[SeptemberMorn]

where to post this... It's related to the problem I'm having with "him" but it seems I can't take much more of ANYTHING without exploding.

I'm not a danger to myself, but it feels like I could be a danger to others! While outside cleaning up some of the crap that "he" has accumulated, that makes my place look like a pig stye on the outside, Art came over. We were talking and carrying on while he helped me move some heavy stuff. Well... ya'll remember that neighbor directly across the street that was always calling one authority or the other on me? He came over and told me to shut my fat mouth! Said he was sick of hearing me! One thing led to another and I told him to step right up and get a piece of this... pounding my chest while I'm at it! LOL I mean, I am READY to take this sucker on! Art, all the time is cussing under his breath but not taking much action. However, I can feel him tight as a drum, ready to jump in and put this idiot in his place! When I'd had enough screaming, I picked up my cell and said I was calling the cops. The drunken idiot ran back home as fast as his drunken feet would carry him. A few minutes later, he comes out, walks around the corner and checks out my address. I told Art what he was doing. He was making sure of my address to call the cops on ME! He did. They came. I told him I had been in a screaming match with the idiot across the street and told them to look in their records to see that this is the idiot's favorite pastime... to call the cops, fire dept, animal control, you name it and report me for figments of his drunken imagination.

I'm sitting here, wishing he'd come over and start it again so I can lay into him with my aluminum bat!! I've been waiting months to lace his legs, knees, nards, whatever with this bat!!

Tell you one thing! Jerry had better not show his sorry face around here in the next few days!!

[SeptemberMorn]

DAMN! Eleven reads and no one has anything to say? I need some answers, people! Please?

[jmo531]

((((((((((((((((((((((((SEPT))))))))))))))))))))))

I dont know what to say. That bastard. Lucky I wasnt there with ya. We'd beat the hell outta him.

[Dolfin]

The next time he starts to verbally assault you, dial 9-1-1 on your cell phone and let the dispatchers hear his drunken tirade...then when he's done, get on your phone and tell the dispatcher your address and that you'd like to have him "spoken to" by someone as this is a recurring problem. Really play up the 'victim' role - it works wonders (I myself am just like you, I'll call a guy out in a heartbeat LOL) But, making it sound like you are in fear of your personal safety, especially after being silent during his tirade (which will be on tape by now) will score marks for you with the responding officers.

It worked when my neighbors would cuss at me for mowing my yard at 1pm on a Sunday!!! (Poor babies had hangovers - wah.)

Hugz and Love,
Jenn

[SeptemberMorn]

I've tried carrying a small camera. Maybe he saw it because I got tired of carrying and he never came over.

Had one cop tell me he can call me names and anything else as long as he doesn't come on my property. Same cop told me to file a TRO. Yeah right! The judge wouldn't even listen to me! Threw it right out of court! I've got a thick file on this idiot. Nothing seems to work. Although he did run when he saw me pick up my cell phone...

Art has "homies." He keeps threatening to call them on him. I hope he does!

[SeptemberMorn]

What if we break his knees and then drag him on to my property? Think that might work? LOL

Son of a *****ing bastard!! OOooh! I hardly ever do that. Maybe I should be thinking of kicking the old man out of the house, eh? I've been cussing up a storm since yesterday!

[SeptemberMorn]

That sounds like a winner! Now I need someone to come over and talk to me so I can get this idiot going again... that is if he hasn't passed out from all the drinking, yet.

i know that all that anger is exciting and you're feeling really mean right now BUT do you really want to start a fight with a drunken neighbor? i believe that it would be hard for us to comunicate with you if you're in jail ...lowering yourself to his level really won't get much done..except lower you to his level....i know that so much of the anger comes from being mad at your husband, so why don't you work on a plan for what you're going to do...if you end up having to make some changes........please be careful, as you don't know when someone could have a gun or a knife .......okay????

[SeptemberMorn]

{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{Pat}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}} I'm okay. I promise. Not gonna go start anything. This has been going on for three years with this neighbor. Haven't done anything stupid YET! There's enough stupidity around me that I don't need to jump in that pool, too.

But why can't I lace him in the nards with my bat if he comes over while I'm alone???? He's so damn drunk he wouldn't know what hit him! wwwaaaaaaaaaaaa

@#$%*&^%#$^%@$!!$%^&**&%^$#@!@#%^%&^%$&%$#^$@#^%%&^(*&%&%^$!!!!!!!!!

[nothemama8]

not baseball bat, fish hooks hang him high

[SeptemberMorn]

LOL Only thing is, I don't have any fish hooks. Got the bat, though!

[(JD)]

OK GIRL FRIEND! You HAVE been doing "stupid" things all along (to use your phraseology.) This HAS been going on for 3 years, yet you continue to react like always. What has your past and present actions/reactions changed? Nothing. You haven't changed your neighbor (obviously not your responsibility) but neither have you changed.

IMHPO you need to start looking at this situation from a different perspective. What is it about this, the neighbor and your anger and all that goes into this relationship, that keeps you coming back for more? It has to be feeding something in you. Perhaps you relive certain traumas that you have never faced? I don't know, but YOU can know... only you can know for sure.

The way you are responding to this stimuli is not healthy. (And I won't even get into the Christian aspect of your actions... because I'm not even sure you are ready to hear what I just said above.)

Breathe! Try to avoid exacerbating the situation (and with a drunk no less? like that takes a lot of brains?) Wait until you are calmer and then try analyzing just what's in this for you.

Be safe you ninny.

[SeptemberMorn]

All kidding aside... all the people that have screwed with me in the last few years are coming to mind...

[SeptemberMorn]

I don't know what my payoff is, Sky. It starts with having let "him" back. At first we got along very well, but things have been going back to the way they were before we split up 7 yrs ago. He'll never change. I knew that when he moved back in.

The thing with the drunk neighbor stopped when his mom came for an extended visit. His relationship with the old broad that used to live with him was one of physical abuse on his part and verbal abuse on her part. He LOVES to instigate. He finds ways of getting verbally abused. Don't need to remind you that I have A BIG MOUTH!

The thing with the neighbor was probably just a way to get rid of some steam.

With "him"? Beats the crap outta ME! I don't know why I put up with his %#@&#!! I certainly proved to myself today that I don't need him to do heavy work!

So maybe I need his money?

[SeptemberMorn]

What makes me need the struggle to get anything out of him? Old family dynamics? An assertion that my whole life has been difficult so why should it change now?

[(JD)]

He has money??? Well why didn't you say so! lol

Nah... nothing is worth misery...not even money.

[SeptemberMorn]

LOL He doesn't have THAT much money, but he helps me with half the expenses and it sure helps! If I kick his *** out, I'll have to give up my cable TV, cable modem, cell phone just for starters. He'll probably never finish fixing up this place and he's torn the hell out of it!! Like... uh... I'm missing a wall and a half in the front room because he wanted to see how much of the structural supports were water damaged? All I have for a floor in the front room is an old press board floor! That's as far as it's gotten in the last oh... um... three months?

Oh, crap! Don't make me think! .......... But you KNOW I will... humph! ...

{{{LOL He doesn't have THAT much money, but he helps me with half the expenses and it sure helps! If I kick his *** out, I'll have to give up my cable TV, cable modem, cell phone just for starters. He'll probably never finish fixing up this place and he's torn the hell out of it!! Like... uh... I'm missing a wall and a half in the front room because he wanted to see how much of the structural supports were water damaged? All I have for a floor in the front room is an old press board floor! That's as far as it's gotten in the last oh... um... three months?}}}

okay, let's run down what you can't live without. i do not have: cable television, cable modem nor do i have a cell phone. i work three shifts a week at the dialysis clinic...go in at 5, get off at 5.....i have enough money for petfood and shelter and gas for the truck.....i'm reasonably happy........

you've got to be getting something out of this that you aren't willing to disclose. you aren't living a "good life"....you're existing with someone who doesn't respect you. i guess the point right now is, do you respect you? '

have you ever had anger management counseling? i'd consider that..pat

[SeptemberMorn]

I can live without all that stuff, Pat. I've done it before. I'd rather not, but it's not worth the price. I know!

If I could work, you bet I'd be out there pounding the cement. I'm on disability for a reason.

I don't know... Slap me in the face with what you think my payoff is! For 9 years I've tried to tell myself I don't love this man! There certainly isn't any reason for it!

I DON'T KNOW!

[SeptemberMorn]

Everybody wash up! Dinner's on!!

Menu

Beef Chuck Roast
Potatoes,
Carrots Cooked in the gravy
Jumbo busquits

BYO!

Double Fudge Cake for dessert!!

[h0kie]

Not to interrupt but I think it could be one of two things (or a combo of the two).

1. On some level...conciously or unconciously, you believe this is all the better you deserve. You don't deserve to be treated well.

2. It's comfortable. I hate change. Yes, there are a lot of faults with your hubby...but you still have someone. You know? I don't think you're afraid to be alone...but no one likes being alone.

Just mt $0.02....not worth much, but there it is.

[SeptemberMorn]

I don't WANT to be alone... but I can do it. Maybe it's taken me this long to realize I don't love him. Maybe I'm addicted to him... or our past. He's the only one I had a baby with when I was "in love" with him.

The time I've spent here has made me believe that I DO deserve better. It's just too late for that for me.

[SeptemberMorn]

What do you mean "interrupt"? Can't happen... Silly goose!

{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{1day}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}

[h0kie]

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The time I've spent here has made me believe that I DO deserve better. It's just too late for that for me.

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It's never too late. Never, never, never. Hubby's aunt married (for the first time) at almost 70 and she is very happy.

It's never too late.

[SeptemberMorn]

Well, in that case I'd have to lose 150 lbs... roughly... UGH!