[wisewoman]

Strarted first class tonight toward re-licensing for foster care. We want to do what is called a legal risk adoption which means that if child is freed for adoption we could keep him or her. We really are looking for a small baby but will foster up to 2.5 or 3 yr olds and consider adoption. I am so excited but it's weird to be excited because someone else has misfortune and can't care for their child.

[EJ711]

It's good to be excited. It's an exciting time.

Keep up posted.

EJ

[SleepsWithButterFlies]

Lucky baby lucky you...but man I hope youre up to it I like 8 y/o's best they behave more

WISEWOMAN

[Lexicon78]

wisewoman, I think you are doing such a wonderful thing! You should be very proud!

It is unfortunate that so many people are unable to care for their children, but they should be grateful for wonderful people like you!

[katheryn]

[desirae]

I'm really happy for you, you have such a large heart and so much love, and what ever child is lucky enough to come in your home will be extremely lucky.

[bipolar_bear]

That is wonderful. It is great a child is going to come into such a loving home.

[wisewoman]

Thank you for your kindness and confidence. I wrote a long post a minute ago and lost it. Here goes. Our youngest daughter, 18 has been begging us to do this for years. We have been unable due to husband's deferred sentence and waiting for it to be purged. Long story but he got in trouble over school choice.

So daughter went to training with us and will continue. She wanted to:"design the nursery". This is funny because our children slept with us and we had non of the contraptions of today's baby. She wanted to get a changing table. I said no, we will use the dresser and I will put a lip and pad on it. She wanted to totaly paint the room but we said no way as we painted it a year ago. She is painting the trim. We are getting a crib from a friend but we need a mattress. She is worried about not knowing what size kid we will get and wanted diapers of all sizes.

Anyway, it is humerous at best. She will also pick the flooring. She is so motivated. She is doing the designs and posters, pictures.

We moved the big bed down to daughter's room, we will move her twin bed upstairs to "nursery". What we are hoping for is a baby who can be freed for adoption. We also wish to take special needs babies like with C.P., feeding tubes. I am comfortable with medical issues and care. We would like to be licensed for 3-4. The future will show us what the plan is. We have another room currently used as a studio.

So we have work to do, the inspector comes friday morning but classes for re-licensing don't end till May. I can't stop thinking of baby stuff. I dug out the special clothes we kept. Put them in the wash. Dug out some toys. Bought 3 sizes of diapers at dollar store today. I never really told anyone but we have not tried NOT to get pregnant for 4 years. We can't have more children. But we can adopt and foster.

I am so excited I can't stand it. We have some things coming from freecycle. I never kept the big stuff like blankets. Never used bottles, need formular and a bottle warmer which I have no clue how to use. Daughter is telling me about what bottles are best.

So, we are up for an education on many issues.

Thanks for all of the kind wishes. Lets hope kids are safe and loved in their homes. But when they can't be, let's hope they can come to us. Thanks.

[Rapunzel]

I think it is wonderful that you are doing this. There are babies and children who need homes and somebody to love them for their whole life. You'll be great.

I don't know if I could do the mother of small children routine again, but I've always had a secret with for one more chance, and to be able to look forward to it and enjoy it for once, and to decorate a room for a baby and make it a calm, peaceful place that feels good to be in.

Don't forget to keep us updated!

Rap

Glad to hear this and wish you well the one thing this world definately needs is more foster parents. Having a child in the system right now I know that in alot in fact a magority of foster homes are over the quota for number of children in that home due to lack of available foster parents.

[bebop]

this sounds exciting. My hubby and I talked about adopting but at this age I just don't know anymore. I will be 49 in June so that is holding me back. I hope you get what you want hon!! good luck

[wisewoman]

bebop, you are never too old. You could start out as a foster parent and adopt if the opportunity presented it'self. We are also almost 50 and our kids are grown, including the adopted one. We are probably nuts to do it again but I am so excited!

[bebop]

wisewoman gosh I didn't know we are about the same age. The agency I have spoken with had a couple in the husband is like 72 and the wife in her late 50's early 60 going to adopt. you kind of renew my ideas lol good luck hon

[wisewoman]

Second class tonight, worker comes Friday. Daughter painted trim for: "the nursery". We picked out the floor and picked out a lot of odd clothes from a second hand store. Daughter says the theoretical baby needs theoretical diaper rash ointment and bottles etc.

So I am excited, it is a really difficult place to be as anyone who knows about child protective services. We will see as time goes by.

Floor is in tomorrow, crib gets picked up, Need other stuff, gives us something to do. Take care.

[bebop]

sounds like fun wise!!

[jennie]

Can't focus on the negative . . . it's truly a blessing . . . you be happy and excited . . . can't prevent every bad thing happening to innocent children in this world . . . but if you are blessed with a child, then you can nurture, provide a safe environment, and love him/her unconditionally. rejoice in that.

[jmo531]

Wow, such a great thing you are doing. It's such a loving thing. I commend you for this. There needs to be more just like you.

[wisewoman]

Oh my, I am not generous or selfless. I want to have young children in my life. I also want to work with small kids with disabilities because I am very good at that stuff. But I want a few regular baby babies to adopt and fill my heart and home.

I became obsessed with getting the room done today. Really it's crazy because we won't be licensed till May but I was thinking that with the inspector coming tomorrow that I would show that we are ready and maybe if a child came along she would think of us as we are so well prepared.

My daughter tiled the entire room today except for the closet, which I did. We got the mop board urethaned and up. Daughter painted trim yesterday. Lots of moving and shaking and my family is a little upset with me for wanting it all done so quickly. I do get obsessed at times and I used to be more able to do all of these things quickly when I was younger.

Daughter having issues with change as she has full size bed now. It is really knocking her off her game. I need to get her a dust ruffle and maybe a bed in a bag so she feels freshly introduced to the double bed.

She put the clothes and blankets away and kept talking about bottles and formular, nucks, EVERYTHING!

The change is hard for her but she is excited. She picked the tile and she says she really does like the room.

I even have baby monitors. So, everyone send wonderful baby thoughts to me because we are ready for 2-3-4. Who knows.

Thank you all kind souls.

[January]

Oh Wise!!!

I am sending prayers for you, your family and your babies!!!!

Hugs,

Jan

[eskielover]

Wisewoman,

This is very exciting for you. It is wonderful when someone like you, who is so full of love & care for people can put it into something like this. There are so many children out there that need good parents.....who have parents that can't care for them for many reasons. It is especially hard for some people to be able to care for special needs children too that they feel it necessary to give them up. The world is a better place with people like you who know how to love & give the care that is needed.

You have gone through so much over the past year (& longer).....it is great that you have realized that this is the direction you want your family life to go in, & with your daughters enthusiasum (?), it pulls the whole family together. I am very excited for you & your family to be able to give so much of yourself to a child that so needs the kind of love you & your family have for others.

Keep us posted........I am so happy for this to be a part of your life now.
Debbie

[wisewoman]

Lady from the agency just left. A lot of the questions that were on the app wanted what I consider personal medical and psycological information. They even send a note to your doc now wondering if the doc thinks you can do it. Oh geez! I have to call them before they send anything out. We are all set now, just need to sit and wait. Thanks Deb.

[bebop]

so are you done with your classes too? good luck hon!

[wisewoman]

Not yet, till May. Also will apply to another agency. Thanks for all of the well wishes.