Learning ~

My heart goes out to alot of people here who are hurting. We all have our trials and pain we are working thru. And in thet we have problems sometimes of taking in others constructive criticism. And OMG how I know how it doesnt feel like that sometimes. But they are only trying to lead us to learn about ourselves in a deeper way, a deeper truth. It doesnt have to be a bad thing. It can be a good thing. Its what we want to make of it. There is always room to grow and learn and change. There isnt anything wrong with that. Sometimes its a long road in figuring out how to do it, and thers alot of twists and turns. And its not always simple and easy. But its finding the faith and hope and courage deep within us to keep taking those steps forward to learning about ourselves that will make US WHO WE WANT TO BE! With all this we become more compassionate I think. I hope this all makes sense. Thanks for listening.

Hugz~
Bethy

I often have trouble hearing constructive criticism. To me, it sounds more like the people that are trying to help me out are actually trying to hurt me. I guess you could say I'm very sensitive to anything.

I do have to find a way to distance myself from the hurt but at the same time, try to utilize what is being said to me.

Lex that is exactly what we need to do to grow . Thanks for seeing what I meant in my post!!

I also want to say that even though we do use constructive criticism sometimes, it doesnt mean that we arent being supportive or loving of that person. More than likely its the total opposite! We do love and care and want to be supportive... but we just see things in a different light.

Hugz~
Bethy

Thanks Bethy. I agree with everything that you said.

I guess it's also important to try to gauge the timing. I think my big mistake is not recognizing when someone is SO hurt that they can't deal with even the most gentle differing perspective, even if made in the spirit of trying to soothe what seems to be the obvious issue. A differing perspective can be the straw that breaks the camel's back, no matter how strong that person normally is.

Sad when it happens, and I am learning that honesty is not the best policy unto itself. Honesty + TIMING have to go hand-in-hand.

Good post, Bethy

I know sometimes it is hard to hear constructive criticism without feeling hurt. It is easy to misunderstand the intent of the person who has given the advice and instead of taking it the way it was intended feeling bad instead of good about yourself. I think we all could take a step back at times and reevaluate how the people are trying to help us without getting defensive. I think this is a good point to bring up as it often surfaces in a negative context.