How do you deal with a roomate?

Hello hello.

I made another post about my roomate awhile ago. LINK HERE

Long story short, I did speak with Housing (and Attendant Services, who arrange the accessible rooms for those who need it - myself included).

I was given the choice of moving out and into another place, but... I turned it down. I saw the room, it wasn';t big enough for me, and I would have needed a meal plan (which doesn't work for me, I was having allergic reactions because of cross-contamination).

So I chose the roomate.

I spoke with her friends, and they spoke to my roomate (Yes, I did as well. I had told her I was considering moving out because of personality conflicts... she accepted that).

She's said she'll attempt to change, but I was wondering if there was anything in particular (advice-wise) about how to negotiate her not trying to run my life so we can maintain a positive relationship?

I'm trying to set boundaries, but its soooo hard.

Any advice much appreciated.

Simply tell her that you are quite capable of running your own life and can make decisions for yourself. Maybe she thinks she is being helpful,

I was in the military and had over 170 roommates within 8 different living arrangements. I didn't have a separate room or door to close to avoid the roommate(s). I only enjoyed living with 3 of those roommates.

My only advice is *respectfully* ignore your roommate. Be cordial, but don't give more than you are willing to give (which may be nothing). Unfortunately, you'll probably have to all the chores (which you'd still have to do if you lived alone). When your roommate drives you crazy, leave or go to sleep or read a book or focus on your stuff. Keep telling yourself, "I'm not responsible for her."

Hope this helps a wee bit. ((((((huggs)))))