Seeing the Big Picture-- what?

Sigh* I feel really "slow right now" with trying to understand this-- what is the big picture ...

Perhaps this can not be answered with a general broad question....

I don't want to ramble on with this but I just don't get -- What is the Big Picture-- I ask that and I can come up with a few "big pictures" ones that are from one extreme to another......

One that makes me feel a little better is sadly the one that comes to the conclusion that Nothing Really matters then right?

As Just posted a little bit ago in my other problematic Thread:
It makes me feel better to the fact of it supports that bad thinking of mine some days of -- Throw away these emotions what good are they any ways? which I do realize is not a healthy -- due to we need emotions to some extent.

It makes me feel sad/down at the same time due to- It is like with this idea of "the big picture" every emotion I feel has no validation-- which is not good just as it sounds....

I will continue to think on- what is the big picture.... however there are at times I think-- this is like asking what is the meaning to life-- there could be so many answers, but nothing of absolute....

Perhaps I again and Boarding of what this means, and not being specific.. or taking the words to another literal sense-- but then I can tunnel visions it as well... where is the grey that I see at times, I am having problems finding it right now--- perhaps it will hit me here soon...

But some thoughts may help from others as well...

Maybe I should try to use this "big picture" on another simplistic problem? Perhaps then I would get it? Maybe....





may be-- the big picture is that I am allowing my conscious fear of mine (that of being re-traumatized) to be a big factor of not wanting to get hurt again, and seeing that with what had happened I had felt a little "re-traumatized" that is a big factor here, I am just protecting myself right now even more so than I was before with the fear? maybe.. but isn't that still a "small big picture"....

Patience

Start with the little picture; what is happening right now, right this instance. Right now/"this" instance is that you are afraid of being re-traumatized by reading this response to your post, by "me" and what I have to say. I might say something that will trigger you to be reminded of your trauma and you will feel those horrible feelings again.

The big picture for that is that you have been in this situation where you were afraid of being re-traumatized 8,204,685 times and only been seriously re-traumatized as a result, 5 times (I'm making up numbers here, obviously), so, the chances of you being re-traumatized that way are only 1 in 1,640,937. Since the odds are that good; you might be able to get yourself to risk reading this response without cringing as you do so?

The big picture is all the stuff you know about a situation, not just the part where you are focused on what you are afraid of in that situation. It's reminding yourself that there is a "more" to the story, not just the fear. It is realizing that if you are re-traumatized, you have been re-traumatized 5 times before and lived through it; it felt horrible but you survived.

Think about "this" situation, you have to look at where you are (on PC) and who you are reading ("me") and what you know about the site and its re-traumatizing you and about Me, Perna, and if reading my posts usually scares you or not, how you have felt in the past about situations like this one, not like the traumatizing one. It's shifting your perspective from the trauma to the "not trauma" and from the "this" to the "in general"/overall/bigger picture of your experiences throughout all of you life.

Thanks George and Perna...

So, Perna, it is like "the probability of events that may happen"- I don't mean to see life with numbers but some times I do-- the probability of being re-traumatized is at a ration of blank to blank..

PC I don't see as real re-traumatizing, yes I may get triggered but that is going to happen- I trigger myself sometimes with thinking/memories which I work better on as time goes by.....

This real life event however, the probability as I see it now, i do see it about 50/50- with small triggers that would occur due to the past encounters they have been there about 90% of the time, but bigger triggers of the 50/50 being actually placed back in the situation of re-trauma to an extent--- if that makes sense..

I think I may be getting the big picture thing, but i don't think fully fully....

And as always it is good to remember what you mention Perna:
and hopefully take something away from those 5 times as well