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Old Sep 02, 2014, 06:13 PM
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A little more of my OWN perspective:
Cureav I first and foremost never use my PD as a crutch as I find so many others do with their own issues. I never said what to do about the N in others lives as that is left entirely up for them. I know I have hurt many people and have very easily shrugged it off without any bother to me. Does this mean this satisfies me?? Not at all, it only means this is who I am. I have a family member who is bipolar among other PDs. He lies, steals from family and other bad things continually. You see I am like him except I make you want to give things to me. You will believe that my intentions are good and feel positive about giving me what I ask. I steal from you with a smile and a statement not behind your back. Who is better? Probably not me but these are things I work very hard at not doing anymore. I do not intentionally make these things happen because usually they just do. My mind say this is ok when reality is anything but. I have issues and say it all the time, I am not who I am but who I have become. For me I do not go around intentionally hurting people, the big error is that I don't think like you. My reasoning is different but it is never "I am going to hurt someone for fun today and do it again and again". So my comment about Ns hurting others and not caring is true it's just not planned out like you took it, it just happens. I live in America and I have yet to find any great help so your not alone. And last, people dealing with Ns would be best if they were equipped to know who they were dealing with. Problem is some are too good to be known until it's too late.
Thanks, I understand you. That was very nice of you to say. Coming out of all dysfunctional patterns into this tiny little space called "reason" is very hard for people who interjected, accepted and unconsciously behave by the rules of their damaged upbringing or stayed for a long period of time with, again, damaged people by their own tragedy.
Sometimes I really don't know where is the boundary between finding excuses for ones behavior, enabling and responsibility for someones own actions.
Another thing I hate is a constant self-doubt in order to detect and fix my own issues and stop hurting others. Sometimes I wish that I could just go into some store and buy one new software, operating system, (principles of behaving) for my brain, cause this old one is made by amateurs, and its so hard to detect and fix bugs.
Guhhh...
Thanks for this!
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Old Sep 03, 2014, 11:49 AM
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Thanks, I understand you. That was very nice of you to say. Coming out of all dysfunctional patterns into this tiny little space called "reason" is very hard for people who interjected, accepted and unconsciously behave by the rules of their damaged upbringing or stayed for a long period of time with, again, damaged people by their own tragedy.
Sometimes I really don't know where is the boundary between finding excuses for ones behavior, enabling and responsibility for someones own actions.
Another thing I hate is a constant self-doubt in order to detect and fix my own issues and stop hurting others. Sometimes I wish that I could just go into some store and buy one new software, operating system, (principles of behaving) for my brain, cause this old one is made by amateurs, and its so hard to detect and fix bugs.
Guhhh...
It sucks!!! Just that simple. Some days will be great others numb and some not good for ones near us. The analogy of masks is spot on (I suppose its better than multiple personalities at least lol).
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Old Sep 10, 2014, 07:24 AM
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Thanks for the post... What were/are your parents like? What specific things do you think led you down this path to NPD?

For me, it was was the knowledge that no one else was there for me..(my parents were so caught up in their own battles, that they really didn't have the time or inclination to show us much love or even care). and the knowledge that there are people out there who are so damaged that they would take advantage of a child (I was sexually abused by a stranger when I was 10).
Underground.... I can't help but notice that you never answered my question...

what's wrong? Scared?

If you look... you'll see that I've talked about my parents extensively... doesn't that make me better than you? Or braver.. or more healthy?
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Old Sep 10, 2014, 07:56 AM
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Not at all I already done that a long time before you were here. All it makes you is late to a very old conversation. Also if I were to respond to all that's asked of me here I would be what ever the ultimate poster would be called. I chose what I write, when I want to write and never feel the need to have to answer all questions especially ones I have covered. So as far as numbers yes you win, but as far as time you LOSE!!! Btw are you trying to start something with me by the taunting??? Just checking to see how "healthy" you really consider yourself by doing that.......
Thanks for this!
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Old Sep 10, 2014, 08:00 AM
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Where are those posts? I'd like to read them

Edit: I suppose I could look through your posts and see if I can find them... 343 posts.. that's kind of a small number, isn't it?
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Old Sep 10, 2014, 08:13 AM
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Ha hahahahaha good one!!
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Old Sep 10, 2014, 08:14 AM
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You did make me laugh at that one!!! Appreciate the humor
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Old Sep 12, 2014, 08:52 PM
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Where are those posts? I'd like to read them

Edit: I suppose I could look through your posts and see if I can find them... 343 posts.. that's kind of a small number, isn't it?
Just thought I'd mention, that while Underground has 343 posts and you, have over 700 posts....posting on your own posts, will drive up the base number, certainly. But they cannot be construed as original posts, on original topics. Just sayin.

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Old Sep 13, 2014, 07:30 AM
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You keep telling yourself that...... whatever helps you sleep at night. It's all good.
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Old Sep 14, 2014, 09:02 PM
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Laughing out very loud. My reasons are not known for sure but imagine why??? My image portrays heaven and hell. A constant battle between the two which always makes for very interesting thoughts. I am one with two!!! Continue to shine even when the lights are off.
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Old Sep 14, 2014, 09:04 PM
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The lights are off and my shining makes out the word written on the wall "ORIGINAL" hahahaha
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Old Sep 15, 2014, 08:44 AM
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Laughing out very loud. My reasons are not known for sure but imagine why??? My image portrays heaven and hell. A constant battle between the two which always makes for very interesting thoughts. I am one with two!!! Continue to shine even when the lights are off.
I really don't understand... would you like to explain just what it is you are trying to say?
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