Angry !

Do you ever get so mad you just want to scream ! I am having such a terrible day today its turning my head nasty nasty nasty ! Why am I so angry ? Why am I ready to actualy hit somone ?

(((Tishie))) You surely aren't in a good place right now are you? It's good that you realize this, and are trying to find the "cause" of those angry feelings.

First though, breathe! Big deep breath, hold a bit, slowly release...and again. Nothing is harming you right now, right this second you are reading this and everything is fine... rest, relax, breathe.

I doubt that it's any one thing, or any one incident, but things that have been building up over some time maybe? Wanting to hit someone shows you are really maxed. You may need some healthy physical activity to help your muscles relax (and not hit anyone.) If you can't get to a gym, or out for a bike ride or tennis game, go into the restroom or stairwell and jump up and down for a bit and swing your arms back and forth to work off that negative energy. The blood flow and oxygen flow to the brain will help you think through what's causing this anger.

Good wishes.

Hi Tishie...

I'm sorry you're head is getting NASTY!! I hate it when mine goes that way too!!

I have felt like hitting someone/something before too. When I feel like this, sometimes I grab my pillow and I wail on it for a minute or two, or I turn on some EMINEM and jump around my living room and sing along for a while.

Sky's idea of exercise is good too. That can help, but also, try not to be afraid of your anger and the nasty feelings and thoughts. So many times we are taught that these thoughts or feelings are bad. Try not to judge your thoughts and feelings. It is OKAY to feel this way!! Anger and frustration are healthy emotions and feelings to have, it's the negative actions people choose to take when they feel these things that is not a good idea.

I did DBT (Dialectical Behavior Therapy) and Marsha Linehan (Founder of DBT) says to visualize your emotions as a train, each box car a different emotion. Now, picture yourself sitting on a hillside just watching the train go by. Now you have a choice...you can get on the emotional train, and allow your emotions to rule you , or you can sit on the hillside, notice them, validate them within yourself, and let them roll on by. If you like, I will sit on the hill with you and we can make wreaths and bracelets out of grass flowers!!

This visualization has helped me a lot. Your feelings are okay!! Even the angry, nasty ones. Don't judge them as good or bad. They are what they are. Just notice them and let them go!!

It's hard to do...but I thought I'd pass it on to you, as it's helped me tons!!

Take care!! (if okay)

Tishie,

No words of wisdom but I've got hugs to give!

I'm with Notz, I can only offer a ~hug~ No real words of advice...

oh can i relate to how you descibed you described your anger. Please know you are not alone...cannot think straight. Therapist gave me a great tip...expend the energy first in a non distructive way but one in which only seems distructive. What always works for me is to toilet paper the inside of my house! The reason always comes out in the process. Someone else i know would buy inexpensive plates and throw them in a field, another plays fetch with her dog...although her dog could not throw worth a darn and she got tired of looking for the ball in the woods (kidding about the dog part). Hope this helps.

OMG...NuckingFutz, these are brilliant suggestions!! LOL!! I never thought of toilet-papering the inside of my house before!! Heck, I might just do that for fun right now!!

I like the plate throwing idea too! I do that every once in a while! I will usually pick up a couple plates from salvation army or goodwill and take them into my driveway and just chuck them into the ground as hard as I can. Not only does it help get the aggression and anger out, but the neighbors are really nice to you after they see that!!

Throwing ice cubes in the bathtub makes A LOT of noise and works pretty well too.

(((((tishie))))))))))))))))) im sorry your feeling so upset right now
I tend to agree with sky , breath first. relax if you can. Go for a walk
get away from everyone.....sit if you have to outside and figure out whats going on inside of you
A little secret I did once . I took paper plates and threw them straight down.
First so I would not have to pick them up all over and second so it would not hurt anyone.
Most of all they do not break no mess to clean up.

Take care of you thou and find out whats upsetting you
((((((you matter)))))))))))))))))))))

Its leaves when I self medicate I am on script meds at the moment but they dont seem to be working too well either that or I am a little too much off base right now for even them to work.

Hugs and thank you all for your help I really REALLY appreciate the response and advice .

hope you feel better soon tishie!