[SeptemberMorn]

Aaaahhhhhh!! I'm missing my baby girl!!!! How's the move coming, Sweetie? Are you taking it easy? Don't go getting feisty and do too much, you hear?

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Yeah, yeah... I borrowed your hugs. hehehe

He's making a list and checking it twice...

[penna]

hmmm. would this possibly have been more appropriate as a PM?

[SeptemberMorn]

Why? I'm sure I'm not the only one missing her!

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[penna]

your message is directed at a single person. i just sort of see a public forum like this as a place to share information or seek feedback or input from the entire membership of the board, not a place to send greetings to friends. but perhaps i'm off-base in my interpretation of a forum.

[PlanningtoLive]

hi Penna,

whenever one of us is concerned about the other, or they have been "missing" from the board for awhile, we do this. Check back and you will see many of them.

It actually is a tribute to the fact that we care about one another.

Mary Alice

[Foolish]

I agree with Penna with how this would be more appropriate as a PM because I go back to my "Leaving People Out" Idea. It's totally singling out one person and makes others feel left out.

Ian

Death Calls Us All, How Long We Prolong It Is Our Choice

[SeptemberMorn]

Thanks, Mary Alice.

I love how you put it: "It actually is a tribute to the fact that we care about one another."



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[penna]

yes, i've seen these before and they have always annoyed me because i don't feel they add anything to any discussion.

i just don't think anything that isn't either sharing information that might be useful for people on the board generally or a request for information or advice on a problem many people might also be having is not appropriate for a public forum.

perhaps we could ask doc john to add another section specifically for posts like this so that people can still do public displays of concern for each other without detracting from the informative natrure of the other boards.

[Foolish]

That's a good call. I should have thought of that myself.

Ian

Death Calls Us All, How Long We Prolong It Is Our Choice

[PlanningtoLive]

If someone's name is the subject matter, it obviously is a clue that the post is directed to them. You certainly have the choice on whether to read it or not.

Down grading the post should not be permitted because people willingly read what is not directed towards them......I stand by my remark about caring for each other. It is one reason I am here.

Again, if you or Foolish don't want to see them, why click on them unless your name is there?

[PlanningtoLive]

Yw, Sept.

xoxoxox

[Foolish]

Your missing the point about excluding people. Another issue comes to mind, your taking up space. If I was to write those kinds of posts and everyone started writing them we'd have 100 million posts about missing people on here. Just PM em. PM's are also more personal so maybe they would enjoy knowing that people took the time to write to them individually.

Ian

Death Calls Us All, How Long We Prolong It Is Our Choice

[LadyDragus]

I have been wondering how she is doing also..
Have you heard anything from her..

I know you two talked a great deal.
missing her too..

Keep us updated..

<font color=red>And if you want to leave it here, then do that..
Open forum.. this is genearl about anything and that includes worries about a member and a freind..


This is an open fourm all, Take my adivce if you do nto want to look at one persons name do not look at the post..
If you want concern for yourself open up, and we will help..
BUT DO NOT GET UPSET IF WE ARE CONCERND ABOUT ANOTHER MEMBER OF THIS FOURM...
THIS IS OUR RIGHT, AND WE WILL SHOW IT NO MATTER WHAT..


<font color=purple>The way to love anything is to realize that it might be lost.
- G.K. Chesterton
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[yokus]

Hi Ozzie. I just wanted to tell you that I loved the poem and I'm proud to call your daughter my niece. Love ya

[SeptemberMorn]

Of course you would, Ian! Why am I not surprised??

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[LadyDragus]

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ok first off this is General, we can post to others, we can post to ourselves.. This fourm is for just that..

if I wanted to ask about you, I would not pm you, for someone else may hva ebeen in contact with you, and you told them to tell others if they ask, that is what we do..
We care about others, not just ourselves..
I ahve stayed quite long eough NO MORE>>

<font color=purple>The way to love anything is to realize that it might be lost.
- G.K. Chesterton
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[SeptemberMorn]

Lady D, thanks for being so caring and thoughtful. Yes, Heather and I communicate every day. She's right in the middle of her move right now. She told me that she won't have her phone service in her new place until tomorrow.

It's very difficult for her right now because of so many things going on. You know she lost her mother last year at Christmas time, she's having health problems, she's very energetic but confined to bed rest and in the middle of moving. I wanted her to see when she came back that we were thinking about her because I know I'm not the only one concerned about her and missing her. She's very well loved... but then, it's so easy to love her.

Thanks again for caring, {{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{Lady D}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}

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[darkeyes]

I agree, it is a way of communicating often as a whole, rather than just a PM, and it is a General forum.
Anyone with a complaint of how the General forum is used should take it up with one of the admins.
Thanks
DE

In giving advice seek to help, not please your friend
SOLON

[LadyDragus]

excatly, hence why I brought it up like that.

<font color=purple>The way to love anything is to realize that it might be lost.
- G.K. Chesterton
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[LadyDragus]

No I did not know she lost her mom last Chirstmas, that was before I met her.. but now I know I will even worry more aobut her, since that time of year is coming upon us very fast indeed..

Tell her I wish her well, and i hope to see her back on after the move is done..

Missing Heather and others are always on my mind..
Not seeing a daily post, sometimes gets forgotten, but then when somone who truly cares and can recall the last time they posted helps me out more than you know..


<font color=purple>The way to love anything is to realize that it might be lost.
- G.K. Chesterton
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[DocJohn]

A final clarification.

It is natural to ask this question and I think it's a fair question that deserves a simple answer.

The answer is that as a community, we often worry about others. While a PM might be answered and might be appropriate, it's also fine to ask on the General forum about others. There is nothing wrong about it.

If you have additional questions about specific topics that may or may not be appropriate to this or any other forum, feel free to PM or email me.

Best,
DocJohn

[mj14]

First, DocJohn, I apologize for replying after you...as a rule, I think you should always have the last word, but my dismay compels me to respond. I hope you can forgive me.

Penna and foolish, as DocJohn has said, this is a General forum, and people are free to post whatever they want here. I did check, and the "shout out" posts show up only in the General section, so if you are seeking help, perhaps it would be better to stick to the subject oriented forums.

Now, on the other hand, the responses I have read here leave me dismayed. The true test of our compassion is not in how we treat our friends, but in how we treat those we don't even know. Penna expressed her feelings that these interpersonal posts make her feel left out, and the response was that these posts show how much we care. But how much caring does that show to penna and her feelings? Or is it only our "friends'" feelings that matter?

In the end, what DocJohn said it absolutely true, and this is not about what should be allowed, or what is appropriate. But I would have hoped that there would be a little more compassion for all the people on this forum...not just those who are part of our "circle". My heart is sick with what I have read here today.

mj

[SeptemberMorn]

MJ, we can't always take everybody's feelings into consideration. My main intent was for Heather to see that she had been missed. Although I'm sorry that it makes someone uncomfortable, I can't help what others feel. Maybe if Penna posted more, this person would be better known and missed more. If Ian wasn't such a hostile person, I might have posted to him wondering where he was. However, I never post to these people. There's lots of other people I don't post to and many that don't post to me, but I don't feel sorry for myself or nitpick because someone doesn't miss me. That's life!

What makes me sick is that my welcome to Heather has been turned into yet another bone of contention for absolutely no reason. If I was a whiner, I would be whining about my thread being fouled by a couple of people that don't like me. Yeah, they've annoyed me to no end, but I hope they think how Heather is going to feel tomorrow or the next day when she comes back and sees this thread. It's like she doesn't rate being missed after all the other "shout out" posts to everybody else!

And by the way, they aren't just on the General category. There were a bunch posted on Anxiety earlier this morning after this thread turned sour!!

Other mods posted that this is the place to do what I did, Doc John did also... maybe you should have just left it alone, you think?

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[Foolish]

Ripping up MJ? Myself... yea. So who's become hostile now? I don't mind if you dump and trash on me but MJ doesn't have [censored] to do with this at all and gave her opinion, so if you didn't like it you don't need to point out every flaw you think she has in her post and tell the world. Not everyone gives a crap what you have to say. Shut it in.

Ian

Death Calls Us All, How Long We Prolong It Is Our Choice

[SeptemberMorn]

So you have freedom of speech but I don't??? You know where you can put that! Like you said earlier.. 'LET IT GO! GET OUT OF MY THREAD!