have even understood. But luckily, I have wonderful caring friends here & that friendship carried away the vision into a peaceful wonderful dinner.....trying to fill my mind with new visions is hard when horrible ones seem to stick.....but as time passes, visions usually fade or at least come back less & less often.

Glad you are doing well,
Debbie