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Jan 30, 2006, 02:31 AM
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just thought this was nice. And very true.
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Jan 30, 2006, 02:49 AM
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the question is... "why?"
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Jan 30, 2006, 03:55 AM
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Because they care about you, otherwise it wouldn't hurt.
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Jan 30, 2006, 06:54 AM
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Hi folks! Is the sun out today?
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Jan 30, 2006, 10:37 AM
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The SUN is trying to SHINE.... but the dark clouds are growing stronger.
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Jan 30, 2006, 01:22 PM
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Nice and bright here! Not a cloud in the sky!
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Jan 30, 2006, 02:36 PM
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You hurt the ones you love because no one else gets close enough to be hurt by you, is what they say.
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Jan 30, 2006, 05:22 PM
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no, I meant, why do people hurt those they love?
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Jan 30, 2006, 05:36 PM
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Ummm... I'm not so sure about that. There are some people that you just can't get next to because they're always angry or spiteful. Those kind of people MAY have family that love them, but I'll bet they don't have anyone else!
There are plenty of people in my life that I am indifferent towards or are indifferent towards me that can't hurt me, at least, not emotionally, like my ex husband. I still see him and talk to him at the grandkids' birthday parties but because I don't care what he thinks of me or what I do, he can critize me all he wants and it doesn't hurt. He can call me the names he used to call me when we were married and now I would just laugh. I also have acquaintances whose opinion doesn't matter one iota to me, so they can rag on me all they want and it's not going to hurt me. Now, what my kids and my husband think of me, say to me, do to me, if it's not nice, THAT HURTS because I love them and I care what they think.
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Jan 30, 2006, 11:48 PM
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I personally think that people who hurt their loved ones are experiencing some sort of anger with in them selves. I think the people who cause the hurting onto others, are deeply hurting on the inside, and are obvisouly in turmoil with themselves.
I think that the people who cause pain are hurting so bad internally, that they hurt others so they can hurt as well. It's selfishness. I know some make mistakes......but some will always hurt, and hurt their loved ones to fill the void. It's sad.....and disturbing at the same time. Desirae
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Jan 31, 2006, 03:56 AM
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I think sometimes you don't intend to hurt the people you love, but your focus is just so narrow, so resrictedm that you can't see the effect your actions might have on others. Additionally, sometimes family or friends hurt because they notice that you are hurting, and you wish that you could just take away their pain, but you can't and you feel like all you do is hurt people. So you push them away, or try to hide how you are feeling and sometime that hurts them even more.
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#12
Jan 31, 2006, 04:11 AM
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lightanddark i think your have a very good point there...
my mum told me a while ago i've been snapping at the least critic she gives me and that i take things way to personal these days... I don't think i do... But as you said mayby i just can't see that i do... Anyway just wanted to say you've got a good point there!
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Jan 31, 2006, 04:27 PM
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No, you're misunderstanding the meaning of what "they" say (whoever they is, LOL). "Those who are close to you" doesn't mean "people who are around you or in your life" hurt you, but "people who mean something to you and who you care about" hurt you. Nevertheless, I'm not stating it as fact, but as something "they" say.
 I can't say completely why we hurt the ones we love, but I can say that I hurt people sometimes because I stand up for my beliefs and believe in being true to myself. People who I love who disagree with me aren't always accepting of my beliefs, and don't understand my beliefs, and because of their beliefs, they hurt when I don't do what they think I should do. I also hurt some people in trying to protect myself. I don't handle being "trapped" well at all, because of things that happened to me while I was young, and sometimes people think I'm being mean or cold when I'm just trying to breathe and stave off a panic attack.
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