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Jan 29, 2006, 02:36 PM
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Hi everyone, I need your help.
Long story short, my cousin has been diagnosed with a stage 2 cancer. The news he keeps getting isn't great, but we're trying to remain hopeful. He starts chemo tomorrow and is feeling somewhat sad. We're trying to do everything we can to help take his mind off of things. We've sent cards, but I would like to do something different. Anyone have any good ideas on things to do to show him we support him and we're thinking of him? He's in Missouri and we're in Ohio, but I thought sending him care packages and other things would be nice while he is away from home receiving treatment. Thanks for any ideas you may have. I would really appreciate them.
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Jan 29, 2006, 02:59 PM
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1day,
Letting your cousin know you're thinking about him and you care is wonderful, whether it be by phone or cards. At the moment I can't think of anything more creative, but wanted you to know I'm sending warm thoughts to you and your cousin. 
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Jan 29, 2006, 04:53 PM
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Thank you, Azalysa. We're doing the cards and he has said he didn't know how much a card could mean, but I want to do more. I appreciate your support.
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Jan 29, 2006, 05:03 PM
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books on tape. He's going to be very tired most of the time and won't have alot of energy for reading books.
hook him up with a food service in his area like meals on wheels that bring food to him so that he does not need to go shopping on the days he isn't feeling too good. Take over payments on a bill or two. send him DVD's (or VHS tapes depending on which type of movie player he has) |
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Jan 29, 2006, 05:03 PM
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I don't know if you have access to a tape recorder but when my brother was in the hospice I would just talk into the tape, fill him in on what was going on, or tell silly jokes.
Sometimes if people were visiting, I just turned it on and let it record. Some of those were hysterical. If he is going for outpatient chemo then you could find out what music he likes and send along some CD's. Sitting there getting chemo can take a while and headphones and a CD player help. |
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Jan 29, 2006, 05:11 PM
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I will have to see about the books on tape. Maybe my cousin can pick up a few from Cracker Barrel. They're so cheap to rent. That way he can listen to a bunch.
He won't need cooking as they're staying at a house near the hospital and that is all taken care of. Can't pay his bills from Ohio (or financially either), but good idea.
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Jan 29, 2006, 05:14 PM
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Miss Petunia, I could just kiss you!
We have a tape recorder as well as a video camera. We could send him a video or two of people around the farm. We did that for my grandparents when we lived in Virginia. They got a big kick out of it since they couldn't visit. The dogs...the lambs, I'm sure he'd love to see it all. Awesome idea!Good idea with the cds too. I will ask his sister what she recommends.
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Jan 29, 2006, 05:24 PM
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Sunshine baskets are nice. They contain a wrapped gift for each day he is in hospital or away from home, even while he is home. The gifts need not be expensive just fun, distracting types. For example, day one, he might open up a coloring book and crayons (if he likes to color), day two might be a favorite cologne, day three could contain a barrel of monkeys, etc. Things you guys did as children to evoke memories of pleasant times, silly things to bring a smile, even if he would not actually play with it. Hope that helps. You are in our thoughts.
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Jan 29, 2006, 06:49 PM
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Erin~ Being the scrapbooker here i suggest a journal for him . Like get a brown back journal with plain lined pages for him to journal his frustrations , anger ,hurts, and even good days when he has them in there. Get some stickers to help him show his feelings of that day . It will give him something hands on that he can do and it wont be hard .
Also this would be something neat for people who come to visit him can put a message in to him wishing him well if you want to get a separate journal.Just a thought. I will be keeping all of you in my thoughts and prayers. If I think of anything else I will let you know. Hugz~ Bethy
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Jan 29, 2006, 08:28 PM
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Good idea wantsto! My mom is known for those types of things. We will get to work on some things for him. Maybe even a basket of cards for each day. A card from someone different each day. Thank you!
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Jan 29, 2006, 08:30 PM
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Thank you, Beth for your suggestions. I'm not too scrapbook-ly gifted, but the stores make it very easy these days. I will definitely check out what they have at the stores to see if it there are things he could use.
Thanks doll.
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