[InfiniteSadness]

Whats wrong with me? Am I cursed? Why did god make me like this. I was never the popular jock who always got the girls. This is making my anger towards women worse...

Have you thought that maybe having anger toward women might have something to do with not having a girlfriend? What makes you think a god "made you the way you are?"

[Inedible]

Having a girlfriend won't necessarily make you happy. It means having your own problems and her problems in addition to yours. It doesn't even guarantee sex on a regular basis. To the extent that you do manage to get sex in the bargain, it probably won't be as satisfying as you think it will. Your happiness has to come from yourself and it has to come first. Then more people will want to be around you and some of them will be women. Then that special relationship will come along. You will get a chance to see what you like about being with her and what you do not like, so you will choose better the next time around.

[Mike_J]

I agree with Inedible on a lot of points.

If you are happy with who you are then people of both genders will be more inclined to want to spend time with you.

And you can be in a relationship, even married and still not have sex on a regular basis.

[InfiniteSadness]

George- because there's no other logical explanation. I guess im not attractive enough for women. And guys need action- to feel good about themselves in my opinion. I know, the truth hurts..

Everyone is attractive enough Try not to base this just on physical attraction. Try getting to know some women on a friendship basis. Any woman who writes you off based on physical appearance isn't worth your time anyway unless you just want sex.
Talk to them...listen to them. Be yourself, not what you think they may want you to be.

[Inedible]

Originally Posted by InfiniteSadness

George- because there's no other logical explanation. I guess im not attractive enough for women. And guys need action- to feel good about themselves in my opinion. I know, the truth hurts..

This is a good example of what is called a limiting belief. As long as your happiness depends on specific circumstances that are outside of your control, then you will only be happy when those conditions are met. Unfortunately it is not enough for someone to tell you that happiness is a choice you are free to make regardless of the situation you find yourself in. You are the one who must identify and challenge your limiting beliefs. The best way anyone else can help is by being an example of someone who is not limited by the same beliefs - someone who shows that it is possible.

[Nihil]

Nothing's wrong with it. I haven't had a girlfriend either, and I'm 20 years old, but I can't say whether that's a benefit or not.

According to my social apathy, it is a benefit. Also, if you're angry towards, women, why would you want a girlfriend? :P

[InfiniteSadness]

Originally Posted by Inedible

This is a good example of what is called a limiting belief. As long as your happiness depends on specific circumstances that are outside of your control, then you will only be happy when those conditions are met. Unfortunately it is not enough for someone to tell you that happiness is a choice you are free to make regardless of the situation you find yourself in. You are the one who must identify and challenge your limiting beliefs. The best way anyone else can help is by being an example of someone who is not limited by the same beliefs - someone who shows that it is possible.

I dont totally agree happiness is a choice- thats a whole other discussion

[Inedible]

It takes time to overcome addictions to negative thoughts and negative emotions. They have momentum and it takes time to overcome their influence. It is important to disconnect the way you feel from the circumstances you find yourself in. What you need is for happiness to become a new habit, and until it becomes automatic you have to support it and protect it from being crushed.

[Harley47]

Originally Posted by George H.

Everyone is attractive enough Try not to base this just on physical attraction. Try getting to know some women on a friendship basis. Any woman who writes you off based on physical appearance isn't worth your time anyway unless you just want sex.
Talk to them...listen to them. Be yourself, not what you think they may want you to be.

George NAILED it...I don't think there's another possible thing I could add...nicely done George.

The key is not rushing, like George said. Just focus on getting to know women first, as friends. The rest tends to take care of itself.

Well, if I can add some thoughts into the discussion, I feel much of the same as the OP does; it is like a curse that I can't break free from. Although I have had a GF, it's been years since there's been a female in my life that has even liked me, other than email pen-pals online, and that doesn't seem to be about to end in the near future.

And I can empathize with the OP's anger towards women; for me, although I would like to have a close friend or GF that I can trust, having had nothing but failure and rejection with women does create some resentment. My feelings are less anger and resentment now than indifference, because it can seem to me that women are all the same, and sometimes I don't care anymore, there being nothing left than to accept the inevitable loneliness.

Friend, GF, male, female, family, makes little difference for me. Perhaps it is the nature of my condition but it can seem that the whole of society wants little to do with me, as if people take one look at me and write me off, because it is rare if someone likes me after our first encounter. It can make me think, "To hell with everyone!"

[Thor_Odinson]

I'm wondering how old you are and what you look like that you think you're too ugly to find happiness with a woman. I've seen some really ugly guys with girlfriends out there...