premature ejaculation

I don't have a lot of experience when it comes to sex but I can't go longer than two minutes without ejaculating. It's so embarrasing and I'm deserate for any tips or ideas

When masturbating, take a long time. Delay orgasm for longer and longer periods. Train yourself to 'hold back'.

Mentally, 'switch focus' before you hit that 'point of no return.' Distract yourself if you get too caught up in the heat of the moment.

I read a book on Tantric sex back in my 20's by a writer by the name of Mantac Chia (I think). It was called Cultivating Male Sexual Energy as I recall. It had all sorts of exercises that have stayed with me for years. One was called "the Dance of the Testes." It involved finding the muscles that you can use to move your balls. It took me MONTHS to find those muscles, and was a very special accomplishment when I did.

The point is that there are lots of books out there on better sex. Make it a project!

Mike

Thanks Mike. I've tried distraction but it doesn't work with me. Any other ideas for the short term?

That's about it. Premature ejaculation hasn't really been a problem for me. But I know from my youthful erotic interests that the whole practice of Tantra is based upon the delaying and prolonging of orgasm. While on this subject, I remember in that book I recommended (The Cultivation of Male Sexual Energy) some hooey about how males are only supposed to reach physical orgasm rarely because of the "loss of vital fluid." This is just so much b.s. in my opinion, and I hope you ignore it. I would put my money on the "use it or lose it" hypothesis, myself.

One of my favorite movies of all time is "There's Something About Mary" (and yeah, it's crude and juvenile. I laughed my *** off). Anyway, Ben Stiller's friend (Chris Elliot) advises him to "clean the pipes" before a date. The result is hilarious. But good advice, perhaps. Mike

premature ejaculation (PE) is the most common sexual problem for men. It is a lack of control over ejaculation so that it often happens sooner than the man or his partner would want. How soon depends on the individual. Some men ejaculate as soon as foreplay starts; others lose control when they try to insert their penis, while some ejaculate very quickly after penetration. Whatever the case, premature ejaculation (PE) can create tension between a man and his partner.

Don't you worry friend.It's like normal which mat happen to anyone. The first thing you need to do is strengthen your PC muscle. The PC muscle is used to control urination and ejaculation. By strengthening this muscle you will move closer to your goal.If you have the time, masturbate a couple of hours before you expect to have intercourse with your partner.

Most men agree that they can last longer after their first orgasm. Reasons vary about why your body has this reaction. Ultimately, the first orgasm dispense much of the built up excitement and anxiety that you may have been feeling prior to having intercourse. After ejaculating through masturbation, you can relax and enjoy intercourse with your partner while maintaining a longer-lasting erection.

there are some therapists out there who sometimes include treatment of this as one of their specialties…maybe you could do a Google search for your area.

fwiw i've always thought this problem was related to generalized anxiety; also it depends on the woman (if she's critical or hostile or impatient it can make it much worse)

also it's now called "rapid ejaculation", to eliminate the judgment inherent in calling it "premature"

one other thing something interesting i read one time--to what extent is it a problem because it's not when you want to ejaculate? that is, do you *really* not want to and do it anyway, or perhaps are you interested in getting off as quickly as possible?

This might work better than you would like, but are you on an anti-depressaint?

When I'm taking a SSRI, it takes FOREVER to achieve an orgasum, it might sound like a good idea but it's not as enjoyable as it sounds.

Hello Scooterboy,

I hope all is well for your family in every realm of life. While you may be receiving this message belatedly, if at all, it will hold value for you for the rest of your life, as well as for anyone and everyone else who may venture to read it.

There may be any of various reasons why we experience premature ejaculation, vigorous vehemence upon any one of them as sole cause is dregsome and less mature than what I anticipate you are searching for. On the evolutionary scale, what would commonly, these days, be referred to as "premature ejaculation" would be a virtue among far less evolved beings of humanity's distant past, the demi-human eras on our evolutionary scale, for such would assure, for the most part, that sperm and egg met and new life would form, despite the fact that it wasn't until animal husbandry that it dawned upon people that sexual intercourse had anything to do with making babies. Preganancy and birth were quite mysterious back in those days until deeper understanding, as the objectivity of animal breeding came into existence. People just "did it", simply because the urge was there, though as we have seen, the rapport, even among animals, is so strong that such conjugations have also borne excellencies of rapport from which everything of human worth have evolved.

The wonder that two have found each other, the burgeoning expansiveness of sublime rapport encourages slowing the pace while enriching the bond transcending time and place. While we may delight in vigorous conjugation, a longer wave in the rhythm can subdue premature ejaculation while deepening and flourishing the rapport we share. Sitting upright with legs folded, she can do similarly upon your lap, with or without penetration. With penetration, sufficient movement can be shared to assure continuous erection and delighting her inner moist trigger points during timeless embraces, while assuring that premature ejaculation does not occur due to excessive stimulation to you. In "The Sensuous Man", by M, this position was referred to as "unemployment compensation" position. It was also the base position from which the terms "jazz" and "rock and roll" originated.

When available foods are sufficient, regularly eaten in healthy manner, and digestion is operating properly, we develop enough vital juices from that food for body growth, physical fitness, vital essence for developing subtler realms of ourselves in body and mind, and for sharing with a partner in sexual celebration. Poor qualities of any of these and/or insufficiencies of food or excesses of sexual fluid release, by either man or woman, will debilitate the rest of one's physical, psychic, psycho-physical and physico-psycho-spiritual paralellism, consequently aging us much faster, shortening our lives.

Despite the fact that one can pull forth myriad ejaculations, such as within a week, doing so will also make us weaker as the most precious among the vital essences witin us are reproductive juices. The vital essence of what we eat, after going through other stages, culminates in lymph, thus, what we eat is essential to furthering the luster of our being, both physically and psychically, and consequently our transpersonal/spiritual excellence.

Excess lymph, among other processes, after nurturing glands, organs, muscles and such, feeds into becoming spinal fluid, and excess spinal fluid becames brain fodder, and the excess of that lends forth to semen and sperm. Draining our sap of semen and sperm exessively affects the luster of the rest of our being consequently, and thusly can result in a shorter life as well as an unhealthier old age. Having sex, particularly for bonding, transcendental rapport, far exceeds the value of our personal orgasms in fleeting moments of ecstasy, and lends such dispositions towards greater subtleties of mind that make human life particularly magnificent and lends to greater subtleties of mind, including most any occult skill, born of such bonding.

One offer forth one relatively large cell for reproduction once a month, along with some blood. This is quivalent to approximate four orgasms within that month for a man with his billions upon billions of individual sperm cells. Men are capable of having sex without orgasm while both he and his partner fathom the depths of infinity in each other's embrace while optimizing each other's health and launching their lives into transcendental experiences that can only be called spiritual/transpersonal, giving greatest meaning to having been born human.

To assist a man in retaining his semen for the life-enhancement that brings to his life and loving relationships, I have described some exercises below that will last him a lifetime, a longer lifetime, as well as aid in controlling premature ejaculation.

To strengthen one's PC and adjacent muscles, these yogasana [yoga posture] instructions, known as "mudras" will work marvels.

Bandhatraya Yoga-

(i) Maha'mudra': Sitting down, press the mu'la'dha'ra cakra [ the ****, though more accurately in this case, the perinium] with the left heel and extend the right leg forward. Breathe in deeply, and at the same time contract the urinary sphincter muscles. Grasp the sole of the extended foot firmly with both hands, and maintaining ja'landhara Bandha (clamping the chin against the chest), hold the breath. Retain this position for half a minute. Then relax the hands and also ja'landhara bandha, and, sitting erect, breathe out.

(ii) Maha'bandha: Press the mu'la'dha'ra cakra with the left heel and press the sva'dhis't'ha'na [at the lower base of the penis forward of the perinium] with the right heel. Breathe in and simultaneously imagine that the urinary sphincter muscles are being raised. Apply ja'landhara bandha, and after placing the thumbs over the waist, press the sides of the genitary organ with the eight remaining fingers. Maintain this position for half a minute, and then, releasing the hands and relaxing ja'landhara bandha, breathe out.

(iii) Maha'vedha: Press the mu'la'dha'ra with the left heel and the sva'dhis't'ha'na with the right. Contract both the **** and the urinary sphincter muscles hard while breathing out. Both the thumbs will rest over the waist. With the remaining eight fingers, try to raise the **** and the urinary sphincters. Ja'landhara bandha should be held in the meantime. Retain this posture for half a minute. Release the hands and ja'landhara bandha, breathe in, and at the same time relax the **** and urinary sphincters.

It will help that you urinate, from a sitting position, before performing these mudras, more fulfilling when you have poored cool water from your navel down after urination to release excess urine otherwise retained from normal urination.

Done regularly, these exercises will assist one not only in semen control, longer life, greater satisfaction of and for his wife, the retained semen will or can contribute to greater occult faculties flourishing the expression of his humanity.
(C) Satyananda