Time

Sometimes I feel bad about the time that's spent on people. I mean I spend a lot of time tending to other people that I often forget about tending to myself. I let myself go a lot. I guess that's part of my depression.

Some days I get online and focus totally on the people I'm online with, and I don't get dressed, neglect my hygiene, or neglect my health...all for somebody else. I know I shouldn't do that, but I'm so wrapped up in other people's problems that I really don't care as long as I'm helping someone else out. It's really important to me to help people out, but I really don't get much in return sometimes. You know how that is.

Recently I've felt so invisible to so many people that it's starting to bother me and I'm regretting all the time that's spent on other people. I try to please EVERYBODY, which is not a good thing for me. It's the cycle I get into, as I'm sure so many other people get into it, too. So I guess I have to figure out how to stop that cycle.

lex, i do the same has you, i immerse myself in other peoples problems, i do it to hide or escape from my own, it is/was a formular that has worked for me before, now i am just saying ***** it and doing what i want to do, dont get me wrong i still listen and talk to everybody but i have scalled it down dramatically, i dont post has often, i dont go to chat has often has i did when i first came to the site, i dont spend upwards of 20+ hours a day on here anymore, i am still around everyday/night yet i have pulled back, there are to many people on this site who take take take and never give back, there comes a time when you have to say to yourself enough is enough, and look after you.

Lexi,
I think many of us get tired of our own problems, and think maybe I could more of a difference in someone els'e life. Have you thought about doing two to three things for you first, before helping others. That way if they don't reach out to you in the same way, you won't feel like you have let yourself down. Prayers for Christmas blessings, Jane - Oz

Aha, me thinks you have hit the "Self sacrifice sucks" wall.
Comes a point when it's time to put yourself first. I feel ike I didn't know how to take care of myself so I practiced on others. .. . thinking it would come back to me from them. NOT. So, like you I had to decide it was my turn to take care of myself. Let me tell ya, it's a lot harder to take care of me than it was to take care of them.. ... .. no wonder I procrastinated. But, figuring out how to take care of us'ns has been a very good thing. An ongoing thing. Even altered my understanding of what "taking care of" means in the bigger picture...... one step at a time, and, good luck, you deserve all the care you can muster.