Need To Share.

I just need to share this. A couple days ago my 8 yr old came home very mad and upset. During 'carpet time' the kids all sit cross legged and when the teacher got up to get a book - a girl reached over and put her hand in a tickling fashion on my daughters private parts - she had pants on. She told her to stop and pushed her hand away. This girl and her family are neighbors down the street and we talk casually on occasion. Her father is a doctor and seem like nice people - one daughter in grade 5 and a younger brother, grade one who has very hard to handle with behavior problems( I don't know what's wrong).

I talked it over with my husband and 2 daughters about how to handle this - whether to go down and talk to her mother or contact the school. Since talking to the parents can be unpredictable, I decided to write a note for the teacher/principle. The principle called me and said she talked to my daughter and the other girl separately, then together. She said she made it clear that touching - even general touching should be avoided if the other clearly doesn't want it. She also made it clear that private parts are off limits.

The girl said it was an accident and I don't want to believe she was malicious but I do wonder. The principle also called her mother and I found this out because the mother knocked on my door yesterday. The first thing she said was - I wish you would have talked to me. So I'm glad the principle called the girls mother. I hope it was just an accident and this isn't an indication of a more serious problem at her home. I know from other parents who have had play dates at their house - that things get very chaotic with the younger boy's behavior. Anyway we had a nice conversation and she seemed very shocked and she was concerned for my daughter.

I just feel a little stressed out but I know I did the right thing. My daughter also told me last year, this same girl took another girls hand and pushed it against the girls private area. So I'm hoping now that her mother knows, this will open up the topic of how this is inappropriate.