[jammerlich]

There just isn't. It doesn't exist.

(((((jam)))))

I'm here if you wanna talk about this. Is there something that's maing you feel unsafe? PM me if you want.

Ry

[oksomaybeimnuts]

(((((((jammer)))))))) i agree

[jmo531]

((((((((((((((((((((((Jammer)))))))))))))))))))))))

[dayzee9]

(((((((((((((((((((((Jammer ))))))))))))))))))))))))))

I am not happy about it; but you're right............speaking of "writing"

It's my only "safe place"

Love ya anyhow for standing up & saying it!

DAYZEE9w/

[SweetSunshine]

Jammer I totally agree. The places we would think that we would be the safest, we arent. It hurts so much. I dont know who I can really trust to be a friend now or not. I dont know what to think anymore.
Hope you find a safe place soon . Thinking of you.

Beth

[dayzee9]

(((((HEY TRYIN2Bme )))))))))))))))))

PM me! I got a list of web sites!

DAYZEE9

[January]

(((((((((((((((((((((((jammer))))))))))))))))))))))))

You know I'm here for you.

Jan

[TgrsPurr]

I'm gonna go out on a limb here...but I must be honest in my "feeling" about this. My "feeling" doesn't make my right, only that it works for me.

Being "safe" comes from within. Any sense of self-assuredness naturally speaks to "self-preservation". It is in our weaknesses, our defects, our disfunctions that we choose unsafe ppl, situations and actions.

Being "safe", for me, comes from within, so that anyone who tries to prey on my sense of safety doesn't even come close because it comes from within, where I have total control, and am therefore not affected by it.

I know this is easier said than done...it's taken me many years to finally reach this truth for me, but totally worth it!

Hope this helps you, or at least someone...
TgrsPurr, xo.

TgrsPurr--I am glad you shared what works for you as it is one way of approaching this. I think you've shared some valuable insights of what you've experienced over the years. I also appreciate that you offer this up as merely one way of facing this as we're all so different. That is one reason I like the diversity of opinions offered up as respectfully as you have done here with yours.
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Being "safe", for me, comes from within, so that anyone who tries to prey on my sense of safety doesn't even come close because it comes from within, where I have total control, and am therefore not affected by it.

I know this is easier said than done...it's taken me many years to finally reach this truth for me, but totally worth it!

</div></font></blockquote><font class="post"> Good stuff. It is great this worked for you and I'm hopeful others can see the possibilities your example offers.

Sharing your truth is wonderful. Thanks for doing so! It takes guts to be honest in your feelings.

[(JD)]

I'm saddened to hear that so many are dealing with this issue... feeling so unsafe in life...

There ARE safe places... there IS safety... and I hope you can find at least one very soon.

My safety feelings began with my T, and his expertise in demanding his office as a safe place. Even now, if I begin to lose my temper, then we work at reframing it all, so that by the time I leave, I still feel as though it is a safe place (versus one where I became angry and don'tt want to go back etc.) Outside of the T's office, for many years, I felt as you do... NO safety. nothing safe... I've drawn on my T for learning what can be safe for me. It's very tough.

My hope is that you will find someone, or even from this site, something along the way, to help you feel safer.

((((((hugs))))))) &lt;-------safe hugs, promise.