roomate question

My roomate is from kuwait originally, and she speaks good english, we get along pretty well, and havent had many problems at all, and things are great. I find myself starting to get annoyed with her music but i can deal with that, whats really annoying to me, is that shes on the phone all the time, and she speaks her language fluently and loudly, and its reallllly irritating, especially when im trying to read. Is this considered rude? Should i talk to her about it? Im not racist or anything, i have nothing against her culture, but for some reason i just find it incredibly irritating. Help!

all things shall pass...even life.

well i would talk to her in a freindly way and say like please quit talking soo loud im trying to read.And if she doesnt stop

Go in another room and just read it possible....my mom has had this happen to her and she delt with it for 3 years...i have no idea how but

She did...and i think you should just tell her that the bill is too hi to be talking how ever much it is..and if she dont like it..tell her she can just get out and move

Not to be rude or anyhitng but it is hard to do that...especially how much shes on the phone.??¿ what your phone bill??¿

pretty hi i bet...that what i would do...and its not bad advice...its the better thing to do to me...i guess someone

Else on her might change your mind but i think you shoud do what you must with her...even if it means shes gone..!

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well we dont have to pay a phone bill, we live in a dormitory on campus, not in an apartment so i cant use that as leverage. She just brought one of her friends back, and i was gonna start reading...i guess thats not gonna happen...ugh.

all things shall pass...even life.

Oh,
sorry didnt know that...yes i guess it will all change....well if shes on the phone that long....id make a timelimit per day....if some one calls you

You could answer it probly....but i think shes pushing a little bit in dont you think.....spend 1/2 of the day on the ohone?well i

would make per limits on everything....or just find another place to stay......And if not....well...tell her to please listen and not to be on the

Phone as much as she is

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Hiya Emo,
I haven't ever been in a dorm situation. It's not a normal roommate situation though. You are pretty much stuck. Can you set some agreements with your roommate. Have a roommate meeting where you and she can talk over problems and how to compromise. Think you could do that?

is there some sort of organization on campus that deals with international students? maybe a faculty member involved with something like that might have some insight into whether your roommate is just sort of culturally clueless or just clueless in general, and how to resolve this without offending her.

as for her speaking her language loudly on the phone--she's surrounded by people who speak a foreign language all the time and she has become somewhat accustomed to that. she might not realize how distracting and/or rude that comes off to others.

Emoangel,

My daughter had a similar problem last year so I can really understand how frustrating this can be for you---you would not believe the countless times I got a phone call saying "MOMMMMMMMM!!!!"haha

My suggestion to her was to talk to her roomate and to see if they could work out an understanding about her need for quiet study time and her roomie's need for social time in their little shoebox pretending to be a room!!

They soon were able to work out a system where if one was studying the other would socialize elsewhere and vice versa. It was all about communicating their needs to each other and sometimes adjusting and being tolerant----neither one of these girls had ever shared a room with anyone before so that in itself was a BIG adjustment!

If you and your roomate could work out a similar system I am sure it would be helpful----if you can't work it out on your own, perhaps the two of you could go to the RA and ask for help in resolving the situation.

But above all remember to communicate your needs to each other! College is about learning to deal with people from all walks of life and getting ready to go out into the big bad world!! The academics is only a fraction of the lessons to be learned from the experience---the social aspect is usually much more valuable sometimes than the academics. Enjoy this experience and learn everything you can from it!!

Take care and God bless!! Deanna

Ahh roommate problems. . .
Yes I had a similar problem with my first roommate freshman year. I say my first roommate cause I had two my freshman year.
Can you talk to her about it? So many students at my school take the phone out side the room especially when they are calling relatively late at night.
Can you go out of the room when she has done it for a while and go some where else to read? Maybe then she would get the picture that she is bothering you.

Take care
moonlight

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