[StarGazingFish]

hi everyone,
i am a trans man and i am waiting for my very first apointment to a GIC,ive been on the waiting list since january this year and i am absolutely desperate to get support-they havent even sent me a letter to say where im up to on the list-is that normal?
the gp was awful and knew nothing about trans,he kept saying he was going to refer me to a genetic disorders clinic for blood tests to see if it was a hormonal imbalance;i felt disgusted,ive been male since i was born even as a toddler i was male-ive grown up my whole life with people calling me a boy or tomboy if they realise im not a standard bloke.

in the mean time i am desperate to get trans counciling whether online or offline, preferably online because of my communication issues,i cant afford to go private-does anyone know of online help? im on a facebook group for transmen in the UK but everyone seems further a long than me;all getting chest ops or testosterone which is where i want to be,so i feel very ashamed and upset that im still stuck like this.

i am supported by the intelectual disability team under UK social services;they have a very educated pyschologist but hes never worked with trans issues,i cant be the only intelectualy disabled person to be trans as well.

i feel very alone,every day i am misgendered and hear 'she' or 'her' despite the fact my transgenderism has been made aware to my support staff,my family and social services for the past couple of years.
because i have intelectual disability and because of my limited verbal communication style, my gp didnt believe i was trans he said i likely had body dysmorphia disorder instead because i profoundly hate my boobs and believe i shoud never have had them.

i just want to be who i was born to be,i want my disgusting boobs to disapear and i want to be on testosterone.

[Skeezyks]

Hello StarGazingFish: I'm sorry to read of all of the difficulty you are experiencing. Unfortunately the Transgender Forum here on PC does not get the level of activity that some of the other forums get. Still, there are some very knowledgeable & supportive members who do post here occasionally. Hopefully some of them will see your post & will reply. In the meantime, I would just like to wish you all the best as you continue the struggle to live as your true self...

[Angeluk]

HOME - MORF

if your over 18+ this place might help

Home | LGBT Foundation

ihope this helps

[StarGazingFish]

thankyou skeezyks and death mental-i really appreciate your replies!
i seem to feel familiar with MORF but ill have a look again- and my support staff have contacted the LGBT foundation before and they told us its very difficult getting profesional support.

i wish i coud for once be called my male name;emyln,everyone calls me my female name and calls me she/her which i really despise.
how do i get people to start recognising my gender reasisgnment? god im desperate for counciling.

[Skeezyks]

Hi StarGazingFish: I wish I knew the answer to your question. Without going into allot of detail about myself, I can only say that my experience has been, it is a monumental task. A few trans individuals seem to be blessed with understanding & perceptive family & friends. And so these individuals' transitions go smoothly. But for many others not so blessed it can be like pulling teeth, as the saying goes. And the older you are, the more difficult it seems like it tends to be. I suppose this is because family & friends have had more years to get used to viewing you as the gender you never were.

There are undoubtedly other members, here on PC, who are in a much better position to reply to your question than I am. Hopefully some of them will do so. But, from my perspective, first of all, I think it's important to try as best you can, to not let other people's slip-ups get to you. In some cases it may just be accidental. In others, it may be intentional. But, in either case try not to let it get "under your skin", so to speak. Beyond that, I think, just keep correcting people, gently. The one's who sincerely want to get it right, eventually will. The others, over time, will in all probability go by the wayside.

[DaveJ]

Hey, I'm a trans guy too. I'm only just starting to transition myself so I don't have much advice to offer I'm afraid... It really sucks dealing with constantly being misgendered, and having to deal with a body that doesn't feel right...
When it comes to dealing with the gp and other doctors perhaps it would help if you wrote down what you want to say, an intro letter of sorts, that way you could take your time with writing it and have it all there and clear for them to read rather than having to struggle with the verbal communication as much?
If yu haven't heard anything from the GIC since jan there's no harm in contacting them to confirm they've recieved your referral and where you are on the waiting list.
Wishing you all the best with things