I could scream!!

So, I have told a bit about what is going on in my life in different forums. It seems like when I can handle one thing that is occirong, another will pop up to take it's place. I am so fed up with my life and almost all that are in it.O have one son get out of prison, I have another may be going to prison. My son that just came home has bipolar and flipped out on me, we get it straight and find out someone close to me is dying. Now, I have a migraine and went to get an imitrex to take for it, find the whole dang bottle gone. So, I go to youngest sons room to get one of his and all of his are gone too. This is not the first time meds have disappeared around here. Before it was 2 bottles 90 count .5 Xanax. But to take migraine relief meds? What good are they going to do any one. Not sure who it is that is taking the meds in the house. And it is not like we leave them laying around. I used to hide mine in my bedroom, Xanax came up missing, so now all my meds are in my purse. I carry it everywhere, even to the restroom here in the house. My son has a combination safe. Only him and I are supposed to know the combination. Boyfriends kids are the most likely culprit. One is a liar and thief and admits it. The other has recently discovered he can make money selling pills. I know this because he was telling me how much he could get if he had some. Boyfriend won't listen to me about one of them taking our meds. Even if he did listen, he won't do anything. His kids have even said they wished that he would punish them sometimes. He never reacts to anything they do. I am just going to have to suffer through this migrain. Throwing up and all. No rife to the hospital for a shot.

OMG -- I'm so sorry. I've had a handful of migraines, and I don't want anymore. They are the MOST PAINFUL horrible things I've ever had! I have wanted to kill myself duriing one of them just to get rid of the pain! I'm so sorry you're having to go thru this. I just don't understand these kids. Well, in a way i do, because I'm a recovering alcoholic and they're taking pills to hide from the pain too just like I was drinking to hide from pain.

I sure hope something can be done to get some peace around your house. As it is right now, it sounds like there's nothing but chaos, and NO ONE can live like that continually. Tell boyfriend he's got to start taking part in this whole mess!

I wish I could help you but I don't know all the circumstances as to the father's of these kids, etc. Are the involved with the kids or what?

Best of luck and God bless. Please take care of YOU. Hugs, Lee

Ugh, LostMom3,

Migraine headaches are horrible! I take Maxalt for mine ~ a person is only allowed to take 30 mg's in a 24 hour period because the medication may increase blood pressure to very high levels. The meds can be dangerous, so be sure that you and your son keep a very close watch on all of your medications.

You are in a very negative and unsafe environment, please do get out now. You need to take care of yourself. How old is your son? Are there alternative places for him to go to and be safe?

My son is 16. His grandmother is in hospital with stage 4 cancer, not to expected to make it more than a few days. His father is in jail for drug charges. There is no where I can send him, if he would even leave me. I am waiting on SSI checks to start and move back to my hometown. There is more help to be had. Thank you. I am going to get away before it gets bad. My 20 yr old son has not left my side in a week. He is worried about me

Thank God you have your 20yr old son. I'm glad you have SOMEONE. You can do all this on your own!

Is the grandmother YOUR mother or his father's mother? At any rate, I'm sorry. Is the 16yr old close to his grandma? Will he be hurt badly when she's gone?

I REALLY wish I was there to help you. I'm pretty good with teens. But keep posting -- you need someone to talk to and an outlet. God bless my friend, and please take care of YOU. Hugs, Lee

His grandmother is his fathers mother but she is the one that got all the visitations as his father was too wrapped up in drugs. He has been very depressed this week. sleeping from the time he gets home from school until time for school the next day. I am having to keep a constant watch on him. If I am not, his older brother is. We are a very close family.
As for my boyfriends kids, their are 4 boys ages 14, 16, 18, and 20. The mother gave up custody and voungest was 6 months old. He has raised them alone. He is very lenient with them, where I am very strict with mine. His youngest stole some of my panties and had them in his room, I found them and all Faf said was keave her things alone. I was LIVID. My 20 year old wanted to take a belt to his back side.

Oh good grief. For one thing, the 20 yr old shouldn't be allowed to discipline this child, because HIS idea of discipliine is abuse!! he could go to jail for that, and YOU would get in trouble for allowing it!

I do not like hands on punishment. I never touched my children cause I never HAD to, and I don't believe in it anyway. If they're brought up right, you don't need to.

I know his kids got a rough start, and their father is very lenient. Now with you being strict, they're going to rebel and rebel BIG TIME. But you are going to HAVE to have the backing of your boyfriend. He's GOT to back you up when you discipline the kids. Or else HE will have to discipline them the SAME WAY that YOU do. Because his idea of discipliine is NOT to discipline them and that's not going to work. The kids will run rampant, and all heck will break loose.

You need to have a talk with the 14 yr old to see why he stole your panties. it will be a difficult talk, but ask him if he feels more comfortable in women's clothes. Ask him if he feels more like a girl than a guy. Tell him there's no SHAME in how he feels. Tell him he's not alone, as there are thousands if not millions of guys who are going thru the same thing.
You'll find the right words when you get to talking.

You have a big job ahead of you with these kids, but I think you can do it. You sound like a pretty level headed woman, so just keep posting, and praying! LOL God bless and keep us posted, ok? Hugs, Lee

I did not say he say my 20 yr old did or would disciplne my boyfriends son in any way. Just that he wanted to. My idea of punishment is taking the cell phone for 2 weeks and grounding to the house for two weeks. My boyfriend grounds and then lets them out of it the same day. When my things are stolen, nothing is said and there is no punishment. So, yes. My son WANTED to do some punishing, but would do nothing. my son has been in trouble for stealing. But he says you do not steal from those at home. Well used to say that. He was much younger then. He has changed. I tried to talk to his son about why he took my panties and the other females panties(he has a large collection) he denies taking any. Even though I found my panties in there and my youngest son found some of his girlfriends in there. There is no talking to him. He will lie quicker than he will breath. and Dad will just say ok to avoid the fight.