Still sad about being blocked

((((Pat))))

gg

GL,
You wrote,[...Lou...I would like to hear...your perspective...].
It is no great honor for me to write in defense of another member of a mental-health community. I would cry too if it was happening to me.
When someone comes to a mental-health community, it goes without saying that they are comming to a community that has a population consisting of people seeking ways to deal with mental- health issues in their lives. These issues are supposedly understood by the other members and there is supposed to be an acceptance to the person's condition, such as OCD, PTSD, BPD, depression, eating disorders, sexual abuse and other conditions. This leads to ones feeling of safety to be among others that have empathy toward the other members. They feel that they will not be subjected to attacks from other members or have their dignity assulted, or their integrety questioned or their self-image torn down with psychological tactics such as humiliation and shaming.
If you would like to have dialog with me for support from my perspective, could you read the following and I can show you how tears can be turned to laughter.
Lou
http://psychologicalharassment.netfirms.com

I think some of us have lost sight of the angst and urgency we all felt while trying to find our way in this world.

Hopefully as we begin to mature our priorities and our focus
change with time. But for now Greenleaves has what she believes to be real dilemma. If we can't help, lets not hurt.

zuzu,

Ive thought about this all again. Is it not that Greeny just wants attention. After all Greeny you have said that no matter what amount of attention you get in the form of replies, it just doesnt meet you needs. You said that it quickly disappears and you need more and thats why you post most of the time.

I suspect thats the real issue here. The internet site, being banned from it, the medications you are on,........ they are all side issues, its just the replies and attention you need.

It kind of sucks for everyone else who has been trying to help you thinking that there really was a problem. Its made me very tired.

atg

ATG Ditto to Pat....

Gardergirl you know I think you hung the moon...maybe you could come from PB more and help Green or she can share her email addy with you to talk with the people she really wants to talk to..I have seen A LOT of posters in HERE being ignored and not posted too leaving due to lack of response. Myself I am moving on to others in this site...wishing Greenie well of course

> ... you have said that no matter what amount of attention you get in the form of replies, it just doesnt meet you needs. You said that it quickly disappears and you need more and thats why you post most of the time.

> It kind of sucks for everyone else who has been trying to help you thinking that there really was a problem.

Sorry, I thought you figured out a problem just there...

I don't really understand what the problem is here...

If posters don't want to reply to her, then don't reply to her.
Her posts being here doesn't mean anybody has an obligation to reply to them, you know. If you find it hard to know what to say or whatever then just jolly well leave her posts alone and leave them for people who may be in a better place to respond to them. I have to say that that tends to work much better than posting things out of frustration or annoyance because one doesn't really understand what she wants or needs. Because posting out of frustration or annoyance tends to make the situation worse, and doesn't really help at all.

I also want to say that it is one thing to stop responding, or to put someone on ignore which is of course within your rights... And it is another thing to be so very vocal about how this is what you are going to do (which is unnecessarily cruel)

In fact... I wonder why people do it. Maybe the idea is to ostracise people... Be so very vocal about how difficult one finds it and hope the environment will be changed so all the inconvienient people who you don't know how to cope with will be taken out of it.

Is that really what people would prefer?

I find it really hard to take some of the posts people post.
They aren't supportive.

And FYI 'hysteric' isn't a term in current use anymore. Why not? Because it was considered to be a term that had extremely negative and judgemental connotations and there wasn't an adequate way of objectively determining whether someone met criteria for that or not... Basically... To label someone 'hysterical' speaks more of a transference reaction than it does about any intrinsic qualities of the individual you are labelling from a position of frustrated mental health consumer. Or maybe... You are qualified to diagnose? The implication seems to be that... 'hysterical behaviours' should be what? Ignored? What do you think?

I think...

People who feel frustrated should learn to own their own responses and quit lashing out at others.

Unbelievable...

(I think she meant an urgent, one-time problem rather than an ongoing problem, if I may be so bold as to attempt to clarify)

The word used was "histrionic" not "hysterical" and it is still being used. In fact, there's an article about it right here on this site. Histrionic Personality Disorder

I think that alot has been said here. However, I don't think debating a potential dx. for someone at this site is supportive or appropriate. That appears what the thread has come to be about, for the most part, at this point.