[Anonymous32445]

Hi

Once again, I feel like I'm not going to make any changes in life; I literally demand so much in life. I'm not really in the mood to list what these are, however at a later date if I feel better I'll probably be able to tell you more about what sort of things I feel that I should have in my life.

There are so many aspects, it's as if the list is infinite.

I've lost motivation, a few months ago I thought I knew what was stopping me from achieving goals and making a new start but now I've started to doubt my research and now I'm starting to wonder to myself whether I should start again.

But, I don't know what to do. I've emailed the local branch as part of the National Autistic Society (I have Autism) and they told me they weren't aware of any services regarding therapy or counselling.

I should just give my doctor a call and make an appointment, but the trouble with me is that I constantly forget to do things. I always say that I am going to do something and nothing ever gets done. My life is one big nasty habit.

[Anonymous32445]

I can't go on like this, I just can't. I always say I need to change but me being me nothing EVER happens. NOTHING changes. It's all MY fault. I have only MYSELF to blame.

[Anonymous32445]

I can bet you my entire bank account that by the end of November that I will have made no changes whatsoever in my life.

[Anonymous32445]

Also, I've tried posting messages on "Ask the Therapist" and I can never find any of my replies on there. Everyone else seems to get a reply but me. I've tried so many times and NOTHING. NOTHING.

[Hellion]

That is similar to how I feel, it kind of seems like no matter how hard I try there never is any help, or I have trouble doing the things I need to do in order to find it. I'm on the autism spectrum as well as far as I know...trying to get it officially diagnosed and my mom may have found someone who can help.

But yeah I'm 23, makes me feel stupid that I cant just do these things on my own....also since I can't hold a job I am trying to get on SSI but of course it seems to take a ridiculous amount of time to get anything done diagnoses/therapy wise to put on record to be approved for SSI. That is one option you could potentially consider since I think autism qualifies one if the state or whatever determines it prevents you from holding a job....so that may be something to look into. But yeah I have a hard time really finding any actual help to so not sure what to suggest there.

[Anonymous32445]

Originally Posted by Hellion

That is similar to how I feel, it kind of seems like no matter how hard I try there never is any help, or I have trouble doing the things I need to do in order to find it. I'm on the autism spectrum as well as far as I know...trying to get it officially diagnosed and my mom may have found someone who can help.

But yeah I'm 23, makes me feel stupid that I cant just do these things on my own....also since I can't hold a job I am trying to get on SSI but of course it seems to take a ridiculous amount of time to get anything done diagnoses/therapy wise to put on record to be approved for SSI. That is one option you could potentially consider since I think autism qualifies one if the state or whatever determines it prevents you from holding a job....so that may be something to look into. But yeah I have a hard time really finding any actual help to so not sure what to suggest there.

What's SSI?

[Leed]

My friend, you CAN make changes. Believe me!!! Write yourself a BIG NOTE to call your doctor. That's what I have to do, and I leave it in the middle of the floor! LOL That way i won't forget. I'm not kiddiing! I HAVE to do this or I'll forget!!! My memory is just SHOT.

So get a large sheet of paper and write in LARGE letters CALL DOCTOR and put it in the middle of the floor. Anchor it with something so it won't get blown under the table if you walk past it or something. Put a shoe on it or something. Then you'll remember to call your doc tomorrow. OK?

This is just ONE thing I have to do cause of my stupid memory. God bless. Let me know what the doc says, ok? Hugs, Lee

[Hellion]

Originally Posted by Dark_Soldier.750

What's SSI?

Its money you get if you can't work due to a condition or disability or whatever. I am not sure what state you're in but it varies how to apply for it and what the qualifications are. So your best best would just be to look it up on google, as I cannot offer a very good description of it.

Basically you apply and give the Social Security office medical records and permission to look into them so they can determine whether your condition prevents you from working or not and can get income. Its possible to be denied especially first time you apply but there is the option of appealing it. But yeah that's the best I can explain it.

[yellowted]

getting help in the UK is harder than finding unicorn sxxt! (excuse the language) everything is set up so you give up, that way the government/ local council/social services and PCT don't have to spend money. the less they spend the more in the kitty for their bonuses!

SSI is like Disability living allowance or incapacity benefit i'm not too sure which it is most like but it is what Americans get when they can't work due to disability or ill health.

like Leed, i have to write things down to remember them, i have a big calandar in eyeshot of my bed so i can see it every morning, I write things on my arm during the day so when i go upstairs i can transfer them to the calandar, you can't forget as you always notice the writing on you arm when you change for bed!

no matter how hopeless things seem, keep fighting, you like me are in the Uk, your GP should be able to refer you for therapy, it takes time sometimes many months, but keep pushing for it, call your surgery every few days to find out has he referred you, to say you have not heard anything, have they heard anything, when will you be seen, any thing to keep the doc on his toes, the more you pester him the quicker it will happen.
for months i had a note pinned on my bedroom door and one on the fridge reminding me to bug the doctor about some tests i needed doing, persistance pays, most doctors here have a system of: the first time you mention/ask for something they ignore it, the second they talk about it, the third they actually do something about it!

if you want change you will find a way of making it happen eventually, it may take many knock backs and changes of tactic first but eventually you will get there, trust me, it has taken 4 years of fighting to get Adult services to agree to apply for a grant to adapt my home so i can get to a loo but they have now agreed, now i'm fighting to get to the exhisting loo upstairs rather than their proposed scheme which would leave me living downstairs but paying mortgage on a three bed 2 storey house!

Originally Posted by Dark_Soldier.750

I can't go on like this, I just can't. I always say I need to change but me being me nothing EVER happens. NOTHING changes. It's all MY fault. I have only MYSELF to blame.

that's how i feel sometimes as well.

end up blaming myself for everything

nothing good has changed in my life for what... 4 5 years now?

so i du understand

[Hellion]

Originally Posted by yellowted

getting help in the UK is harder than finding unicorn sxxt! (excuse the language) everything is set up so you give up, that way the government/ local council/social services and PCT don't have to spend money. the less they spend the more in the kitty for their bonuses!

SSI is like Disability living allowance or incapacity benefit i'm not too sure which it is most like but it is what Americans get when they can't work due to disability or ill health.

like Leed, i have to write things down to remember them, i have a big calandar in eyeshot of my bed so i can see it every morning, I write things on my arm during the day so when i go upstairs i can transfer them to the calandar, you can't forget as you always notice the writing on you arm when you change for bed!

no matter how hopeless things seem, keep fighting, you like me are in the Uk, your GP should be able to refer you for therapy, it takes time sometimes many months, but keep pushing for it, call your surgery every few days to find out has he referred you, to say you have not heard anything, have they heard anything, when will you be seen, any thing to keep the doc on his toes, the more you pester him the quicker it will happen.
for months i had a note pinned on my bedroom door and one on the fridge reminding me to bug the doctor about some tests i needed doing, persistance pays, most doctors here have a system of: the first time you mention/ask for something they ignore it, the second they talk about it, the third they actually do something about it!

if you want change you will find a way of making it happen eventually, it may take many knock backs and changes of tactic first but eventually you will get there, trust me, it has taken 4 years of fighting to get Adult services to agree to apply for a grant to adapt my home so i can get to a loo but they have now agreed, now i'm fighting to get to the exhisting loo upstairs rather than their proposed scheme which would leave me living downstairs but paying mortgage on a three bed 2 storey house!

Well uhh crap, I guess if the OP is in the UK SSI is kind of useless, maybe they have simular programs there? Though I've heard its difficult getting help there to not that its much more amazing int he U.S well unless you can afford it.