i didnt matter

*dont have to read.
just not happy about how something went.
was my own fault.
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im working christmas day and boxing day. because i dont matter and have no life anyway. its a handy convenience for some i work with. just not me.

doesnt matter that i actually had christmas day scheduled off. because someone else wanted it off and they have a life. so that has presidence i guess.

actually two were after christmas day. both are scheduled to work it. neither cared if i wanted that day off. doesnt matter i never get the stats off either (because theres noone to cover it). and they do get them off. doesnt matter that i worked fourteen days in a row and then twelve days in a row for one of them. no what matters is that they should get christmas off. i dont really need it. i like working constantly.

they both had their reasons and a life of course and wanted it. didnt matter if it was my day off. and maybe i could pick what hours i would like to work seeing how it was christmas and i was scheduled off. no the two wanting it is what mattered. how it was going to affect them. not me. so it came down to seniority in the end.

i tried to say that i would rather not work it. but neither heard me. and im too quiet. so now one is happy and off and im working. and the person im working christmas for is taking boxing day off too. so they can really enjoy the holiday. not maybe give me boxing day since they had christmas. course not. so im working 9:00 am - 7:00 pm both days. when i should have been off both. and probably scheduled to work them both next year of course. (no way this person will give them to me next year when theyre scheduled off!!) sigh....................

wish i could stand up for myself. instead of being the floor people walk on all the time. guess i deserve to work it because i could have said no but didnt. altho i thought i kinda did at the beginning of all this.

sorry. not a nice post.

Vent if you need to!!! We're here for you!

I dont know where you work, but maybe they have something planned for lunch, like a nice carry in or something? Something to make working Christmas day worthwhile?

My company is like that too: if two people request off the same day, the seniority wins. Sometimes it's ok, but sometimes, it's not. Like, if I my job is easily covered, then I should get it off, but if the other person's job can't be covered, they should have to work it.

no lunch that day. just minimum staff. probably a very quiet day.

the seniority wasnt about me. i was the one who had the day scheduled off. it was between the two of them. which one should get it. they knew it wouldnt be hard to get me to trade with them . neither of them could have that day unless i agreed to trade with one of them.

i shouldnt have had this problem. but their problem became mine. because i cant say no to people. and they know this where i work. and have no problem taking advantage of it.

I'm so sorry that you're upset. I can surely understand the frustration of not getting a day off, or being taken advantage of at work.

The only thing I do is hope that someone up above my department looks and sees the hard work I do for the department (and the company, for that matter!) and realize that I'm not a slacker! (....well... as I sit here on PC for the last 30 minutes! LOL!!)

Perhaps you could role play with your therapist and practice saying no.

Hi - You are alot like I used to be. You would think that I had "walk on me" tattooed on my head, because everyone was always using me for a doormat! And I allowed it because I'm very shy - and I didn't have the guts to stand up for myself. Even my husband used me and walked all over me. I couldn't even stand up to HIM because I would "keep the peace at all costs."

I found a therapist who was just fantastic. She wasn't one of those who just sat and stared at me, and said "uh huh" once in awhile. She gave me feedback, and talked to me. There's a saying that I like: pain is inevitable, suffering is optional. Well, I was suffering and not doing a darn thing about it. My therapist gave me my POWER back. She showed me what I had to do to get it back --- and I did it. I no longer am the shy little wallflower - I stand up for my rights; if I don't like or want something - like working on holidays, I'm going to let someone KNOW about it in no uncertain terms!!

You can get your power back too - but you've got to decide to quit giving it away first. You've got to KNOW that you are just as GOOD as anyone else, and just as deserving as the next guy/gal. NO ONE is better than you!! We are all the SAME. You CAN stand up for yourself -- if I can do it, you sure can. So stand tall, know that you're just as good as, and speak up! You won't be sorry. God bless you - and have a fantastic life! Hugs, Lee

((((( suzzie )))))

Suzzie, can you role play with your therapist? Practice saying no about very small things, warn people nicely ahead of time that ceratain days that are generall problem days WILL be your turn off? And then hold to it after working with your T? I mean of course when it is reasonable, but not letting people step on you? It's hard to change such things, I know. Scary stuff! In the meantime, HHHHHHUUUUUGGGGGGSSSSS. Head up, Suzzie.

Awwwwe Suzie....You deserve no less than anyone else love....know that! ~W~

I hate work politics! I never understand them, get in trouble and get walked on too... when I have work. Both saying yes and saying no have their costs... I hope that your T is able to help you develop some more skills to help get your needs met.

Suzzie, you DO matter sweetie, you DO deserve a life, happiness and time off work to relax! these people are horrid taking advantage of your good nature, but it can work both ways, once worked for them, you have every right to say NO next time and you have a valid reason when you say no next time, because you gave up this christmas for them!!! we live in a world where people often need reminding of the give and take rule, most only remember the take bit, Also i am not sure what the employment laws where you live are but i would start questioniung youe boss about the perks of working holidays, over here they include double pay and an extra day off for each holiday day worked!! maybe if you find out the perks set out by your country government and employer then point these out to him/her you may find they think twice about asking you to swap in future!! they may be using you because you are not aware that they are not giving you your full entitlement!