Half Ton Man

I agree with mlyn. My husband is in great shape, but he has other problems which I can't do anything about, and mind you I have tried everything! You really can't force another adult to do something they don't want to do (ie - go on a weight loss campaign).

Easy to say "how could she let him" but I'm sure she didn't let him -- what do you do when someone flat-out refuses help?

One of the first thing that comes into my mind after reading some of these posts (not all ) isOMG there talking about me what a miserable slob I must be, wheres the comfort food, look out stomach here it comes.
Now I know after a second thought that this isn't so , but folks this is how some ppl think, instead of saying negative stuff, support and look at the good in these ppl. I am stronger than I was 5 years ago, I won't go running for food to hide the hurt, I know I've tried (lost 59 lb) it's hard. Please have more empathy and less repulsiveness, obese ppl do care how they look to others

Maven: Yes, that TV episode was based on the tragic death of Gayle Grinds. If you do a Google search you will pull up news reports about it.

I guess one of the things that continues to baffle me, is that even in the face of volumes of genuine, clinical research done at universities and hospitals, there is a certain segment of the population that resists the idea of MO as a true disease. There are many diseases with behavioral components (skin cancer, for one) and I do not hear the kind of adjectives (i.e, "disgusting") used towards them. "You should just have stayed out of the sun".
Additionally, as has been demonstrated, we do not know who is reading this forum and if they are dealing with the disease of MO themselves, or with a famiily member.
I realize this is asking alot, however, i would encourage people everywhere to at least acquaint themselves with the scope of the disease before making a judgement about the person with the disease.

Boo Radley

My boyfriend is very overweight. I'm not really sexually attracted to him, but I still want to have sex. However, he says he doesn't have any stamina because of his weight, and I can believe that, but I also think it's depression because of his weight. I feel the same way about me.

Before I hit puberty, I could eat anything and not gain weight. Once I reached puberty, the weight started coming on. When it did, my mom and her friends said it was "baby fat," even when I was too old for it to be baby fat. I knew it wasn't baby fat from the beginning.

I feel like my body is ruined. I mean, it still works, but my skin is stretched with my fatness, and losing weight will not cause it to retract to normal status. I have stretch marks. Fat makes you look older.

I just read an article about celebrity sites in B**** magazine. It pointed out that these sites are almost exclusively focused on female celebrities (which I've noticed) and they judge them on their looks, even moreso than men. Many comment on if a female star is too fat or too skinny, often quite rudely. Our society tells women their worth is in their looks. Teen girls can buy shirts that are sexist or make them sexual objects. Abercrombie & Fitch removed a shirt from their sales that said, "Who needs brains when I have these?" because of customers being upset. Another shirt you can buy says, "I [skull-and-crossbones poison symbol to mean 'hate'] Math," which sounds kind of innocent, but it's aimed at girls, and implies girls are bad at math. There's also a shirt that says, "Your boyfriend is looking at me," which is catty. The point is, shirts like these reinforce teen girls' (and boys') message that only "hot" girls matter and girls should be in competition with each other.