Anyone else here obsessed with people?

Hi all!

I have become obsessed with a friend-yesterday I had a real rough time-I feel stressed and that she expects me to be responsible for her-she's emotionally needy and calls a lot-I told her not to call until I tell her to!

She lives near me but I don't see her often.

I was told to pray whenever a thought about her crosses my mind.

OCDC

I can become obssessed with people at times. For example with close friends. I feel i connect better with certain people. I suppose you would call it an obsession. I will tend to want to go wiht this person a lot. For lunch or dinner and talk to them all the time. I feel i can with for instance my best friend at the moment. She is awesome and she gets me and i get her. We are quite similar in this respect. As she texts or emails me and vice verse every day. I haven't spoken to her this weekend as she is not here she is back home for the weekend. But she texted me a couple of hours ago and thats fine. We are on Night Shift this Thursday coming so we will be chatting away like god knows what

Sometimes when i am a bit down and she is not here i will tend to feel worse as i just need that feeling a friend gives you. So i'll give her a wee text and she will text me back. I have had a few of these obsessions. I think its healthy to some extent though. I am not PURE obsessed with her though.

Does any of that make sense?

I think people with OCD on balance tend to become a lot more emotionally invested in other people's lives than other people. I can't say why, exactly, though it makes sense when you consider how sensitive we are to the world around us.

You have to be careful with this sort of thing, though. People can take advantage of you, whether it is intentional or not. Emotionally needy people can be pretty cruel and you have to keep your guard up so you don't get hurt. Also, if someone does take advantage of you, remember that it's not your fault and put this person out of your mind, pronto.

On the other hand, I think caring about other people is generally a good thing, and you can really be a good friend to the right person. The only thing to remember is to put yourself first.

Hey Digdug,

What you said is perfect. I get the mick took out of me all the time and my best friend and her other friend keep telling me all the time people use me and to learn to put myself first. I never do though but i am learning the hard way. I get used all the time from work and my volunteering work and also my own family. My family especially when i buy things for them etc they know i will buy them what they want or close to that. I will spend a fortune on each of them for their birthday's, christmas's etc and its unreal how much i spend. I do not ask for anything in return. I don't tend to want anything gift wise and i know you don't give to receive. My mate was going mental as for christmas i bought her present after we decided not to. I just wanted to show her how much i appreciated her. It was fairly cheap not ott as she got other things and we did do a BIG Christmas Dinner with her Boyfriend and also with our work too. But i think that she appreciated it as she was needing cheered up.

But yes i totally understand what you are saying and i will need to try that thing what's it called oh ye PUTTING MYSELF FIRST

Miss Laura, I totally hear where you're coming from. I tend to be a person that people feel like they can confide in, which has gotten me into more than a few one-sided friendships. It's hard once you've been sucked into someone's world to pull yourself out of it, but it is so often necessary.

I tend to avoid making friendships these days as it's caused me so much stress before. I figure I'm married, my wife is also my best friend, and that's about as much as I should want out of this world. I've been burned by other people too many times to go beyond that, right or wrong.

Hey Digdug,

Yes definately, my mates DO confide in me and i normally am relatively neutral in all relatioships. My mate and i were talking and although she talks to a lot of people in work. I speak more to them than she does. She was commenting on one of the girls nothing bad or anything. She said i know i cant speak badly about certain people as you tend to like EVERYONE in work heehee!!! I said well you can ask my opinion. It may not be what your looking for. Unless someone has hurt me in any sense or form i will be their friend.

Ah the joys of a marrige. I am single and have been all my life. My relationships are all purely on friendship and i think with my best mate its been a great relationship and i trust her 100% so far she hasn't told my secrets so i think i am safe there.

Hi everyone,

My friends, or the people I hang with do sometimes unload stuff and play word
games. It seems as though I'm a person of association rather than someone to befriend and get close to. I often get upset at their questions as though I'm being
filtered or pass threw a sieve. This one peticular person is quite annoying and I feel
terrible about it, I'd leave the relationship but he means well and likeable too. He
doesn't have any other friends. This is giving me anxiety and I just can't deal with
the whole issue. It is certainly a possibility to be OCD with people. Their is also 3-4
others that are not quite like him but along the same line. What do I do?